How To Master Your Identity As A Human Being

In a difficult understanding world.

Everyone is trying to understand themselves. Everyone is trying to be a better human being in a difficult understanding world. Mastering yourself in this difficult understanding world is a very challenging thing to do. There are so many options about how to behave, how to dress, how to raise your children, what the best job is to pursue to earn (a lot of) money.

When you don’t have the same management job as your neighbors than people have an opinion about you right away without you knowing who you really are. Just as you show up in your chill outfit, doesn’t mean you are someone who has been taught through a low education.

When you’re driving the most luxurious car as a 25-year young man in a neighborhood of middle-class people think you got this luxurious car from your rich parents. Maybe this is not true and you earned this car yourself with the money you worked your but off to get this car.

People are so opinionated the moment they see you. First impressions are worth it, as they say, but also not totally true. Someone could be very shy while this person — in reality — is very nice and the best humankind you have ever met.

We — people — judge too fast on someone’s very first impressions. I believe we must stop and get to know someone else first. Maybe someone has been through a lot and doesn’t like to talk in the first place, and just look around if it is safe where that person is.

But between all the personalities on earth, there is you. You have your identity. Like everyone else. An identity you want to express in any way. When you get the feeling you are not expressing yourself however, then think about how you can master yourself in your own identity as a human being, in an already challenging world.

Mastering your identity as a human being could be very challenging, exciting, difficult, but also worth it when you find that person you want to be or at least content with. You can focus better on what you love to do in your life.

I am doing an exercise with you. I am going to mindmap with you.

What do you need:

• pen or pencil
• few pieces of paper
• your mind
• your mirror

It could be creepy when you don’t like watching yourself in the mirror. But I believe watching yourself in the mirror could make you the person you want to be, and be a master of your identity.

Write your name in the middle of the paper. Circle your name. Then write everything that belongs to you as a human being around that circle. Such as your values, your hobbies, your work, what you like to do in life, and so on.

Mine are so many things that belong with me, and there are so many things I love to and there are so many things I like to do. Sometimes it is so overwhelming. That is why I make a spiderweb now and then to understand myself to act in this chaotic difficult understanding world.

Take the second paper. Write one value in the middle of the paper. Write down everything you find important with this value. These values belong to you as a human being.

Then take another thing from your first sheet. Write everything that is very important to you with this thing. You see, there are a lot of things that you love to do and things that are important to you.

Do you feel what happens to you when you are doing this? When I did this, I felt incredibly big. I felt big because of my interests and the things I find important are much more than I thought in the beginning.

These things you find important in your life and that belongs to you and these elements you should use in your life to master your identity in your life. These identities you have to use to walk your path in life, like helping your neighbor removing in your town, doing groceries for your ill mother, helping your teenage nephew with preparation for his math test next week.

During your whole life, you will change your hobbies, values, your thoughts, things you don’t like anymore, and how you look back at situations you were in through your life.

“I am a stupid woman and I can’t do anything.” is a thought that came up a lot on my mind when I was a teenager. I thought I was not worth living. That is a thought that belonged to me when I was a teenager. Now my thoughts about this issue have changed during the years. Now I believe I am worth living.

When my oldest daughter still wore dresses to school, now she doesn’t like to wear dresses. Now she loves to wear pants, jeans, and shorts. Dresses don’t belong to her anymore. Her taste changes during the years.

I am a very chaotic person. That belongs to me. I know this is something that is within my character. People say to me that I have to change that. What if I don’t mind it and it doesn’t bother me at all? And what if it does, then it is to me to master this identity through my life. Someone may say something about it, but it is up to me to master it.

Your grandmother loves reading romance novels one hour before going to bed. That is a habit that belongs to your grandmother. That habit is her identity to educate herself through a romance novel.

So, your identity is what you love to do, what you like, the habits you have, the people you are with, the values you strive in life, the thoughts you have, and so many more things. That belongs to you as a human being.

It is how you create everything in life and it is how you identify yourself to others.