How to Know When You Found Your Person
Unveiling the path to true love, the feeling of knowing isn't enough
Whenever I'm out with friends lately, we end up having conversations about "finding your person."
Of course, we all have a specific type of love connection that we yearn for. I know I do, although I've been single for quite some time and have encountered some potential love connections. I keep getting caught up thinking these past men were possibly my "person," only to be repeatedly disappointed.
Until recently, the last rejection made me realize that none of these men were my true love connection, and it left me feeling a bit embarrassed about how I allowed them to sit on such a high pedestal.
You are your own person
If you want to find your person, be the type of person you want to be with. Take responsibility in your life and start making changes within yourself. When you begin to do the "work," you will recognize when someone isn't the right fit for you.
“Your relationship with yourself will set the tone for every relationship going forward.”
With each dating encounter, I noticed that no matter how long they lasted, each man was mirroring back to me what needed to heal.
As each experience showed me different attributes about myself, good and bad, I noticed what needed work. The more I worked on my negative traits, the more I could manifest quality men that fit my lifestyle.
#1 — They will make an effort and want to know everything about you
We often get caught up in game-playing and what we are supposed to do or not when it comes to dating, but when you genuinely meet someone, the connection will flow naturally, and you won't be second-guessing every move you make.
Your person will want to know you as much as you want to know them, and you both will try to build a proper foundation that will lead to a true romance.
They will ask you questions about yourself, about your family and friends. You will feel comfortable sharing your past, future, and desires.
When you are with the right person, you'll dive deeper and find more meaning with each other than surface-level conversations.
#2 — They will communicate with you about their feelings and won't breadcrumb or ghost you
Communication can be challenging for anyone; sometimes, opening up in a connection can take time. Still, once you build rapport with your person, you will feel more comfortable talking about your feelings.
They won't lay down breadcrumbs for you to follow or ignore you for days. If this is happening in your connections, then this may be a red flag that you should take notice of.
Breadcrumbing is when a person you are interested in communicates with you on their terms and only shows enough interest to keep you hooked on them while confusing you. It's a manipulating way for them to take up space in your head, and this is something your person would never do.
Ghosting in certain situations, such as a first or second date, can be acceptable if you both haven't spent enough time together and there isn't enough interest in indulging further. Of course, if one of the dates wants an explanation, one should be warranted out of respect.
Ghosting is unacceptable when it comes to dating someone for a while or a relationship, so if this happens in your connections, you should reevaluate if they are your person.
#3 — You will be your true authentic self
Being who you truly are is the most significant sign that you have found your person. If you try to minimize yourself to fit into their lifestyle, you come from a place of neediness. Most people will feel it when you're not authentic, and it's a huge turn-off.
Knowing how to step into your power and show off your incredible attributes with confidence and class is a sure way to attract your person.
“You shouldn't dim your light for anyone.”
We are not perfect humans, and it takes a well-rounded person to see past any flaws that you might have. Your person will stand by and support you but, most of all, put you in your place if needed. In turn, you can do the same. It's a balancing act between both people who can indeed be themselves.
#4 — The love will flow naturally
Knowing that you found your person is the feeling of holding their eyes and knowing they're the only eyes you want to look into. They will be your best friend, your lover, and your confidant.
The love will flow naturally, and despite obstacles along your path, you will always be willing to come together and guide each other through the storms. You both won't be trying to force the relationship or control the outcome. It will just be.
In closing
Knowing that you found your person is as simple as showing up and having a genuine interest in each other's lives.
There will be no breadcrumbing or ghosting because the love will flow.
You will be yourself, and so will they.
They will want to show you off and be loyal and supportive.
Until then, every dating experience is just a learning opportunity to show you precisely what you want and don't. Be patient and know that when the right person comes along, they are worth the wait.
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