How to Make Your Man Happy — The Complete Guide for Women

What do women want? This has been a question that has puzzled men for years. However, it is not as complicated as some might think. In fact, many women just want their men to be happy.

Women want to know how they can make their man feel loved and appreciated in a way that is meaningful to him. If you are looking for ways to make your man happy, read on.

In this comprehensive guide, we will cover everything from giving him a killer massage to how to make him feel like an alpha male.

So whether you are looking for new ways to please your man or just want to make sure you are doing everything right, read on for the ultimate guide to making your man happy.

1. Cook for him

It’s been said many times before but it remains true: the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, and what better way to prove this than by cooking a homemade meal for your significant other?

You don’t have to go the full Gordon Ramsay and prepare a three-course feast, but it would be a welcome change from your usual sandwich. Alternatively, if he’s a fan of sweets you could whip up something in the kitchen for dessert.

Whether it’s spaghetti with meatballs, a double chocolate fudge cake, or even just his favorite take-out — treat him to something that he knows you don’t normally have in the house and watch him feel like a king for a night. Even if you’re not the best cook, he’ll appreciate your effort.

2. Understand what makes him happy

Before you try to decipher what makes your guy tick, it’s important that you get a good idea of who he is and his likes/dislikes. This way any future household chores or gifts will be spot on because you know exactly what he loves the most.

You may not have asked yourself this question before, but if you want to make your guy happy it has to start with knowing him better. If you haven’t already spent some time getting to know his family and friends, or what he does in his spare time for fun, now is the perfect opportunity to do so!

3. Pay attention to the little things he does for you

When was the last time you thanked your fella for holding the door open or grabbing your jacket from the coat stand? For some of us, we take things like this for granted and it’s not until we notice that he isn’t doing as many favors as usual that we realize how much they actually mean.

It doesn’t matter if he does something small every day, or once a week — simple gestures like this will make him happier than you could ever imagine.

4. Do something that he’s been wanting to do for a while

I know you’ve both watched the latest superhero movie at least five times but it might be time to change things up and go see an action film instead. If he has mentioned in passing that he always wanted to take karate lessons, or sign up for a charity run — tell him you’re in and go along with him.

5. Be there for him when he needs you

When was the last time you dropped everything to be by your partner’s side?

If it hasn’t happened within the past month, try changing that by offering to help out with whatever situation he might be in. Whether it’s to take him to the ER or call and check up on his sister, this will make him feel like your #1 priority and will make you both stronger as a couple.

6. Give him some space

I know it might be difficult but sometimes we forget that men value their independence just as much as we do ours. If you’ve been getting in the way of his man time/personal bubble for a while, make sure he has space to think and breathe without you looking over his shoulder.

7. Make time for him

As much as we’d like to deny it, there’s never enough hours in the day to get everything done — especially when your man comes into the equation. It won’t be easy to put your personal ambitions on hold for an evening or two, but if you can make it work then your guy will be happier than ever at the thought of you prioritizing him.

If he normally has to fit his time with you around whatever else is going on in his life (work/kids/housework) then it’s time to go against the grain and show him that you’ll be there whenever he needs you.

8. Let him know how much you appreciate him

We all know how clichéd this is, but we should never underestimate the power of letting your guy know that you love and care about everything he does for you. Whether it’s inviting you to his friend’s poker night or leaving a surprise note on the kitchen counter — just kicking back and thanking him will be enough to make his day that little bit better.

9. Show him that you care about your appearance for him

It’s not always easy to dress up and look our best for our men, but there’ll be days when he needs that extra bit of motivation to get up and go. If you want to make sure that he feels like a million bucks then consider getting dressed up during his least favorite day of the week (Monday) and make sure to stick around long enough for a compliment or two.

10. Make time for a date

If you’ve been so busy making time for family and friends, make sure that you still reserve an evening for the two of you to be “off duty” and spend some quality time together. Whether it’s just dinner and a movie or something more extravagant — your guy will appreciate the effort that goes into making him feel special.

11. Be affectionate — hug him, kiss him, run your fingers through his hair

We all know that guys’ idea of romance is pretty different from ours, but they still like the occasional embrace/ peck on the cheek/hair-stroking session. Even if you’re not normally a touchy-feely couple, try to show him a little TLC and he’ll appreciate it more than you know.

12. Give him compliments — let him know how handsome, smart, and funny he is

It might be hard to think of reasons why your guy is the best thing since sliced bread, but you really should try. Not only will it boost his self-esteem and confidence in front of all his friends, he’ll also appreciate that you’re willing to see him for what he truly is rather than focusing on his flaws.

13. Give him a massage

Men are often surprised when their woman takes the time to give them a massage after a long day at work or when they get home from playing sports. However, a massage is one of the best ways to make your man feel appreciated and loved.

14. Listen to him when he talks

Show that you’re interested in what he has to say without being too pushy. If you ask him what’s been going on in his life today, he’ll feel like you’ve put a real effort into learning more about his day and will want to return the favor with some heartfelt pillow talk when the sun goes down.

15. Do something special for him on his birthday or anniversary

Show your man how much you love and care for him. Remembering special days is important to any man, doing something for them will make his day.

16. Don’t be a nag

Don’t always feel the need to tell your man what he is doing wrong or how he can improve, let him know you appreciate him for who he is and that his little flaws are cute.

17. Be faithful

Your man will appreciate it more than you know if you stay loyal to him and only him. Cheating will lead to him second-guessing where he stands with you and can ruin your relationship.

18. Listen to his advice

You know more than anyone that your man knows what he is talking about, show him how much you value his opinion by taking it into consideration once in a while. He’ll love that you trust his judgment and feel flattered that you respect him enough to take his suggestions seriously.

19. Stay in your comfort zone when you’re out together

Avoid speaking in public, don’t embarrass yourself by dancing wildly on the dance floor, and avoid getting drunk. Keeping your composure will make your man proud of you and want to keep you around longer if he thinks that you are classy and don’t need him to hold your hand every time you venture out together.

20. Don’t talk bad about him in public

Even if he isn’t there, no good can come of slandering the person that you love. Showing everyone what a terrible partner he is or how stupid his jokes are will only humiliate him. Maybe he isn’t perfect, but no one is — so cut your man some slack before you make him feel like any less of a man.

21. Keep his secrets

Keeping his secrets is a sure way to make him feel like you care about him and that he can trust you. He’ll appreciate that you never felt the need to divulge any of his little mistakes or silly antics and will always remember how much you valued your privacy as a couple.

22. Surprise him with breakfast in bed

If your man isn’t the best cook or even if he is, you can still surprise him with breakfast in bed. It might not be his number one fantasy come true, but it will definitely make him feel like a king and kick-start his day on the right foot.

23. Show love to his family members

Make an effort to get along with his family. Being on good terms with them will show him that you respect his close ones and want to be part of their lives just as much as you are in each other.

24. Stay steadfast with him during trials and tribulations

In the darkest times of your relationship, you’ll need to rely on each other more than ever. When he is going through a hard time or feeling low, let him know that you’re there for him and that he can always count on you no matter what.

25. Say “I love you” often

He might not be the best at saying it first, but he’ll appreciate you telling him how much you love him every day. He needs to know that his efforts aren’t going unnoticed by you and that his presence makes your world a happier place.

26. Surprise him with a gift

You don’t always have to go all out and spend a lot of money on presents for your guy, but an unexpected present will make his day. Even something as little as making him lunch or leaving a card on the kitchen table will be enough to make him realize that you still care about his happiness.

27. Make him goals for the week

Plan something exciting, but not too extravagant with your man! Try planning a day of bowling or go-karting with a picnic lunch at the end of the night. A fun and spontaneous way to show him that you love him is to have him guess the things that you will do throughout the day.

28. Reminisce about your memories together

Make sure he knows how much he means to you, even if it’s just by recalling old memories or talking about how far you’ve both come since meeting each other.

29. End every night with a sweet goodnight message

We should try to always end the day on a positive note, even if that means sending that goodnight text before you leave work or holding off until the morning even though you’re missing your man. If he knows that he can reach out to you whenever something comes up, it will make him feel better no matter how stressful his day was.

Takeaway

Now, never underestimate the power of gratitude (and good communication) when it comes to men. If you want your guy to feel like he’s part of a team with you rather than an obligation, try doing some or all of these things for him this week and see his smile grow larger every time.

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