How to Recognize Energy Vampires and What You Should Do
“Sometime we just have to protect our own peace to enjoy ourselves”
Some people are insufferable. My problem with most people is their unflinching hypocritical mentality. Everyone always thinks they are right and won’t hesitate to judge others according to their own values. Whereas the reality, people are rarely right and usually use loose heuristics and personal experience rather than actual knowledge or logic.
We all have that friend who thinks their opinion is better than ours. They intrude on our privacy and don’t mind cutting us off when we are talking.
No doubt friends are an important part of life. They increase your sense of belonging and purpose. They enhance your life by providing social and emotional support, offering companionship, and improving your mood.
Over your lifetime, maintaining positive friendships can lead to improved health and well-being — and even lengthen your life.
However, not all friendships are beneficial.
Some are toxic and stressful. A bad friend can be many things, but typically, they lead to mental and emotional fatigue or a lack of general well-being.
5 signs of an energy vampire and how to deal with them
The company we keep influences our way of thinking and thus resulting in a mindset for success in our profession and personal relationship.
Our habits determine who we become. Optimizing your social circle is important and can profoundly impact your well-being.
“Do you want to be successful?” Surround yourself with successful people. “Do you want to be confident?” Then surround yourself with confident people. And if you want to be happy, you should be around happy people.
But do you see the following people mentioned in this post? Stay away from them for your peace and well-being.
They are incapable of being happy, and their energy can drain the life out of you.
Unforgiving people
Most people think their resentments are justified. They assume that everyone who hurts them did it on purpose. They don’t take the offender’s perceptive into consideration.
They hold a grudge or get angry when you hurt them, sometimes even plot revenge against the offender.
Unforgiving people are often unhappy and isolate themselves from the rest of the world because they don’t want to be betrayed or disappointed.
Having a friend who always remembers every mistake you made and would use it against you when you have a fight isn’t the person who wants your happiness.
So I don’t think an unforgiving person is best to have in your circle if you are aiming high in life.
Jealous people
There’s nothing wrong with wanting nice things other people have.
Feelings of jealousy can motivate us to aim higher and take action to protect people and things important to us.
However, jealousy is an insidious little beast. It can destroy trust, respect, and admiration. It can make people do some crazy shit like burn an entire family to death as Melanie Smith did.
It’s almost impossible to have a healthy relationship where there is jealousy brewing.
People who are jealous of you will always have negative things to say about you, and their evil intentions can be irreversible.
If you notice your friend is jealous of your personal career achievement, new car, new house or your s/o, it’s best to keep your distance from them.
The addicts
Many people with addiction are incapable of giving love and happiness.
They live in a selfish world and care about the immediate relief the addiction gives them.
Whether it’s alcohol addiction, drug addiction, phone, or game addiction, these people struggle with physical and emotional connections.
Caring for people with addiction can cost a lot of money to keep them stable, and it involves significant risk as you do not know what their next action will be.
Addicts always blame others for their problems, and having such a person as a friend can mess you up.
If your loved one or friend is an addict, the best you can do for them is to get them to rehab.
But the truth is, as much as you would like to help an addict, there is really not much you can do except to allow them to feel lonely and frustrated to the point they ask for help.
The leeches
Beware of people who cling to you for personal gain, especially without giving anything in return.
These people will only hang around you if they see you have something important they need.
They are never happy with what you do for them and will blame you for their dissatisfaction.
Once leeches attach themselves to you, they will emotionally drain you.
Having someone dependent on you will only add to your stress because they will never be content with what they have and will never be satisfied with what you give them.
The ungrateful ones
Just like the leeches, ungrateful people can be toxic too. They are self-centered and will take without ever appreciating what they receive.
They talk about themselves constantly and show very little regard for other people.
They make every communication about them. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with some who has no regard for your welfare.
These people don’t practice thankfulness or contentment. And this can make them envy what you have.
They’ll judge your appearance, job, financial situation, relationships, family, etc., anything that is of value to you that they do not have.
They always desire something others have, and this attitude can deny them happiness and fulfillment.
Protecting yourself can mean cutting off from people
Don’t waste time with people who lack the ability to pick up the pace.” ― Germany Kent
It is also important to protect your energy to give you the opportunity to develop yourself.
When your energy is constantly depleted, it can be difficult to devote time and resources to self-improvement activities such as reading, taking classes, or learning new skills.
Having friends who compromise and contribute to your mental, physical, and financial well-being can improve your overall health.
The advantage of dealing with positive-minded people, who are used to chasing their dreams and believing in taking responsibility for their lives, is that you will also be inspired to grow in a positive direction.
As you grow and learn, there will be times when you need to reach out to your close friends.
When you have friends who understand who you are, know how you operate, know what’s important to you, and your goals in life, you build deep and lasting friendships.
They will influence your way of thinking and also your behavior. They will support you on your journey and lead you to take progressive actions.
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