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p id="db15">For example, my husband put a stop to my way of trying to get our son to eat his meals and stop being fussy because it just wasn’t working. After a certain period of time of him implementing his own way of doing things, which was firmer and stricter than I would’ve liked, I started to see some changes in my son and how he would sit down to eat the entire plate of food in front of him.</p><p id="21fa">Now, Andriel looks forward to sitting down next to his parents and mostly eats his entire plate, including the veg. My husband was right, and I was wrong — at least for a period of time (because no one knows the future and kids are unpredictable!)</p><p id="60fc"><b>But my husband didn’t say “I told you so”.</b> He didn’t discredit me as a mother, even if I did question my own decision making. He understood that being wrong is not a bad thing, and also, that <b>I wasn’t “wrong” to begin with</b>. Some things work, and some things don’t work for our children. And some things work for a while and then need to be changed. And that’s OK.</p><p id="4e9d">Parenting, while continuous, is flexible.</p><p id="ec93"><a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-successfully-wing-it-d39222a3d808">And we are all winging it.</a></p><h1 id="101b">Lowering Expectations Is Empowering</h1><p id="cde5">I have this constant need as the main caregiver to simply know what to do and get it right — especially after all the research I do on many aspects of parenting. But the thing is, it is only because of my own expectations that we get upset when things don’t work out. We paint a picture of how things will go, and when they don’t go our way, we self-criticise.</p><p id="3b33">Recently, I have been struggling to make the decision of whether to send our son to daycare. Because of the recent lockdowns, I feared that he wasn’t getting enough social stimulation and he needed to spend more time with other children. We decided to send him to a local nursery two mornings a week.</p><p id="fec8">But that wasn’t my only reason for wanting to send him there. I also needed more time to really step up my game as a writer, begin marketing myself and really work on my book.</p><p id="fa4a">But I’m tired of questioning myself, and <a href="https://readmedium.com/how-to-get-what-you-want-1973fd008ecb">since taking the road to self-care</a> in order to be a better mother and person, I decided that my reasons were as good as any to send Andriel to daycare at the age of 27 months.</p><p id="d466">It has only been a few weeks, and so far, he does not look forward to going there. I feel in fact he has become shier and clingier than usual. This makes me question once again whether what I am doing is right, and whether the caregivers at the centre are doing right by my son.</p><p id="93a8"><b>I’m ready to assign blame and judge because this is what we do as people growing up in today’s society.</b></p><div id="5778" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/learning-to-enjoy-motherhood-guilt-free-966e7fa38d58"> <div> <div> <h2>Learning To Enjoy Motherhood Guilt-Free</h2> <div><h3>undefined</h3></div> <div><p>undefined</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*o44YftcYVXjSo_va)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="d0f8">But I have to remember that it will solve nothing. I need to readjust my expectations and remind myself that everything takes time and that obstacles are all part of the journey, including my son’s settling in time at daycare.</p><p id="1231">He will get there because he is a strong and sociable little boy. He will be fine because he will still have an abundance of love at home waiting for him when he gets back and throughout the rest of the week. But I cannot decide how and when he will be running happily into nursery in the mornings — that’s a picture I need to let go of, but treasure if it happens.</p><p id="b15a">Sometimes, it

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is our expectations that need change, not our circumstances. We have to be OK with hiccups in parenting. Rather, we need not see them as hiccups, but as part of the process of bringing up children. After all, we are only human.</p><h1 id="7806">Takeaway</h1><figure id="facf"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*0ZLtDIAU40LQtOeo"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@drezart?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Andrae Ricketts</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="f3a0">I believe in a mother’s instinct, but I don’t believe in the expectation that it will be there when we need it. If that expectation isn’t met then we will be more than ready to assign blame, and it won’t help us grow as parents or as individuals. In fact, I think that the constant need to meet these expectations is what causes us to feel like a failure at some point in our lives.</p><p id="b5d4">Instead, I recommend a more supportive plan, where advice can be handed out without coming across as all-knowing and dismissive of the parent. We can learn not to feel offended at others’ suggestions in the same way that others can learn not to be judgemental. I advise that others do get involved in taking care of kids, in a non-judgemental “I-told-you-so” way when the main interest is that of the child — not of themselves.</p><p id="1680">Most importantly, we have to learn that <b>mistakes are normal</b>, and most of the time, they’re not life-threatening. We are all human after all, and that makes us susceptible to countless errors over the course of time. In modern parenting, most parents are learning not to scold their kids when they make mistakes because it’s detrimental to their confidence building. <i>We should take that same approach with ourselves and other adults.</i></p><p id="93d5">So, let’s cut ourselves a little slack, and lower that pressure to get it right. Nobody is born a parent with experience.</p><div id="2a67" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/redefining-the-concept-of-happiness-16e5524c2b2d"> <div> <div> <h2>Redefining the Concept of Happiness</h2> <div><h3>How I’m learning about fulfilment from my toddler son.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*6xDaJcMnjn9r6Bow)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="88c4" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-battle-with-anger-as-a-parent-24e7837c5fac"> <div> <div> <h2>My Battle With Anger As a Parent</h2> <div><h3>Ensuring our son feels loved regardless of our feelings.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*Me4slkvdZGGCbsbjqQ_7bg.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="c95b" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/my-husband-is-a-damn-good-father-de20d1ef2217"> <div> <div> <h2>My Husband Is A Damn Good Father</h2> <div><h3>And he deserves praise.</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/0*Oqw-YSI_IVOLn-k0)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="7dcc"><b><i>Sylvia Emokpae, thinker and philosopher, is passionate about self-love, relationships, and motherhood. <a href="https://medium.com/@sylviaemokpae">See more work like this</a>.</i></b></p><p id="f728"><a href="https://twitter.com/SylviaEmokpae"><b>Follow her</b></a><b> on Twitter.</b></p></article></body>

How to Monetize Clubhouse

Copywriter Mike Becker Generates $170,000 in 60 days

Meaningful in-person connection was all but erased in 2020. Enter, Clubhouse, the all audio-based app that saved our disconnected lives. Clubhouse instantly gave way to the emergence of a listening culture, one in which the power of our collective voices was amplified.

Connection with like-minded ones on the app is immediate and intimate. It is interconnection and inclusivity at its finest. Living in a sea of isolation brought on by the pandemic, this app made people feel alive again. When you are brought up onto the stage to speak, there is a nervousness in your chest that stems from excitement, because you never know who is listening and how your statements will impact that person.

That was true of Copywriter Mike Becker.

Mike joined the platform on New Year’s Eve and spent 70 hours a week learning and dissecting how to monetize it. He was continually brought on stage by Marketing Specialist Perry Belcher and others. He gave massive value by giving of his knowledge and expertise. This allowed him to make connections with others on the app and in just two months he’s been able to generate nearly $170,000 in revenue.

HOW DO YOU HELP YOUR CLIENTS?

I help my clients which are my partners as a copywriter in the beauty, cosmetics, skincare, health, nutrition and supplements space.

As a copywriter and direct response marketer, I craft sales messages, design sales funnels, write back-end emails, and create upsells. I look at the data from these businesses and I help them improve their conversions.

I don’t charge people upfront because it allows me to build partnerships based on my performance. I partner with companies so I either have equity in the business get a percentage of the sales. That’s why I’m always inside those pitch rooms on Clubhouse. I’m looking to hear people pitch in the industry that I specialize in, so we can make a deal.

Clubhouse has been a real game-changer. I go into a room, speak and people are literally hitting me up in my DMs. So, people hear you talk, they look at your bio, look at your Instagram and they reach out to you. It’s so different from Facebook, where I have close to 5,000 friends and I don’t know any of them. But I just started a few months ago on Clubhouse, and it’s been crazy.”

HOW MUCH TIME DO YOU SPEND ON CLUBHOUSE?

I’m a data freak and I like to analyze new platforms. I tracked on my iPhone the amount of time I spent on Clubhouse for the first week and it was 70 hours. My goal was to learn, listen and find out what was going on. My number one goal was to figure out how to take my time that I planned on spending in Clubhouse and monetize it.

HOW MUCH REVENUE HAVE YOU GENERATED ON CLUBHOUSE?

I’ve been on the platform since New Year’s Eve and in the first two months, I’ve generated close to $170,000. To have been able to close that much business in that short of time is pretty crazy.

WHAT IS THE SIGNIFICANCE OF A DOT CLUB EXTENSION?

I’ve coined the phrase called the Dot Club Funnel. Because what’s really cool and popular right now are the dot club extensions for your domains. Pretty much overnight these extensions for websites blew up because they were only one dollar. So, people bought the domain with the dot club extension, because they knew Clubhouse was the next big thing. Then they created a club on Clubhouse and attached a funnel on that website. People are selling courses, products, consulting, you name it.

HOW DO PEOPLE GET TRAFFIC TO THEIR DOT CLUB FUNNEL?

Traffic is the number one problem people have when It comes to websites and funnels. So, the way to solve that is to open up a room or go into a room and talk. The first thing you’ll notice is your DMs filling up on Instagram. You’ll also get follows. If you have a website connected, people will click it. You’ll automatically start getting traffic on your website. If you have a funnel on your website, you’ll start getting sales. It’s a great way for entrepreneurs to start getting sales right now, even if you’re just starting out.

If you sell a $100 product ten times a day, that’s $1,000, for just running a room for three or four hours. If you do that every day for 30 days, you’ve earned $30,000 just for that month. So, anyone can literally come into Clubhouse right now and start making money today. You can start making money from day one.

HOW HAVE YOU GENERATED LEADS FROM CLUBHOUSE?

My business partner, Joseph Ortega, and I tested this. When we first got on Clubhouse, we ran a room for a month straight. We ran it every single day. It was a pitch room where people could pitch their businesses. So, we created a website called million-dollar pitch dot club and all we did was run a masterclass for $20 that they could watch on the best way to pitch on Clubhouse and how to perfect their pitch. Then we upsold people to a $1,000.00 product in which we would write their pitches for them.

In the Clubhouse room we would say, if you need help with your pitch, we’ve got this three-hour masterclass, if you go to our website, you can get it for $20. After they bought it, they were put into a funnel and the next thing they would see was the $1,000.00 offer to have the pitch script written for them. They bought it because we provided so much massive value in Clubhouse. Joseph and I were able to run a room and generate sales to prove that this strategy works.

HOW DID YOU GENERATE $170,000 IN 60 DAYS?

I sold $10,000.00 dot club funnels.

If you have a room, have a business and product, I will create a funnel, write it and launch it for you for $10,000.00. This is a huge discount because other professionals charge $100K to do what I’m doing.

WHAT WORDS OF WISDOM CAN YOU SHARE?

After doing this, I learned that I don’t need to spend 70 hours a week on Clubhouse and I don’t need 10,000 followers. I’ve learned to be more strategic with my time. Now, I simply go into other rooms with top influencers and engage with them. Perry Belcher followed me one my first week and he has brought me up on his stages to speak and that’s how I grow my following now.

I just got off the phone negotiating a deal I made on Clubhouse for 15 percent equity in a company that sells health solutions. In addition, they offered me a position to come as copy chief for an even greater stake. There are copywriters and freelancers out there that are still getting paid per hour or per assignment. The problem with that is that you are constantly headhunting for clients. That’s why my clients are my partners and I’m not hirable as a copywriter. That’s another reason why Clubhouse has become a game-changer. I can open a room and either seek out my ideal business partner or they can hear me speak and seek me out.

It’s a win-win.

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The best way to know if you are making an impact on Clubhouse, like Mike is to know your stats. A great tool to use is Direcon. It lets you know who is in the audience, the current room stats and the rooms history.

These numbers are great for any marketer because it lets you know what rooms you can jump into and make the biggest impact on. If you’re a numbers geek, make sure you sign up for it today.

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