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Summary

The web content provides guidance on improving sexual stamina and overcoming porn-induced erectile dysfunction by using visualization techniques akin to those used by Michael Jordan for performance in sports.

Abstract

The article discusses the negative impact of pornography on sexual performance, linking it to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. It suggests that by changing one's masturbation habits and employing visualization techniques, similar to those used by Michael Jordan to enhance his athletic performance, individuals can improve their sexual endurance and confidence. The author emphasizes the importance of replacing pornography with realistic visualizations of sexual encounters with a partner, thereby retraining the brain to respond to actual sexual experiences rather than artificial stimuli. The process is described as a commitment to self-improvement that may take several months, with the ultimate goal of enhancing one's sexual relationships and satisfaction.

Opinions

  • The author believes that pornography can create an unhealthy dependency for arousal and contribute to sexual performance issues.
  • There is a strong opinion that by eliminating pornography and practicing visualization, men can significantly improve their ability to last longer in bed.
  • The author suggests that the way one masturbates is indicative of how they will perform sexually with a partner, advocating for a more mindful and partner-focused approach.
  • The article posits that visualization is not just fantasy but a form of mental rehearsal that can lead to improved sexual performance, akin to an athlete visualizing a win.
  • The author encourages a commitment to the process, acknowledging that it may take a considerable amount of time to reverse the effects of long-term pornography use.
  • Self-forgiveness and celebration of progress are highlighted as important aspects of the journey to better sexual health and confidence.
  • The author implies that this method of self-improvement can lead to a more fulfilling and shame-free experience of self-pleasure, ultimately enhancing sexual relationships.

How to Last Long in Bed Like Michael Jordan

Take your time babe or just think Michael Jordan.

Photo by halayalex from Freepik

What does famous sports star Michael Jordan have to teach us about lasting in bed?

I’m going to share with you a technique that Michael famously used to sink the winning shot so that you can sink your own winning shot.

Story Time

First I had to tell you a scary story. I once had a client who was addicted to porn. He used porn multiple times a day every day. Throughout his late teens all the way to his late 20s.

I recommended to him as part of Koreans premature ejaculation that he quit masturbating to porn.

Well, on our next call he promptly let me know that he had quit porn. But when he went to masturbate, he couldn’t get hard. I encouraged him to just keep trying and to be patient.

Weeks went by he still couldn’t get hard. He would go to masturbate, he would get the lube and do all the things I was telling him to do.

And then when push came to shove well he was limp.

The truth is that porn causes both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation and part of curing both of those are learning how to masturbate without it.

Today I’m going to teach you not just how to masturbate without porn but

  • How to have the best masturbation of your life without porn.
  • And use it to get harder and to last longer in bed.

Well, I told you Michael Jordan was gonna get involved. Sit tight, I’m gonna share with you. My best advice for,

  1. Using masturbation to develop ejaculatory control,
  2. And last as long as you want in bed.

A lot of men find that giving up porn is hard.

The reason is that porn is visually stimulating, it can make it hard to get aroused without porn.

— But don’t worry I’ve got you covered.

There is a simple tool that I use to replace porn during masturbation and it’s actually going to make you better at sex.

In this article, I’m going to show you exactly how to use the power of your mind and the power of visualization to last longer in bed and overcome erectile dysfunction.

Plus it’s gonna make masturbation fun again.

Stay with me. I’ll explain more.

You Can’t Sex with PornHub

The most important thing for you to know right now is that this system works for all men. No matter,

  • If you’ve been using porn your whole life,
  • or if you don’t find that you actually have a problem and you just want to get better at sex.

Something you must know is that in order to get better at having sex with a partner, you must change the way you have sex with yourself.

The way that you masturbate is the way that you have sex with a partner.

And since your partner isn’t PornHub you are gonna have to change the way that you relate to porn. To change the way that you relate to your girlfriend or your wife or whoever it is you’re having sex with.

Human beings didn’t evolve with porn.

Your ancestors were lucky if they got a glimpse of a topless woman across the watering hole.

Because porn is so deeply linked to our lizard brain and our desire to pass on our seed and make babies for the next generation, it’s very deeply connected to our arousal.

If you grew up with porn you know that sometimes that connection becomes wired pretty hardcore in your brain.

  1. This can lead men to depend on porn to get aroused.
  2. That means to even get erect they require the visual stimulus of porn.

But this is not a permanent condition and this can be changed.

Even though some men experience some challenges and this is why I am here. I’m gonna save you from those unnecessary hardships.

How?

I want you to ask yourself why you want to get better at sex. Is it because,

  • You want to please your girlfriend?
  • Prevent your wife from cheating on you?
  • Save your marriage?
  • Or you just want to be confident so that you can start dating again?

There’s no wrong reason to get better at sex but I want you to have it really clearly in your mind.

Maybe even write it down.

Because I’m gonna ask you to do some stuff that’s gonna challenge.

I want you to remember your end goal at all times.

It’s gonna make it easier when you hit some bumps in the road to eliminate porn. Just get rid of it. You don’t want to have a like a pass and go. We both know that you look at it sometimes. Break the relationship with porn.

Just get rid of it.

  • Set up an accountability buddy.
  • Set up child protection on your browser.

Whatever you got to do make a commitment to yourself that porn is out only while you’re working on the system. You can go back to it later.

Trust me, porn will still be there. They’re not it’s not going anywhere.

For right now make a commitment to yourself that you are eliminating porn from your life.

Otherwise, it’s just too tempting.

I can’t tell myself that I can have some chocolate.

Because some chocolate means a bar of chocolate or it might mean like a bar of Milky Way chocolate which we all know is different than regular.

And I can tell myself that 88% of chocolate is okay. Because it doesn’t have a lot of extra sugar in it.

If I want to get rid of chocolate in my life,

I gotta get rid of chocolate in my life.

Fantasy X Visualization

Here’s the most important part. You need to learn the difference between fantasy and visualization.

Fantasy is an imagination. Fantasy is I am searching myself.

I am thinking about the entire harem of sexy women. All of them are bent over doing crazy things. And then all of a sudden they all get into a circle around me. And they start as there are hundreds of hands just touching my body.

I mean that might be thought. We are fantasying. I’m not them or your fantasy might be that.

There’s like seven hot women just oiled up and you just get to like go down the road, doing the nastiest stuff you ever thought of.

— That’s great.

Fantasies are wonderful.

They have a role to play but unfortunately right now is not the time to be fantasizing.

This is where Michael Jordan comes in. This is the power of visualization.

Fantasy is imagination but visualization is something that’s actually real.

When Michael Jordan visualized himself sinking the basket, he was actually seeing it from his first-person perspective.

Hand on the ball. Hoop, in front of him, Crowd cheering!!

I assume and he would see himself actually sinking the basket and this is the trick. Instead of fantasizing about the sexual stuff that you want to do, instead, you are to visualize it actually happening.

As you were masturbating, you are going to visualize your current wife or current partner or current girlfriend or maybe an ex-girlfriend or the girl that you have a crush on.

But you’re going to visualize a real woman with her real body really having sex with you.

As you’re using that you are visualizing, you are seeing in your mind’s eye. This real woman you’re seeing her really in the missionary position or whatever position you’re in.

You are imagining;

her moans her skin the things that she will likely say and do and the smells and all of the other senses that come along with having sex…

And at the same time, you’re progressively taking longer and longer and longer and longer to reach orgasm.

When you do this you’re essentially like Michael Jordan was giving your brain a dress rehearsal.

Your brain has a sense of;

Oh, I can last as long as I want while having sex with my partner,

I did it in my brain. I did it in the dress rehearsal I can do it in real life just like thinking.

Imagine your partner reaching orgasm

This is one of my favorite tips to supercharge. For a lot of men their partner moaning and writhing and screaming it’s very very arousing.

— Sometimes they lose it when she reaches orgasm.

So I recommend that you masturbate while imagining her reaching orgasm and you feel yourself having control and not ejaculating before you are ready.

Don’t give up!

Finally, a very important pro tip for you. Never give up.

This is not a one-and-done process.

This can take up to 6 months. Again porn is very very effective at getting into your brain and changing the way that it is wired.

You slowly are going to engage in the process of rewiring it yourself.

Think about how long you’ve been watching porn and then be gentle on yourself. If you’ve got ten years of porn or 20 years of porn under your belt and you only gave yourself 2–3 weeks to undo all that not likely.

Give yourself a while.

It may take months, for some men it may take years and that’s perfectly okay. Each time you practice you are making progress and if you slip up and go back to porn, forgive yourself.

It’s not the end of the world.

Beat your meat but don’t beat yourself.

Reward Yourself

One more piece of advice for you. Every time you do this I want you to celebrate. I want you to at least give a little like,

Fist bump, high-five yourself.

Whenever you got to do if you’re already enrolled and come when you want.

— You know I’m a fan of celebrating.

You often celebrating all of your accomplishments.

Both large and small are really important for making sure that this process is as fun as possible.

If you don’t believe I want to tell you what one of my clients said:

“Normally after jerking off while watching porn I always felt a sense of shame but from day 3 it was the opposite. I felt content having pleasured myself while improving my mental strength to last longer.”

If you feel sad or shameful after you masturbate to porn this might be a way of putting the pleasure back in self-pleasure and at the same time making you better at sex.

In summary,

In order to get better at sex with a partner, you can change the way that you have sex with yourself.

Instead of using porn and instead of fantasizing about hot sex that you want to be having, try visualizing the sex that you will actually be having.

This is crucial if you are going to actually get better at sex.

This is the way that you allow your mind to practice what it feels like to succeed just the same way that Michael Jordan did practice in his own mind.

Visualizing sinking the basket.

You can use the power of visualization to get better at sex and naturally if you want to be amazing at sex that requires you to have control over when you ejaculate control and feel sexual confidence. It will help you to last longer in bed.

You could be the Michael Jordan of sexual confidence.

I hope you enjoyed, don’t forget to follow me.

Sending you so much love,

Cheers

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