Summary

The article discusses the challenges and uncertainties in determining whether one's boyfriend has the potential to succeed, emphasizing that success is rare and "potential" is often speculative.

Abstract

The content reflects on a forum post where a young woman seeks to ascertain her boyfriend's potential for success, driven by her desire for a comfortable life. The author initially presents common indicators of success, such as learning ability, self-management, teamwork, communication skills, and stress handling, but quickly dismisses these as overly simplistic and non-guaranteed factors. Instead, the author shares anecdotes of successful individuals who were once overlooked or rejected, suggesting that predicting future success is highly uncertain. The article concludes with advice to focus on love and commitment rather than potential success, questioning whether one would still choose to marry their partner if they remained ordinary or poor.

Opinions

The author criticizes the generic advice on identifying potential for success, labeling it as "correct nonsense" that doesn't guarantee success.
Success is portrayed as a rare event, and the concept of "potential" is seen as largely speculative and not a reliable basis for choosing a life partner.
The article suggests that even large companies struggle to identify individuals who will become successful, implying that personal judgment in this area is inherently limited.
The author's core advice is to consider whether one would marry their partner regardless of their potential for success, emphasizing the importance of love and commitment over financial prospects.
The narrative underscores the importance of being with someone through thick and thin, rather than basing a relationship on the uncertainty of future success.

How to Know if Your Boyfriend Has the Potential to Succeed

Be careful of the results generated by ChatGPT.

While I was wandering around a forum, I came across a post that asked a very realistic question.

The original poster was a young girl. She has had a boyfriend since she was a student. But after stepping into society, she felt the cruelty of society — No matter what she wants to do, she needed to spend money.

She wants to get a good life, but she is not capable enough, so she wants to marry a rich man or a potential rich man. Ultimately, she came up with this soul-torture:

How To Know if My Boyfriend Has the Potential To Succeed?

Here I will not comment on the girl’s values, I just want to discuss the issue itself.

There are many factors that can indicate a person’s potential for success. Some signs that your boyfriend may have potential include:

His learning ability and curiosity: A person’s willingness to learn and explore new things is often a good indicator of their potential.
His ability to self-manage: Someone who is able to effectively manage their time and tasks is likely to be more successful.
His ability to work well in a team: Being able to collaborate and work well with others is often a key factor in success.
His communication skills: The ability to clearly and effectively communicate one’s thoughts and ideas is often important for success.
His sense of responsibility and ability to handle stress: A strong sense of responsibility and the ability to handle stress well can also be indicators of potential.

Wait, do you think my answer will be these advice?

No, No, No, the above answers are generated by ChatGPT.

This is all purely correct nonsense.

Learning ability, social skills, etc. are all necessary skills for successful people, but having these skills does not guarantee you will be successful.

If someone gives you similar advice in the future, ignore it, these are all correct nonsense, I can write 10,000 similar advices in a second.

So what is my answer? Let me tell you a few stories first:

Larry Ellison, one of the richest guys in Silicon Valley, is bullshit until he was 32.
Wozniak, before co-founding Apple with Steven Jobs, his proposal was rejected by HP 5 times.
Brian Acton’s resume was rejected by Facebook. Later Brian created WhatsApp, which was then acquired by Facebook for $19 billion.

Many great people are not favored by people before they succeed. Even the most famous companies in the world miss out on top talent.

If you have the ability to find someone who will be successful in the future, then just go straight to venture capital instead of picking a boyfriend.

So my answer is brutal: it’s hard to find a boyfriend with potential. It’s hard to do that, even for the top companies

Well, sorry, I can’t teach you how to find a boyfriend who has the potential to be successful. But as an older person, I still have some experience to share with you younger.

Faced with a boyfriend who has been in love for many years, when you decide whether to marry him, the question you should ask yourself should be: If he was an ordinary person all his life, even poor, would you still be willing to marry him?

If your answer is “yes”, then you can marry him.

The so-called “success” is really a small probability event, and the so-called “potential” is also bluffing.

Imagine if one day he has nothing: are you scared and overwhelmed, or are you still willing to be with him and hug him and say “I am here”?

These are the questions to ask when considering who you marry.