How to Positively Change Your Life by Believing in Yourself
You must believe that you too are worthy of having positive experiences in life
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale
Most people will spend their entire life being told that their dreams are something that they can’t do. I was told many such things -> “You can’t play football with the boys!”(I was the only girl in an all boys team for so long), or “How can you become a psychologist? Are you serious!?” etc. We all face this at some point in our lives. No one is immune to the negativity of the world. But you can still believe in yourself and change your life.
The Prodigal “You Can’t”
Do You find it hard to hear everyone around you tell you “You can’t”? Can’t is such an ugly, often demotivating word. The more times you hear it, the easier it is to believe the lies that are being told. You have to search for a healing way to respond to it. Don’t believe any negative thoughts that people say about what you can’t do, because only you truly KNOW what you can or cannot do! And understand, that people who are negative towards you are often hiding a certain level of their own insecurity behind that “all put together” mask.
The Two Kinds of People
In this context, I believe there are two kinds of people in the world.
1)There are those who take every ‘no’ they hear for an answer very literally.
2)Then there are those who say ‘yes’ when people tell them ‘no’.
Which kind of individual are you destined to be?
We find it easy to classify ourself as one or the other, but in real life we are a bit of a ‘yes’ person and a little bit of a ‘no’ person. There are different people in our lives that make us respond differently.
For example: if someone in your life has gained your trust, like your parents, say that “there is no way that you could do _____”, you might actually believe them. But, if someone that you are only acquaintances with tells you that you can’t do something, you may be driven to prove them wrong and wont believe them fully.
Instead of taking the truth of others to heart, learn to say ‘yes’ for yourself first. The truth is, you can do anything you want. If you want to do it, then believe that if you try your best, you can get it, no questions asked. Put the power of positive thinking to work and put your dreams and goals out there.
You are destined to be YOU and no one else. Don’t let others negativity overshadow your awesomeness!
Focus on the Positive like your life depended on it!
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt
The first and most important step is to focus on the positive things in your life.
When you feel that something is going wrong, even something minor, you need to take the time to find something positive in it.
For example->
Negative: You get wet in a the pouring rain. Positive: The rain is going to be great for the garden.
Negative: You get cut off by the traffic on a busy road. Positive: By slowing down you may have saved yourself from being in an accident.
Negative: You drop your shopping bags. Positive: You run into an old friend because you wait to pick up your shopping bags.
When you make an effort and take the time to see the positive things in life, you can focus on being able to say ‘yes I can’ when others say ‘no you can’t’.
You must believe that you too are worthy of having positive experiences in life.
You CAN do Anything!
“You have to believe in yourself.” ~ Sun Tzu
Believe this: “You have everything it takes to make what you want to happen, actually happen!”
Keep that big dream in mind and make sure you set your sights to it and just say YES. Take the first step(believing in yourself) to getting what you want and follow through with each consecutive step. Don’t try to jump from step one to step fifty. It’s not going to work. When you actually work steadily and diligently to get what you want in life it will come to you.
You deserve it, you want it, and you will accomplish it. Period.
Please don’t let difficulties, obstacles or discouragement hold you back from the life you truly deserve. You can have all you want by staying focused and taking it one step at a time through. Its a beautiful process of change.
Believe, stay focused on the positive and all the world can be in your hands.
Anything is possible for you through your strength of mind and perseverance.
My unbeatable and unshakable focus on the positive has got me from the self doubting, self critical and self hating me to where I am today ~ a serenely blissful state.…it can for you too.
***What do YOU think? How many times have you been told you “can’t” do something? How many times have you listened to your heart and just ‘done’ it and felt so good later? Share your thoughts in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!***
❤ With Love, Zeenat Merchant Syal, M.A, M.Sc
Zeenat Merchant Syal is a Practicing Counseling Psychologist & Spiritual Counselor. She writes on Healing the Mind, Heart & Soul through Positivity on Positive Provocations & offers Online Counseling there too.