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-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/we-dont-need-to-have-resources-to-be-resourceful-462532109b02"> <div> <div> <h2>We Don’t Need to Have Resources to Be Resourceful</h2> <div><h3>How we can get through hurdles and adversity to achieve our goals in 2021</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*4fUTDwKEpXjHUb8f)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="9732">So I got up from bed, it was 2 am, and I wrote my thoughts. This has put me to sleep straight away and set my intention today.</p><p id="6e8c">I encourage you to clear your thinking with me using the method below. <b>However, if you are feeling mentally ill, hopeless, anxious, and fearful about coming back out to socialize people, please seek therapy help </b>— that was my position in September 2020, and therapy helped me through it (more articles about my experience back then at the bottom of this article).</p><h2 id="d5f2">Sorting through my anxious thoughts of inadequacy</h2><p id="08cf">I will start with a new page and write the following heading:</p><ul><li><b>Bucket list for my lifetime</b></li></ul><p id="14f5">There are many things we want to do, but if we don’t write it down, they are merely unreal dreams in our heads. Everyone would say things like they want to travel the world, but until you write that down, does it really become YOUR plan.</p><p id="b5af">Write as many as possible, be as imaginative as possible. I got mad statements like owning a piece of land in Lithuania — don’t ask me why. I can’t even spell Lithuania without being corrected by Grammarly.</p><p id="af35">Now write the following headings:</p><ul><li><b>Bucket list for my next 5 years</b></li><li><b>Bucket list for this year</b></li><li><b>Bucket list for this summer</b></li><li><b>Bucket list for immediately post-lockdown</b></li><li><b>Everything else we can do now</b></li></ul><p id="8c7f">What you want is to slot things from the big list to these smaller lists and cross them off from your life-time list as you go.</p><p id="261f">I think you can see what I’m trying to do here; I am trying to reverse plan my life to make life and dreams come true.</p><h2 id="

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35b9">The feeling of overwhelm</h2><p id="51cc">What happens when we are frustrated by not achieving things is usually two-fold:</p><ul><li>there are too many things we want to do, and</li><li>we are not doing them now</li></ul><p id="15bd">This was how I felt yesterday. The restrictions of the past year have made me feel like I was stuck. We could’ve done so much more, change my life, find myself at the peak of Machu Picchu even.</p><p id="bcd4">But the thing is, we appreciate the pandemic is a disruption — it’s not a great one, but we can make it a good one for us. If life has gone on as normal, most people will continue to live conservatively. Doing their jobs they don’t want rather than taking a big year out, keep a toxic relationship going, getting fat with over drinking rather than learning to cook and gardening.</p><p id="394a">Disruptions are always good and bad we want to choose good things and expand them.</p><p id="9e4b">With this journaling prompt, we have reviewed our life plans and dreams and try to slot them down. The reality rarely goes as planned, but with five years to plan my South America trip, for example, now that it is part of my life plan and it has to happen at some point.</p><h2 id="cdc6">What to do now</h2><p id="d39b">From the life-time list, we realise there are more opportunities than restrictions. The question is timing.</p><p id="519b">Not everyone needs to be out and about, networking, travelling and seeing people all the time. A balanced life usually involves a mixture of solo and social activities, even to the most extroverted person (I am an extrovert).</p><p id="c55d">The reason we don’t want to do the ‘solo’ and ‘homely’ things, like writing a novel or learning guitar, is because we like to go against the current. Being stuck at home makes us less motivated to do things at home — it feels forced. It feels that “Oh, I can’t go out now so I have to make this Kombucha”.</p><p id="3001">I am so bad at this — I want to go hiking on stormy days, then on sunny days, I just sunbathe in my garden.</p><p id="0273">This is a mind game our brain plays. Go with the flow! Now that you are at home, do what you’ve always wanted to at home.</p><p id="63a6">So now, I urge you to breakthrough this stupid mind game. Embrace your final month before getting frustrated, faffing it out, and only looking forward to the future.</p></article></body>

How to Relieve from Anxiety During the Final Months of Lockdown

But unlike last time, I am frustrated because there is so much I look forward to doing

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8 March 2021, we can see one friend outdoor here in England. So I went to meet my friend Sharon.

It was a windy day by the coast, but sitting on the peddles with a hot drink by my friend was precious. The wave was high and fierce, loud and covering our voices, which had to travel through the social distance.

I thought the swimming pool would open again at the end of March. Turned out, it was the middle of April. That seemed like forever.

12 April, coincidentally it was the same day as I was baptized in 2009.

This final countdown is making me nervous, but this is a little different from the last time when I was paralyzed at home with an anxiety disorder in London.

Lockdown with and without hope

What happened in September 2020 was extreme loneliness coupled with hopelessness. I was alone in London, missed my boyfriend in Brighton and my family in Hong Kong.

Hong Kong was going through its fourth wave at that point. If the veteran of epidemics (we have gone through SARS and various plaques) couldn’t sort this crap out, how could we? People were still not wearing masks at that point.

But this time, my frustration is different. I am aching to go out, like most people. Spring and summer are coming, people are putting on their wetsuits and returning to the sea, Brighton Pride will happen in August.

My frustration is purely on me not knowing how to drive so I can visit the Devil’s Dyke whenever I want, and all hiking groups are suspended because of this lockdown.

My frustration is how unresourceful I suddenly feel.

As I sat up questioning my lack of choices, I recall I am the Queen of Resource:

We Don’t Need to Have Resources to Be Resourceful

How we can get through hurdles and adversity to achieve our goals in 2021

medium.com

So I got up from bed, it was 2 am, and I wrote my thoughts. This has put me to sleep straight away and set my intention today.

I encourage you to clear your thinking with me using the method below. However, if you are feeling mentally ill, hopeless, anxious, and fearful about coming back out to socialize people, please seek therapy help — that was my position in September 2020, and therapy helped me through it (more articles about my experience back then at the bottom of this article).

Sorting through my anxious thoughts of inadequacy

I will start with a new page and write the following heading:

Bucket list for my lifetime

There are many things we want to do, but if we don’t write it down, they are merely unreal dreams in our heads. Everyone would say things like they want to travel the world, but until you write that down, does it really become YOUR plan.

Write as many as possible, be as imaginative as possible. I got mad statements like owning a piece of land in Lithuania — don’t ask me why. I can’t even spell Lithuania without being corrected by Grammarly.

Now write the following headings:

Bucket list for my next 5 years
Bucket list for this year
Bucket list for this summer
Bucket list for immediately post-lockdown
Everything else we can do now

What you want is to slot things from the big list to these smaller lists and cross them off from your life-time list as you go.

I think you can see what I’m trying to do here; I am trying to reverse plan my life to make life and dreams come true.

The feeling of overwhelm

What happens when we are frustrated by not achieving things is usually two-fold:

there are too many things we want to do, and
we are not doing them now

This was how I felt yesterday. The restrictions of the past year have made me feel like I was stuck. We could’ve done so much more, change my life, find myself at the peak of Machu Picchu even.

But the thing is, we appreciate the pandemic is a disruption — it’s not a great one, but we can make it a good one for us. If life has gone on as normal, most people will continue to live conservatively. Doing their jobs they don’t want rather than taking a big year out, keep a toxic relationship going, getting fat with over drinking rather than learning to cook and gardening.

Disruptions are always good and bad we want to choose good things and expand them.

With this journaling prompt, we have reviewed our life plans and dreams and try to slot them down. The reality rarely goes as planned, but with five years to plan my South America trip, for example, now that it is part of my life plan and it has to happen at some point.

What to do now

From the life-time list, we realise there are more opportunities than restrictions. The question is timing.

Not everyone needs to be out and about, networking, travelling and seeing people all the time. A balanced life usually involves a mixture of solo and social activities, even to the most extroverted person (I am an extrovert).

The reason we don’t want to do the ‘solo’ and ‘homely’ things, like writing a novel or learning guitar, is because we like to go against the current. Being stuck at home makes us less motivated to do things at home — it feels forced. It feels that “Oh, I can’t go out now so I have to make this Kombucha”.

I am so bad at this — I want to go hiking on stormy days, then on sunny days, I just sunbathe in my garden.

This is a mind game our brain plays. Go with the flow! Now that you are at home, do what you’ve always wanted to at home.

So now, I urge you to breakthrough this stupid mind game. Embrace your final month before getting frustrated, faffing it out, and only looking forward to the future.