How to Talk to Your Crush: Taking Chances 101

It works like a charm! Your very own super-secret technique!

Do you suffer from borderline anxiety at the thought of talking to your crush? I know I do or did for the most part in my early teenage years.

Whether it was the boys I liked or the girls I fancied.

When it came to talking to them, a panic cloud would engulf my heart away from the breaths I needed to function. Yes, I would get a panic attack.

At first, for a brief duration during my childhood. I truly believed that I was a coward because of my pre-diagnosed anxiety. Even though I felt all right. And there was no fear there. I would just all of a sudden experience this sheer underlying panic.

That would just take my breaths away. Literally! 😆

It became difficult as I grew up, especially during fights. It became kinda the anticlimactic thing to happen to you during a fistfight. Well, you can guess the aftereffects of such an event, total beatdown.

But not of me, mostly the bully, because I would take the remaining time to create a plan of action to knock the bully’s jewels to kingdom come.

Talk about a crushing defeat.

I mean if you think about it, in a positive realistic manner, everything is possible. But you need to have a goal in mind when pursuing matters of love.

You can not just walk to a girl or a guy, and say I like you, and let's be star crossed lovers.

I believe you are the one for me. Let us get married! 😻

It doesn’t work that way. It might end in your doom or worse the other person might reject you with an unwanted dismissal.

The only thing you are going to bring with you is panic and despair. And the anxiety might even cripple you within without a plan of action.

And trust me no one “wants” that.

Here is how you can create a plan of action, to create the first step in connecting with your crush.

Learning From Your Weakness — Disguised as An Opportunity

I created specific frameworks to solve these problems of anxiety. Especially when it came to confrontations, I would win them over with this one simple trick.

Do you want to hear it? I will let you in on a secret technique.

Do not worry about it. It is not in any way as hard as a Kamehameha wave.

I really wish I could do that, don’t you!?

Whenever you feel like giving up, watch Dragon Ball Super Broly. It will motivate you for the better.

Thus I studied my behaviors and studied the context of anxiety for many years. I had access to the internet, had luck on my side. As long as I was able to take chances, I was content and determined to solve it.

When you are trying to find a way to talk to your crush, regardless of their gender. Remember these two things whenever you aim to converse with them.

• Carry a piece of special gum.
• Learn to ask for directions!

Yes, these two are the top, if not the best icebreakers for starting any conversation.

And here is how you can apply these two things to talk to your crush, instantaneously.

How to Apply This [In a Nutshell]

If you are looking to talk to someone for the first time. Remember that people, regardless of gender, age, or demographic, speak to these three main things.

1. A kind greeting with a warm smile.
2. A calm gaze.
3. A simple gift.

These three are perhaps the best things people will remember about you.

Surely people obsess over the dressing and appearance part way too much.

I am here to assure you, you can be a homeless man on the street but still have a heart of gold. And people will admire you for it.

All you really need is a heart! And almost everybody has it, yet only a few really use it.

Why is that?

Well, we can blame socio-cultural factors for that. But that is not the point.

The point is you need to always have a purpose in mind when you aim to confront your crush. Follow your heart but also take your mind with you if you plan to win all your odds.

Because if you fail to plan, you will plan to fail.

— Benjamin Franklin

And the anxiety usually comes from thinking negatively about it. Thus the gum comes into the fray. Research shows that chewing gum has all sorts of benefits.

One such benefit is that it reduces stress. Because it will act as a placebo to help you escape the anxious thoughts focusing your mind elsewhere.

Because you burn energy when you chew gum. And that translates to your mind focusing on the chewing aspect as well as savoring the flavor aspect.

If you have ever paid attention to how and when you chew gum.

You always tend to remember three things about it.

• How it tasted.
• How it rolled on your tongue.
• What it made you feel. And the thoughts associated when that happened, add-on followed by a colorful memory that you can reminisce someday.

In my findings, I have found out that not only people who chew gum together tend to enjoy each other’s company more often. Especially when it comes to talking to your crush.

You feel much better around them, and it allows you to share something with them.

“Hey, would you like a piece of gum?” — The best icebreaker ever.

And this leaves an everlasting impression on your crush. People might forget your name. But they will always remember what you made them feel.

Maybe the next time they see you, they might wave at you, “hey, gum guy! Over here!”

And that perhaps might give you another chance to rejoice their company once more.

This little process leaves a lot of room to grow. Because it will leave a chance for you to go back and reconnect with them. As the first interaction should be simple and unique.

This does that for you.

And you do not need any superficial settings to make it right. All you really need is a few pieces of gum. And the will to ask the million-dollar question.

“Excuse me, Hey, It’s nice to meet you. Wave your hand! I’m[Insert Your Name Here].

And you are[ask their name].

When they say [their name] [ use it with their preferred alias, Sir or Miss].

It seems like I am lost, and I am new here. Could you please guide me? I did not know who else to ask? You seemed like you would know your way around these parts.

No one seems to have a clue about the place that I want to go to!

It would be really nice of you to guide me. I will be eternally thankful!”

Then navigate the conversation with them. It might take a few minutes. During the middle of the conversation, offer them a piece of gum. And insist nicely, so that they take it.

Make sure the rest of the conversation happens while you both chew the gum together. Afterward, when you have been conveyed the entire process on how to get there.

Say thank you with a respectful bow, meanwhile putting your hand on your heart.

Make sure to smile when you say thank you. It just makes the finale so much better.

Because when you give them the gum, it leaves an impression of reward for their efforts. And people will always remember what you made them feel.

And this little reward, even though it is just a random act of kindness, will leave you in their minds. And will make their way even better.

Because the energy you will leave behind will refresh them completely. And that is how you leave an everlasting impression on your crush.

See how simple it really is.

No B.S, right!

No mind games or those silly little “buy the perfume to get the gal” antics.

All you need is just a piece of gum, a kind attitude, a question, and you are set.

What are you waiting for? Go on and try it! And if it works for you, make sure to let me know! Remember that for you actually pull this off. You might need practice, and that means confrontation is required.

It does not matter whether you pass or fail. What matters is that you learn from your mistakes. Make mistakes because they are essential for you to create the perfect pitch.

And trust it will surprise you of the kinds of things you can do when you have your wit by your side.

I believe you will do wonders!

Be yourself, and take the chance. You can do it, as have I.

Peace and Godspeed!