How to use the law of attraction effectively in your own life

The law of attraction is always working in all areas of your life. Learn how to use this power in your own life.

In this law of attraction guide, my aim is to give you easy-to-understand information and tips for you to put the law of attraction to work in your own life, starting today to create a life you love.

The law of attraction is known as a Universal Law — It’s always present, much in the same way that gravity is always present. It’s just that this is not something we are all aware of.

I’m not a sciencey kind of person but the way it was explained to me during my training as a Law of Attraction Practitioner was that it applied quantum physics. Yep, that’s your lot for the science part.

In this post, I’m going to share what I consider to be the key important things you need to know about the law of attraction so that you can start using it effectively in your own life — Start manifesting the things you want.

This post is fairly long and in-depth. If you just want the key points as a reminder, head to LAW OF ATTRACTION KEY POINTS

LAW OF ATTRACTION GUIDE

Here’s what you’ll find in this law of attraction guide.

• The law of attraction gives you what you focus on wanted or not
• Thoughts Become Things
• 3 step law of attraction process
• The law of attraction responds to…
• Chill out and don’t get hung up on doing everything right
• The law of attraction is more of a helping hand, not a magic wand
• Tips to get the law of attraction working for you
• Create a law of attraction lifestyle
• Law of attraction and affirmations
• Law of Attraction and EFT
• Law of Attraction and Gratitude
• Law of Attraction downloads
• Law of attraction troubleshooting

The law of attraction gives you what you focus on wanted or not

This is a big law of attraction saying and I want to give you my take on it.

As a general rule, yes this is true, whatever you put your attention on is what you draw into your life whether you want it or not. However, there is a bit of a problem that many people get stuck on. Let me explain.

If you want to attract more money and you are constantly focusing on wanting more money, this theory suggests that because you are constantly focusing on money, you will attract it. Wrong for most people.

Jenny wants money but never feels like she has enough. Jenny’s focus is on the lack of money. In this case, she’s blocking money.

Alex worries about money and is focusing on it, giving it attention every day — When you worry about something, you attract the thing you don’t want — In this case lack of money.

Henry Focuses on having an abundance of money but his beliefs are that people like him never make it big and have lots of money.

SOLUTION: Focus on the things you want to attract into your life from a place of expectation and belief that they are already on their way and will definitely show up.

Imagine booking a holiday. Once you’ve booked it, you totally expect to go on that holiday, you’re excited about it and when you think about it, you’re imagining all the nice things you’ll be doing. This is the feeling you want to focus on.

Also, ask yourself what your beliefs are surrounding what you want to attract.

Work on releasing any limiting beliefs and building new beliefs that support you — I encourage you to read my Emotional Freedom Techniques Guide and How to Use Affirmations as they will really help with changing beliefs.

Thoughts Become Things

Mike Dooley from The Secret famously said Thoughts Become Things. I am a big fan and definitely think this is something to keep in mind. Our thoughts play a huge part in effectively using the law of attraction.

I’ve been asked so many times over the years if the law of attraction is just positive thinking and whilst it does play a big part, it’s not the whole picture.

I’ll talk more about this a little further down.

What you need to do — Focus on keeping your thoughts positive, fill your mind with affirmations, tell yourself positive stories, and do whatever you can to keep your thoughts positive so that they support you in attracting the life you want.

The Three-Step Law of Attraction Process

I teach a 3 step law of attraction process. I will be writing more about each of these steps and if you have any questions please just ask in the comments below.

• Step 1: Clarity
• Step 2: Raise Your Vibrations
• Step 3: Allow

Clarity — Getting super clear about what it is that you want. Sometimes this means focusing briefly on what you don’t want.

Raise Your Vibration — Think of a chart where emotions like hate, anger and fear are at the bottom — LOW VIBRATIONS and emotions like Happiness, love, and appreciation are at the top of the list — high vibrations.

You always want to be pushing your vibrations to a high level. Things like doing things you really enjoy, focusing on gratitude and affirmations all help with this.

Allow — Most of us are really good at blocking the law of attraction. The biggest way we do this is by not believing things are possible. We all collect all kinds of beliefs from the moment we are born.

Some beliefs are really useful to us and others are not, these are limiting beliefs that block us from manifesting the things we want.

Questioning beliefs, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and affirmations are all good ways of allowing.

The Law Of Attraction Responds To

There are 5 things that the law of attraction responds to and they all come back to your feelings.

Your feelings indicate your vibrations and the law of attraction can ONLY draw to you that which you are a vibrational match for.

The law of attraction responds to…

• Your thoughts
• Your feelings
• Your beliefs
• The things you say
• The things you do

Pay attention to them all. They all matter. Keep them all as positive as you can.

Chill out and don’t get hung up on doing everything right

Okay, so this is a bit of a weird one but it’s advice I give out in responses to questions about the law of attraction all the time.

People will often come to me really stressed out and say things like “I keep trying to keep my thoughts positive and focus on the things I want to attract…”

The problem is in trying to get it all right and stay positive all the time, you are actually often just stressing yourself out and that is a sure way to lower your vibrations and block what you want.

Chill out and go and do something you really enjoy. You’ve let the Universe know what you want. Get out of the way and let it come to you.

Helping hand and not so much a magic wand

The law of attraction is incredibly powerful and when you get it all together and you manifest things you want, it can definitely feel like magic but I want to encourage you to think of the law of attraction as a helping hand — A very powerful helping hand.

I’ve had far too many people contact me and say things like “I want to manifest a successful business. I do affirmations, I created a vision board, I visualize it just the way I want it but nothing shows up.

I would then ask them about what else they are doing to create a successful business and the answer is very little.

In this case, you need to be actively doing practical tasks to build your business and use the law of attraction to HELP manifest the business you want.

The bottom line is that you can’t sit around doing affirmations etc all day and expect the business to miraculously create itself and run itself.

That being said there are definitely times when all you can do is focus on the outcome you want, you can’t do anything practical, you just have to believe and focus.

Get the law of attraction working effectively for you

I hope I’ve given you a lot to think about in this post as well as some things you can start using in your life right now.

• Focus on what you want
• Keep your thoughts, feelings beliefs, the things you say and the things you do as positive as you can
• Remember the 3 steps law of attraction process — Clarity, raising your vibrations and allowing
• Chill out, enjoy life now and do things that feel good — read a book, go dancing, have a bath, play…
• Think of the law of attraction as a powerful helping hand

One final piece of advice is this — Be patient, your probably making some pretty huge mindset changes.

Enjoy experimenting with using the law of attraction, make it fun rather than needing to work.

Create a Law of Attraction Lifestyle

Now that you know the law of attraction is always working in your life, I want to encourage you to create a law of attraction lifestyle.

Remember that this is never about getting everything right or being positive all the time. It’s about making small changes to your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the things you say and the things you do and doing it consistently so that it becomes a way of life for you.

Here’s a really useful post to read HOW TO CREATE A LAW OF ATTRACTION LIFESTYLE.

Law of Attraction and Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that support you. As I mentioned earlier in this blog post, thoughts become things, so it’s super helpful to fill your mind with positive messages that will help you manifest the life you want.

I’ve created a special guide on HOW TO USE AFFIRMATIONS and here are some powerful law of attraction affirmations.

Another post that is well worth reading is AIM FOR BETTER FEELING THOUGHTS. This is especially useful when affirmations feel like a lie.

Law of Attraction and EFT

Emotional Freedom Techniques, EFT is an incredibly powerful technique to help you effectively use the law of attraction.

There’s a saying that if you’re not ALLOWING the things you want then you’re RESISTING IT. EFT helps you to let go of low emotions and limiting beliefs so that you can allow the things you want more.

It’s a super simple technique that you can learn in just a few minutes. Check out my Emotional Freedom Techniques — EFT — HOW TO TAP GUIDE

Check out these 3 Law of Attraction Tapping Scripts — These EFT scripts are designed to help you with the law of attraction.

I also have many other EFT Scripts here on the blog to give you ideas for using EFT in your own life.

Law of Attraction and Gratitude

Gratitude is your law of attraction superpower. If you only change one thing in your life, make it to focus on gratitude. It’s so incredibly powerful.

When you focus on gratitude, you become more and more of a match for attracting more to be grateful for.

Here are some fantastic blog posts to help you add more gratitude to your daily life.

Law of Attraction DOWNLOADS

Visit my ETSY Shop for a variety of law of attraction guides and workbooks. I also have printable EFT script collections and much more.

Law of Attraction Troubleshooting

You’ve learned a bit about the law of attraction and you’ve been trying to manifest things you want, but nothing’s happening. What should you do? Here are some important blog posts that will help.

• What if I can’t believe in the law of attraction?
• Why can’t I get the law of attraction to work for me?

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