How To Know If You’re Super Close To Finding “The One”

Now is not the time to throw in the towel

She was perfect.

She was a creative who wanted to make a difference in the world.

Someone who was kind and compassionate. Also, someone who valued family, spirituality, and personal growth. And to top it all off, she taught yoga and mindfulness.

We went out a couple of times before I stopped hearing from her. I kept trying to schedule yoga classes with her and she even stopped responding about that. What kind of yoga teacher ghosts students who want to date them!?!

The phone would light up and I would immediately think it was her but it wasn’t.

I’d search on Facebook and Instagram. Maybe she was out of town. Maybe she was busy. Maybe she was deep sea diving below the water somewhere and unable to communicate. Maybe she was in an advanced teacher training in the Himalayas and couldn’t talk or text. Maybe she was on a 10 day silent retreat where she couldn’t use her phone or text.

I had been so sure she was the right person for me. It’s not easy to find compatible people but we both had similar life experiences and saw the world the same way.

In my mind, she was “the one”.

Far away from the fantasy land of my mind, she wasn’t the one. No one had told her that she was “the one” for me.

I didn’t get it — how could someone who was so perfect for me, be over me?

It wasn’t the only woman that I had found that was perfect for me or I had thought was, “the one” either.

I had met a couple of other women in the past couple of years that would fit the same profile — creative, spiritual, compassionate and most importantly, compatible with me.

But for some reason, none of these dates and relationships worked out. Each fizzled out for their own reasons. One woman got busy at work and didn’t have time. Another woman thought we would be better off as friends. And a third just disappeared over the weeks.

Each was so right, so perfect and so exactly what I had envisioned of the partner that I wanted but none of these relationships were working out.

What gives?

You may be having similar experiences.

You may be finding compatible partners and it feels like this person is “the one” for you.

You may have dated just for a short time but you have strong feelings that this person is your person.

This person is “the one” until they are no longer in your life and you realize they were “the one” but not your one.

How could this be so? So many things in common and exactly as you had envisioned but this person disappears, ghosts you, or takes a yoga retreat in the Himalayas and has no cell phone reception!

If you’re in this loop of meeting terrific people who are compatible with you, speak your love language, and see the world the same way you do, don’t give up hope.

You may have to give up on the future of these passing relationships but don’t give up on relationships altogether.

You’re a lot closer than you think.

The person who was meant for me showed up a little bit later.

It just took her a while to show up.

Why?

I was growing, I was evolving, I was going through a personal development spurt. I was raising my emotional and vibrational frequency.

Each person that came into my life met me where I was and was a reflection of the emotional and mental growth that I was having at the time.

Each person was extremely close to what I was looking for but not quite it.

Every date, every new relationship that didn’t go anywhere, every connection seemed closer and closer to the person that would ultimately be a fit for me.

Even though that potential relationship or partner wouldn’t be my partner, I knew I was getting closer to the person meant for me.

If you’re far off from your potential partner and meeting people that you have no interest in whatsoever or are incompatible with, get on the self-help train.

Work on your emotional, spiritual, and mental growth. Focus on improving and becoming a higher version of yourself.

The higher your frequency and the more your growth, the better quality people you’ll start meeting.

If you’re meeting people who are vibrational matches like you, who are on the same frequency as you, and who are very close to your “ideal” partner, you have a different challenge.

See this as a game of “hot and cold” you used to play as a kid when playing hide and seek.

You are getting warmer when meeting partners who are great matches for you.

You are getting colder when you have nothing in common and are incompatible for each other.

When you’re meeting potential partners who are the type of partner you desire but ultimately the relationship doesn’t pan out, don’t give up hope or dating.

Keep going because your person is not that far away. Keep doing the inner work and raising your vibrational frequency to bring in “the one”... “the real one”.

You’re getting “hotter” (warmer and warmer) to finding the right person for you although it may feel frustrating and like dating isn’t going anywhere.

People may ghost you, disappear or never respond to you again. These potential suitors may be people you thought were meant for you.

As long as the people you’re attracting are better and better vibrational and compatible matches for you, you’re on the right path.

It doesn’t matter if those relationships work out or not — they are part of the journey to finding the right person and relationship.

You may feel frustrated and hopeless on this long dating journey but I want to encourage you to stay focused and hopeful.

You may feel like your love life is in the basement when all you’re doing is going on a journey where you can’t see the destination yet.

The penthouse to the love of your life is not that far away. You just have to stay the course, stay hopeful, do the inner work, and keep showing up for love.

The love you seek and the lover you want are just around the corner.

Now is not the time to give up. Keep going so you’ll be ready when the right person for you shows up.

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