How to reduce discomfort from internal suffering and take strength from life

The fashionable theme is attitude towards oneself. Endless marathons, shamanic dances, pop trainings. But the attitude towards oneself does not change. Contempt, shame, disgust, guilt — this is what we feel about ourselves.

Let’s imagine two drivers with cars.

One is looked after, looked after, undergoes an annual examination, and signs up for insurance. If you need to change or buy something, do it immediately. How will the car serve? It will be serviceable, reliable, inspiring and fill the driver with pride. Of course, others will have newer and more fashionable cars. But is this a reason to abandon your favorite, into which so much care and work has been invested? The driver knows that she never fails, she helps out and is generally an excellent “comrade”.

And I don’t want to take care of the second one, look at it, or take it to a service station. The driver is ashamed that it is old or cheap or nondescript. I want to hide her from everyone. The driver speaks badly of her and dreams of a new car, for which he does not have enough money. If something breaks, to hell with it. Or he buys cheap ones when it’s already hot. This car fails and often breaks down. And no matter how much you yell at her or kick her tires, she doesn’t get any better. The driver looks with envy at the luxurious and new cars of others. And this fills him with irritation and regret. And somewhere in the depths of his soul a conviction matures — he doesn’t deserve better.

Both examples are about attitude towards yourself. How we manage ourselves. And the violence we direct at ourselves. Behind a bad attitude towards oneself there are prohibitions. Look for a new job, learn new skills, get recognition, sell what I’m good at doing.

So that your attitude towards yourself begins to change. You need to see, how do I perceive myself? Why this perception of yourself? Where to start to change your attitude towards yourself

If every day he repeats affirmations “I love myself.” It doesn’t add love. It is not in words and not in the mirror. Love is closed inside a person. From the inside and you need to get it out.