How To Know If You’re Ready To Start Dating Again
Your Answer To This One Question Will Tell You
There’s nothing more responsible than understanding the truth about your heart’s condition. If you experienced a true heartbreak, it could be traumatic. The emotional pain of losing someone you love is equal to physical pain. The body only processes it differently. The body doesn’t feel the pain, but it knows that it’s in pain. They say that time heals every wound. This saying is almost true. I believe time heals all, except the first cut—the deepest of them all.
What seems to happen when we love again is the reopening of that first cut. That’s the reason why we go through so much change after heartbreaks. There’s this need to reinvent yourself. Sometimes we change the people we surround ourselves with for most of the day. Some take it all out in the gym. Gain muscle, booty, abs, or lose excess weight. Regardless of which direction you take, it’s essential to understand that you have this wound that will never heal. We often equate moving on to healing — but they’re two entirely different stages.
You can quickly move on without healing. Have you ever went through a break-up, and that person you were with already moved on to someone else? That’s what I mean; it’s easy to move on; healing takes growth. Growth takes time. But there will come a time when you feel like you’re ready to love again. You feel like you’re fully restored and prepared to share your heart with someone else. However, you’re more secure this time. You’re more defensive. You took so much time to get where you are, and you’ve become wiser.
How do you know if you’re truly ready to love again? This is an important question because you already know how it feels to be heartbroken. Do you want someone else to feel that way? Do you want to lead someone on knowing that you’re not entirely ready to love again? It’s easy to say yes or no, but instead of answering that question, ask yourself a better question.
Pretend you’re a parent and ask yourself, would you let your son date you? Would you let your daughter date you? Who you are right now only you know. So think about all your imperfections and everything you’re that makes you who you are. Would you let your future child date the person you are right now? The answer to this question will tell you if you’re ready to love again or not. You got to be honest with yourself. Remember, this is your unborn (or if you are a parent) son or daughter.
Personally, when I ask myself this question, I say hell no. I would not let my daughter date someone like me. I’m a wreck, unemployed, damn near broke, and I haven’t even taken a shower today. It’s 11:50 pm as I write this. My unborn daughter? Dating the person I am? Oh, hell no. I would snatch her and send her to a private school in Nova Scotia faster than you can Google where the hell that is. I don’t even know where the hell that is so fair enough. That’s because I know my secrets. I see the front that I put up. I’m not afraid to admit that I do live with a facade.
So now do the same thing with yourself. Would you be okay with your son or daughter dating the person you are right now? If you say yes, then more power to you. That means you’re ready to love again. However, remember that you’re not only letting them date the person you are. You’re giving them away to be taken care of by someone who is living a parallel life as you. I’m not ready, nor is my bank account. I got a lot of growing up to do.
