How to Use the Shocker — And Really Get Her Off

Double her pleasure

I don’t think I was supposed to take the shocker seriously.

I’m pretty sure the teenage boys who introduced me to the concept were just trying to be edgy. They treated it more like a joke a real sex move.

But the guy who actually gave me the shocker proved that it could be so much more than that.

Feeling his finger slide into my butt was a breathtaking moment.

Like every other kind of buttstuff, it felt dirty and naughty. And that made it so much more thrilling.

It also felt surprisingly caring and loving, like rubbing my G-spot wasn’t good enough — he wanted to give me more pleasure than I could handle.

It was the double penetration I had secretly fantasized about, except so much less intimidating than trying it with dicks and dildos.

It made me feel really adventurous. It made him seem good with his hands, which turned me on like you wouldn’t believe.

But the way it made me come is what sealed the deal. A powerful blended orgasm that left me speechless even after it was over.

I kind of felt bad for the girlfriends of all those guys who just talked about the shocker. If they weren’t having this much fun, they were missing out.

As long as those guys had the right moves, anyway.

Because giving it to her from both ends with the wrong technique can be uncomfortable. It can be awkward enough to ruin the sexy mood that made her want to get double-stuffed in the first place. Or it can just be understimulating and not worth all the extra effort.

So, here’s what it takes to do it right. This is how you can use your fingers to give her intense pleasure and enhanced orgasms.

Don’t Actually Shock Her

Okay, so I think pretty much everyone knows that surprise anal is a bad idea.

Playfully naughty in theory, maybe. Definitely fun to fantasize about if you’ve got the right kinks. But not something you should ever do in practice.

Surprise anal is bad anal, plain and simple. It’s not going to feel good physically. Emotionally, it’s going to feel upsetting. And it’s a total violation of consent.

But I feel the need to clear that up because surprise anal is sort of implied in the name. The shocker is shocking because she’s not expecting you to slip that third finger into her.

Which is totally uncool, obviously. And you should never, ever approach it that way.

There are plenty of other things about the move that are shocking anyway. How arousing it can be. The powerful hit of pleasure when she feels everything happening at once. How much more intense an orgasm can be just because of a little anal fingering.

All of that is way more exciting than surprise anal could ever be.

Prep Her

You should work your way up to any kind of anal penetration. Your finger is slimmer than a dick, but that doesn’t mean you can just slide it in without prepping her first.

If you’re both into it, you can lick it first. Your tongue will get her warmed up and covered with lubricating spit.

Surface-level rubbing works really well too. Just make sure your finger is wet enough to make it comfortable and pleasurable for her.

A little bit of anal dirty talk helps too. It’s a good way to get her turned on for it and remind her to relax and bear down so she can take it more easily.

So, describe what you want to do to her. Tell her how much you love every single part of her butt. Tease her about being such a naughty girl for wanting anal stimulation.

And use some good anal lube to make it extra comfortable and pleasurable. I personally recommend the Slow Sex Anal Play Gel or Sliquid Sassy. Both are thick, slick, and easy to clean.

Treat Her Butt a Little Differently

You’re going to be fingering her butt and her muff at the same time. But that doesn’t mean you should finger them in the same way.

The shocker sounds like a really easy move in the abstract — just thrust with three fingers. But it actually takes a good amount of coordination and concentration.

Pleasuring both parts of her the exact same way is surprisingly hard to pull off. But that’s a good thing, because the best shocker action is going to involve two different kinds of stimulation.

If you want to give her an amazing experience, you should aim for giving her muff pleasure and keeping her butt comfortable.

You can use some of your usual techniques for her ladybits. You can tease and play around. You can crook your fingers to rub some of her more sensitive spots. You can thurst a little harder and faster.

But you’re better off avoiding the fancy stuff for the backdoor play. You don’t need to thrust hard or play around. Even just resting a finger inside her without moving it much is going to add to the experience — kind of like wearing a buttplug would.

If you can make her come by stimulating her G-spot and avoid doing anything uncomfortable to her butt, you’re doing a fine job.

Use Three Fingers Only

You might be tempted to experiment a little bit. Maybe stuff a few extra fingers in her to see if it improves her experience.

It probably won’t, though.

The basic shocker involves three fingers — index and middle finger pleasuring one spot, pinky working the other.

And there’s a very simple reason for that. It’s the optimal amount.

Two fingers lets you get a little deeper and gives you the dexterity you need to really stimulate her. One finger in her butt is enough to enhance the pleasure without making it too challenging.

Any more than that will make it worse. It makes your fingering less skillful. It makes her feel stretched out in an unpleasant way. It takes way more prep and won’t give her more pleasure to make up for it.

So, stick to three fingers. There’s a reason horny teens invented the shocker instead of bragging about Mr. Spocking girls by slipping in the ring finger along with the pinky.

Rhythm Matters More Than Speed

Double penetration is pretty intense no matter how you do it. Even with slim fingers, it’s a lot.

So, there’s really no need to go hard or fast.

Unless she’s begging you to give it to her like a piston, it’s fine to keep it gentle and kind of slow.

It’s a good rhythm that’ll get her off anyway. Instead of trying to put more power in your fingerplay, work up to a steady pace and keep it going until she can come from it. That’s the best way to blow her mind.

Never, Ever Switch

You’ve got your fingers all up in her, and that means you’ve got to be careful with them once you’re done.

Any finger that’s been in her butt can go back into it, but that’s pretty much it.

Don’t use it to pleasure her vulva. Don’t rub her clit with it. And don’t even use them to spread her lips when you’re eating her out.

That kind of cross-contamination can leave her with an infection, which is going to completely spoil the experience for her.

So, be mindful with your fingers — don’t be the one who ruins the shocker for her.

Use Two Hands if You Have To

Technically, the shocker is a one-handed move. But there’s no shame in pulling it off with two hands if that’s easier for you.

If it takes a while to get her off, using two hands will keep your ring finger from staying bent and getting sore.

It gives you more control over your angles too, which can make it more comfortable for her.

Plus, when you’re giving a two-handed shocker, you don’t have to use your pinky. Your index finger has more dexterity and reach, which means you can give her your best anal fingering moves.

Use Your Mouth if You Can

The shocker is amazing on its own. Anal and fingerplay is a fantastic combo — no complaints at all.

But there’s one thing you can do to make it even better. You can work some clit stimulation into it.

It’s really easy, too. You can use your free hand to rub her clit. You can get her to reach down and touch herself. Or you can use your thumb to do it, which is a great move — there’s something extremely attractive about someone giving three kinds of stimulation with just one hand.

But if you want her to reach the highest peaks of pleasure, you should use your mouth.

Licking her clit while your fingers are working on her is going to give her so much pleasure she might worry she can’t handle it.

It’s hot as hell. It’s stimulating as can be. And it’s a great way to make her come again after giving her a really good shocker orgasm.

Show Her What Your Fingers Can Do

I ended up marrying the guy who showed me just how good the shocker could be.

I guess that’s mostly a coincidence. It’s not like we exchanged rings because he was good at fingering me from both ends. And I most certainly did not allude to the shocker in my vows.

But I’m sure it didn’t hurt. It’s pretty much every girl’s dream to settle down with someone who’s really good with their hands.

So if you really want to impress her, that’s the way to go.

Use your tongue for sure. Work on your moves so you can pound her as best as you can. But make sure you’re giving her some top-notch finger action too.

Stroke her clit so it’s never neglected. Rub her G-spot until she comes. Show her how much pleasure you can give her butt too.

And if she’s down for it, prep her butt, give her the shocker, and make her really fall in love with your fingers.

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