How Do You Keep The Honeymoon Alive?— Take The Red Pill And Reprogram Your Mind
“You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. Remember, all I’m offering is the truth. Nothing more.” — Morpheus, The Matrix
Falling in love becomes unexplainable, it opens the door to a world we’ve never been to before. We fall down into a rabbit hole of a whole different life with this person. We are suddenly shot straight to wonderland, where everything with this person is fresh, invigorating, and passionate. We feel fully alive in this moment with the one we’ve been searching for our whole lives. We go into the depths of each other’s mind, picking apart each aspect of our lives. We are here, giving them our total attention to know more profound parts of them. Maybe even parts they don’t intend to reveal. There are new truths that unfold before us, there are parts that we never really knew were there until this amazing person helped us admit it to ourselves. We are entirely mindful of who we are, and how we act around this person.
Falling in love is like taking the red pill.
Before you fall in love, you are most likely on autopilot. Going through the motions as you try to survive each day. That was how I felt before I fell in love.
There were periods of my life where I was stuck on autopilot. Playing along with the program, there was nothing that excited me. I was working a retail job at a Museum shop (and still am), in the first half of the year, I was just going through the same routine, five days a week. I only looked forward to my weekends, and during my weekends, I did nothing more than made me excited to get up every day. It was the same routine.
Until I met the one. Everything was new and fresh again, as we danced with love. I was also focused on who I was at each moment. I gave him my full attention, I was so focused on the sound of his voice, his words, and his gestures. I wanted to get to know everything about this guy. I wanted to be the best parts of myself whenever I was with him. I was mindful of who I was. I was suddenly pulled into consciousness.
Our subconscious mind is our program that we have been conditioned to. According to Stem cell Biologist, Dr Bruce Lipton, claims that our subconscious mind is what puts us into autopilot. Once we see our mind start to wander, you’ve lost control of your mind. When your consciousness is at the front of your mind, that is when you are in absolute control of your wishes, desires, and whatever else you want. The moment your conscious mind goes off into a thought or starts thinking within, you’re handing over the wheel to your subconscious thinking. It is no longer you do the thinking, but the old, outdated patterns of your mom, dad, sibling, a teacher, a system. There are many different lessons and ways of behaving that we attained in our development stages, being some good and positive, and others could be self-destructive. Therefore, if your mind is wandering, then you are being run by the subconscious. When your mind is straight forward in consciousness, you are in control.
Being in love keeps you conscious. You’ve been looking for this partner your whole life and, finally, they are right in front of you. You could be in autopilot mode, going to the same job, doing the same thing, seeing the same people, doing the same routine, over and over again, then suddenly the person you love comes, and you’re in paradise.
At that moment you stop playing the program and now you’re operating from the conscious mind.
However, those profound moments of loving consciousness are merely the honeymoon effect for us. And we each believe, or as its typically warned — the honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. Because eventually things start to get in the way, like your job, chores, your responsibilities, and once you start thinking then the conscious mind is shut off. Then, you begin to slips back into your subconscious mind wandering. What shows up is all those negative behaviors in the subconscious mind that you were trying to have control over before.
You see another side of them that comes out during an argument that these behaviors never came up before, their expressions of their mother or their father creep up. Then your past conditioned responses start to creep up. Suddenly, both of you are standing in front of each other, wondering where all of this came from.
That is when the honeymoon effect is over.
Don’t freight.
You go back or stay on this honeymoon effect when you begin to make the conscious decision and effort to do so.
To keep the Honeymoon alive, you need to change the program of your subconscious.
How do you reprogram your subconscious?
The answer is Repetition.
What kind of Repetition reprograms your subconscious?
The answer is Affirmations.
Monks have been using affirmations for forever. Monks call these affirmations mantras. Monks utilize their prayer beads to reprogram their subconscious mind. They move accordingly from one bead to the next, and with each bead touched, they repeat a mantra. A mantra can be as simple as repeating, ”OM”(the universal vibration sound, that represents creation and manifestation), or a phrase as to “ I am enough”. They will repeat this mantra, over and over again, saying over more than 100 times a day.
You can make up your own affirmation that best fits to what you need to reprogram your subconscious mind to. By repeating these every day for at least a few months, it will become so embedded into your subconscious that you will then begin to think and act according to your mantra automatically.
Some examples of affirmations are:
I am confident. I am happy. I am the creator of my life. I am brave. I have overcome my fears. I am grateful.
However, for it to intensely work, you need to make sure that your affirmation comes from positive words, clearly visualizing applying this mantra to your life, corresponding how you feel, and consistency. You cannot just say the words without these components.
Repeating your affirmations is similar to studying. When you study, you implement Repetition. You can’t just study the same exact answer to the same exact question. On the exam, the problem can be presented in many different ways, with that same answer you studied. It’ll be hard to answer the question right away because you haven’t fully grasped and retained the meaning and understanding of that answer.
To retain your affirmation that reprograms your subconscious, you need to connect a clear visualization and feeling to your affirmation every time you state it.
You have the power to rewrite your program. Do not be played by the game — beat it. Do not let your wandering mind take control of your life. You are in control of your life. You are not your thoughts.