HOW TO MOVE ON WITHOUT GETTING THE CLOSURE YOU NEEDED

Remember the breakup that happened over a phone call or worse it never really happened. You suddenly stopped texting and talking.

You suddenly didn’t know what to do right after you woke up in the morning, you kept checking your phone for a notification. but it wasn’t there.

You spent days wondering where they were or who they were with. You kept trying to figure out where it went wrong. And this sudden silence was something you were never really prepared for.

Sometimes people walk out of your life without telling you why. Sometimes you want them to tell you why they did what they did.

But you don't always get to have that closure. When I went through something similar, I did the following few things to make sure I was moving on in the right direction.

WRITE THEM A LETTER

Sounds foolish. no? But trust me, it's really helpful actually. Write a letter expressing every emotion you feel towards them. But instead of addressing it to this person, address the letter to the fire and watch your feelings burn.

STOP STALKING THEM

I'm a social media addict. If I like someone, I stalk, stalk and stalk them. This was really hard for me to do. But when you stop checking what they’re up to after every hour, you actually put them in their place.

INSTEAD OF BLAMING YOURSELF, BLAME THEM

This must sound absurd at first, but hear me out. You are really out here owning your feelings, but they led you on and walked away without a reason. Well, a fourth-grader can easily tell who’s the bad guy here then why can’t you?

BUT ALSO FORGIVE THEM

Do not wait for them to ask you for forgiveness. They might never do that. And you certainly don’t need to hold on to something that doesn’t belong to you anymore. Forgive them, for your own sake.

Also, forgive yourself too for all your past mistakes. You don’t have to keep punishing yourself for all the bad that happen in your life.

DO THINGS THAT YOU LOVE

Nope. I won’t ask you to keep yourself busy. I was so hard on myself by trying to do things that would drain my energy, just for the sake of 'keeping myself busy’. I did this, so you don’t have to.

You don’t have to keep pushing yourself hard. Do things that you enjoy doing. Be it cooking your favorite meal, working out, calling a friend, or watching Netflix.

So when you do things you love, you’ll realize how beautiful and amazing your life is even if that one person isn’t in it anymore.

FEEL EVERY EMOTION

Lastly, feel every emotion. The pain, the hurt, the love, the longing. The anger, the rage, the guilt, feel everything. Cry until you feel better. Talk about it until you’ve taken everything out of your system. Do whatever you think will help, but don’t text them. Everrrrr.

You think you had someone but realizing they were never really yours to lose can do real bad damage. You lived for the hope of it all, and they still chose to walk away. Neither of you wanted to do wrong, but it still happened anyway.

But the moment you decide life is worth celebrating would definitely be your moment of closure. It was mine at least hah.