How To Turn Your Pain Into Power

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.” — Eckhart Tolle

Still Standing

I come from rough beginnings and struggled with depression and anxiety through adulthood. I have been through the wringer, but now I realize everything was for a bigger purpose. As I sit here, I can finally say I don’t regret anything. The abandonment, rejection, and abuse have made me a fearless fighter. But my willingness to forgive has made me more compassionate, loving, and heart-centered.

For any of you who are in pain, I deeply empathize with you. But please understand that it is only training for your destiny. The Universe, your Guides, and your ancestors would never put more on you than you can bear. The more challenging the lessons, the greater your purpose.

Below I outline a few steps you can take to turn your pain into power.

Forgive & Let Go

My loves, I know how challenging it is to let go and take the high road. But what if I told you forgiveness is the first step to true freedom? The truth is, when we choose love, love chooses us. When we embrace love over fear and bitterness, all the heavens rejoice. When we forgive, we are forgiven. Leave the past in the past, take note of the lesson learned, and let it go. When you do, you will ascend to higher levels of consciousness. Remember, everything you’ve been through was training for your future. Release the pain and trauma, so you can walk through the door to your destiny.

Acceptance

When I speak on acceptance, it is all-encompassing. To turn pain into power, we must first accept ourselves. Acceptance equals acceptance. Self-respect equals respect. Remember, in this reality, we attract what we are. If you are gracious, you will be shown grace. If you are generous, doors will open for you that no man can close.

Beyond acceptance of self, we should also accept (and learn from) everything as it comes without resistance. When we surrender and embrace life as it plays out, we tap into the power of the present moment. No matter how grim, everything is happening for us. The less we resist, the more powerful we become. Miracles and manifestations occur in the now. So, we should be brave, observe, plan and create a vision, and allow this experiment to flow naturally. The only way we can do this is through acceptance and surrender.

Reframing

Years ago, I decided to deal with painful past memories by reframing them. Rather than dwell on the negative aspects of my childhood, I focused on the positive. Mom was a singer, songwriter, poet, and an outstanding cook. She was a comedian, the life of the party, and dedicated to her personal beliefs. She spoke her truth boldly and fearlessly. She was not shy in the least. When she was present, everyone knew. She had a commanding voice and strong presence. Like me, she was a passionate fire sign, a Leo (I incarnated as an Aries).

Mom taught me to have faith and to be creative. She was highly spiritual and strong. She was the first to teach me the power of the spoken word. She demonstrated what it meant to be fearless and bold. She often took up for those who were bullied (so do I). She was the most creative person I have ever met. There is no way I would be the person I am if I didn’t have the mother I had. So, instead of being saddened about all she did wrong, I forgave her because I finally understood it was all a part of the plan.

Once we can reframe our past and accept it for what it is — we can immerse ourselves in the present. The past will keep us stuck, but love, forgiveness, acceptance, and kindness will free us. Peace & love, Ari.

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© Ari Love, 2023