How to Maintain Intimacy In A Long Distance Relationship

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er(s) and right now, this is one thing we can do together that brings us a modicum of joy and maintains intimacy.</p><p id="0c66">3. <b>Send Care Packages:</b> Surprise your partner with care packages that include their favorite snacks, books, or small gifts. This can make them feel loved and appreciated, and it’s a tangible way to show that you’re thinking of them. While I am very limited as to what I can do in this regard when it comes to my partner, the prison allows us to send a package once a quarter with items they’ve pre-approved. I make sure I am able to do this for him and choose items I know he needs and ones he will enjoy. This is the only way he can get candy during the year (other than chocolate which he isn’t fond of) and a particular soap he likes to use on his face. With my other partners, I like to do small things like send PunkPost hand-lettered cards for birthdays and various holidays and thoughtful gifts as well. I’m a big gift person and I think long and hard about what someone would really love.</p><p id="c330">4. <b>Send Sweet Messages:</b> Send your partner sweet messages throughout the day, whether it’s a good morning text, a funny meme, or a heartfelt message telling them how much you miss them. While this may seem the same as communication, it goes a step further and is something I’m really good at, in my not so humble opinion. When Damian and I chat, of course we just talk about our days and how things in life are going, but we both always make sure to say we love one another when we’re signing off, that we miss each other, and we’ve cultivated a unique way to sign our letters to one another too. I have a boyfriend, too. He’s a bit of an introvert and his love language is sending cute/funny memes or reels. Sometimes, that’s all I get from him without any text. I’m not offended or bothered by this one bit, I’ve known Freddie for 18 years and I know his personality well. To me, they’re a sign he’s thinking of me and it means a lot.</p><p id="0bcb">5. <b>Get Creative:</b> Find creative ways to maintain intimacy, such as sending each other naughty photos or videos, writing love letters, or creating a shared journal where you can write notes to each other. Love letters are wonderful, and if you can write poems, bonus. No one said they have to be good. Silly is good. Trying is what matters. Prisons don’t allow explicit photos, but I do at times send what I can get away with and steamy stories, to

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o. Damian can send steamier stories than I can, since outgoing mail isn’t monitored. Sadly, I can’t get pics from him. I do share naughty photos with my other loves and at times, naughty stories too. I haven’t done it as often as I probably should, but that’s something I would like to work on changing. F and I have a shared Google Drive where we drop photos for one another.</p><p id="5082">6. <b>Plan for the Future:</b> Talk about your plans for the future and make sure that you’re both on the same page. Knowing that there’s a plan for when you’ll be together again can help you both stay motivated and hopeful. This is something Damian and I do on a regular basis. In our situation it is absolutely vital to not only maintaining intimacy but also hope. We know his release date, and we remind one another of it regularly, talking about all the wonderful things we will do once he’s home. We also talk about our plans for catching up on celebrations we’ve missed like birthdays, anniversaries and more. With my other loves, we talk about future trips to visit one another, which are a lot of fun. I visited the couple I am dating last October for the first time and it was quite possibly one of the best weeks of my life. I’m very much looking forward to the next visit sometime this year.</p><p id="1236">7. <b>Stay Positive:</b> Long-distance relationships can be challenging, but it’s important to stay positive and focus on the good things. Celebrate your milestones and successes together, and keep your sense of humor intact. You’ll definitely need it no matter the type of long-distance relationship you’re in. You’re going to have good days and rough days, but in the long run, you and your partner(s) can make it work if you’re willing to try.</p><div id="d2d2" class="link-block"> <a href="https://demetervdelune.medium.com/today-is-my-sixth-wedding-anniversary-and-i-cant-celebrate-with-my-husband-d70bfddbd28d"> <div> <div> <h2>Today is My Sixth Wedding Anniversary and I Can’t Celebrate With My Husband</h2> <div><h3>I’ll reminisce instead.</h3></div> <div><p>demetervdelune.medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*D7OMKAXDN_FFSTiHu_bMNA.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

There are different types of long distance relationships but these tips can help across the board.

My husband and I are in a long-distance relationship, though it is definitely not one of our choosing nor is it a typical one. He’s incarcerated for a crime he didn’t commit — and with him being in prison it’s not as if we can be in physical contact on weekends or share explicit photos. But there are still things we can do to remain intimate. For folks in long-distance relationships, I’ve cultivated some tips and tricks to help you maintain intimacy across the miles, no matter what type of relationship you have.

How to Maintain Intimacy In A Long Distance Relationship

Communication: In any relationship, communicating regularly is vital, so it stands to reason if you’re not close in proximity, it’s going to be even more so. Whether it’s through video calls, messaging, or phone calls, this is how you’ll share your feelings and thoughts. Be open and honest about what you need from each other. Damian and I have access to a messaging app and message some througout the day. I’m also in a long-distance relationship with a couple, and though I don’t talk to the male half of my couple every day we email regularly and share photos, and the female half and I do pretty much daily and she also communicates with Damian. We maintain our connections because they’re important to us even across many miles.

2. Plan Virtual Dates: Set aside time for virtual dates, such as watching a movie together, cooking a meal together, or playing games online. This can help you feel connected and close to each other. Damian and I are able to “watch” a movie together, even while he’s in prison. He has a tablet which has some movies available to him. Each week, we choose a movie we both have access to and at a prescribed time, we both watch the movie. Afterwards, we talk about it. You have to choose something that works for you and your partner(s) and right now, this is one thing we can do together that brings us a modicum of joy and maintains intimacy.

3. Send Care Packages: Surprise your partner with care packages that include their favorite snacks, books, or small gifts. This can make them feel loved and appreciated, and it’s a tangible way to show that you’re thinking of them. While I am very limited as to what I can do in this regard when it comes to my partner, the prison allows us to send a package once a quarter with items they’ve pre-approved. I make sure I am able to do this for him and choose items I know he needs and ones he will enjoy. This is the only way he can get candy during the year (other than chocolate which he isn’t fond of) and a particular soap he likes to use on his face. With my other partners, I like to do small things like send PunkPost hand-lettered cards for birthdays and various holidays and thoughtful gifts as well. I’m a big gift person and I think long and hard about what someone would really love.

4. Send Sweet Messages: Send your partner sweet messages throughout the day, whether it’s a good morning text, a funny meme, or a heartfelt message telling them how much you miss them. While this may seem the same as communication, it goes a step further and is something I’m really good at, in my not so humble opinion. When Damian and I chat, of course we just talk about our days and how things in life are going, but we both always make sure to say we love one another when we’re signing off, that we miss each other, and we’ve cultivated a unique way to sign our letters to one another too. I have a boyfriend, too. He’s a bit of an introvert and his love language is sending cute/funny memes or reels. Sometimes, that’s all I get from him without any text. I’m not offended or bothered by this one bit, I’ve known Freddie for 18 years and I know his personality well. To me, they’re a sign he’s thinking of me and it means a lot.

5. Get Creative: Find creative ways to maintain intimacy, such as sending each other naughty photos or videos, writing love letters, or creating a shared journal where you can write notes to each other. Love letters are wonderful, and if you can write poems, bonus. No one said they have to be good. Silly is good. Trying is what matters. Prisons don’t allow explicit photos, but I do at times send what I can get away with and steamy stories, too. Damian can send steamier stories than I can, since outgoing mail isn’t monitored. Sadly, I can’t get pics from him. I do share naughty photos with my other loves and at times, naughty stories too. I haven’t done it as often as I probably should, but that’s something I would like to work on changing. F and I have a shared Google Drive where we drop photos for one another.

6. Plan for the Future: Talk about your plans for the future and make sure that you’re both on the same page. Knowing that there’s a plan for when you’ll be together again can help you both stay motivated and hopeful. This is something Damian and I do on a regular basis. In our situation it is absolutely vital to not only maintaining intimacy but also hope. We know his release date, and we remind one another of it regularly, talking about all the wonderful things we will do once he’s home. We also talk about our plans for catching up on celebrations we’ve missed like birthdays, anniversaries and more. With my other loves, we talk about future trips to visit one another, which are a lot of fun. I visited the couple I am dating last October for the first time and it was quite possibly one of the best weeks of my life. I’m very much looking forward to the next visit sometime this year.

7. Stay Positive: Long-distance relationships can be challenging, but it’s important to stay positive and focus on the good things. Celebrate your milestones and successes together, and keep your sense of humor intact. You’ll definitely need it no matter the type of long-distance relationship you’re in. You’re going to have good days and rough days, but in the long run, you and your partner(s) can make it work if you’re willing to try.