Summary

The article provides guidance on overcoming societal pressures to live a fulfilling life through financial responsibility, living within one's means, and embracing personal decision-making without fear of failure.

Abstract

The author of the article emphasizes the importance of financial planning and budgeting to create a stable foundation for personal growth and freedom. By working hard and investing wisely, individuals can build a cushion that allows them to pursue their passions without being bound by the expectations of others. The author shares personal experiences, such as joining the Army reserves, dropping out of college, and taking on various jobs, to illustrate the journey towards financial independence. The article also touches on the significance of not living above one's means, advocating for a lifestyle that prioritizes quality and experiences over materialism and status. Furthermore, the author encourages readers to make their own decisions, viewing failure as a stepping stone to success and a source of valuable life lessons. The overarching message is that by taking control of one's finances and embracing the courage to fail, one can overcome high expectations and lead a life aligned with personal aspirations.

Opinions

The author believes that financial stability is crucial for personal freedom and the ability to pursue one's passions.
Living below one's means is seen as a key to avoiding financial stress and maintaining a stable lifestyle, regardless of income level.
The author values quality purchases and experiences over living an inflated lifestyle.
Personal decision-making without the fear of failure is considered essential for personal growth and finding one's true calling.
The author suggests that success is not about meeting external expectations but about working towards one's own goals and tolerating the outcomes of those efforts.
Failure is viewed positively as a source of significant life lessons and a catalyst for learning and development.

How to Overcome High Expectations and Live The Life You Love

Small, consistent accomplishments over a long span of time can make all the difference.

Who here graduated high school, was expected to go to school, earn their degree and earn a high, stable salary?

I’m sure many of us were.

Thankfully for me, my parents have supported any decision I made ever since I became independent and out of high school.

I started by joining the Army reserves as an engineer. I then went on to take college courses for marketing, led by dropping out after my first deployment overseas and landing a social media marketing job.

All things aside, I was expected to go to school, focus on my studies, and find a career — but have achieved what I’ve wanted solely based on my own willpower, and you can too.

Work hard enough to have savings, a fair amount of money, and some investments.

A great place to begin for anyone with high expectations is to get your finances right. Although this means working more and budgeting, you’ll thank yourself later for the cushion you built early.

In a more than 1,000 Americans survey, 80 percent said they have a budget.

Money isn’t everything, but it is a vital tool to get what you want and need.

Savings offers security.
Spending money offers opportunity.
Investments offer the opportunity for growth.

I would have never been able to experience as much life as I have without money. I worked for just above minimum wage at a movie theater, dog walked on the side and took on any other side hustles I could, early on.

The money I made allowed me to purchase a MacBook Pro, filming equipment, tickets to live shows, and money to travel — all of which equate to productivity and inspiration.

“What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.” — Julia Cameron

Avoid living above your means. Instead, live at or below your means.

Every dollar you spend your money on, matters. Fashion, experiences, things from Amazon, and the list goes on and on.

I’ve never been the flashy type of person, but I like having quality things in my life.

My first car was a used 2005 Mitsubishi Lancer. I’m not afraid to admit that I’ve gone thrift-shopping at Goodwill. Some of the clothes I’ve purchased were dirt-cheap from China.

Finances in check do not give you the right to live an inflated lifestyle, especially if you can’t afford it. I had to go broke to get humbled.

A survey found that about 54% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. And nearly 40% of high earners — those making more than $100,000 annually — said they live that way.

Being broke made me realize that if you’re not committing to your goals or looking for ways to be better, you will remain in your situation for a long time.

“I urge you to live within your means. One cannot spend more than one earns and remain solvent. I promise you that you will then be happier than you would be if you were constantly worrying about how to make the next payment on nonessential debt.” — Thomas S Monson

Make your own decisions without the fear of failure.

Anyone can place an opinion on you and what you should do with your life.

You can take their advice, and it could work out for you. Or it could make you miserable and resentful.

The support of my parents allowed me to try so many different things without worrying about succeeding.

The biggest lessons in my life came from failure.

Starting a YouTube channel taught me so much about video editing and being in front of an audience.
Writing showed me how to structure thoughts and communicate them to an audience.
Joining the Army showed me how to step outside of my comfort zone, make mistakes, and bounce back from them.

Motivation has to come from within. Without a burning desire, you can’t get anywhere. So even though I work overtime, serve in the military, and cook more than I eat out, it funds my current lifestyle.

“The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.” — Deepak Chopra

How to Overcome High Expectations and Live The Life You Love

Work hard enough to have savings, a fair amount of money, and some investments. Without money, you have no leverage. Once you figure that out, you can take control of your life without depending on others or their opinions about you.
Avoid living above your means. Live at or below your means, always. Volatile spending habits can create instability for even the highest earners. Control your outflow of money with as much attention to detail as you do with your earnings.
Make your own decisions without the fear of failure. Success can’t be an expectation. Everything you try has a different outcome waiting for you. It’s a matter of what you can tolerate and are willing to work towards that matters.