How to Have Cooling Hot-Weather Sex

When it’s too hot to have sex, be creative!

Sex can take many forms; in a way, it’s what makes it so spectacular. We can feel intense physical pleasure from a hard fuck, as we can fully embrace the sweetness and tenderness of the slow lovemaking. We can achieve orgasm through penetration, masturbation, with or without sex toys, being kink or vanilla…

Sex is what we make of it, and there is so much we can do! And this also applies when we are challenged with heatwaves like the one that attacked the UK last week. It was time to be creative!

How to have cooling hot-weather sex

Besides the obvious options: blast the AC or turn on all the fans in the house, there are other ways to have cooling sex. Prepare yourself with extra towels to wipe off the sweat and water for hydration, and have fun!

Get creative with sexual positions

Let’s be real here: as much as horny as you might be, in a freaking hot day, the last thing you want is to have the hot, sweaty body of your lover on top of you. You want less heat, not more!

Instead of choosing sexual positions that demand too much skin-to-skin touch, like the missionary, go with ones that are the opposite, like the doggy style or (reverse) cowgirl. Oral sex is also a good option, as you can maintain physical contact with the minimum.

Mutual masturbation

Regarding having minimal contact between your bodies, mutual masturbation is the best option available.

As I wrote in this piece, there are several benefits to mutual masturbation, namely, deepen intimacy and allowing you to know better your partner’s body and how to trigger pleasure (and them, yours.) And, for the sake of the topic, mutual masturbation is a way to guarantee sexual pleasure without the extra body temperature.

Ice play

Temperature play can be extremely arousing. Despite being a huge fan of wax play, in hot weather days, ice play is the obvious choice: it cools you down, it spices things up, and it’s fun.

Ice play is very versatile; you have many different options to your disposal: let the ice cube melt over your lover’s body, kiss them after cooling your mouth with an ice cube, go down on them with an ice cube in your mouth, rub the ice cube around their nipples or even insert one inside their vagina or anus (only if you’re sure this will be pleasurable for them.)

I also recommend blindfolding your lover when temperature playing. Because they can’t see what’s happening, where are you going to touch them next, or where they’re going to feel the acute temperature in their bodies, makes the scene much more sensual.

Use cold sex toys

Before sex, stick your sex toys in the freezer; your lover will thank you.

If you have a glass dildo, it’s a perfect combination, but other materials also work: the goal is to stimulate your partner with a frosty toy. You can also freeze stainless steel toys like nipple clamps, pinwheels or butt plugs.

Make sure break the temperature before you use them. Try it on your skin first; the idea is to have cold sex toys, not frozen ones, that can hurt your lover.

Food play

Food play can also be part of the temperature play. Cover your lover’s body with whip cream and lick it all, in a slow, savouring pace.

The cold sensation given by the food will be replaced by the warmth of your tongue while licking it off, which makes is an erotic experience.

You can have food play with many things, like cover your lover’s skin with ice cream (my favourite) or let a lollypop dribble to their skin and then lick it. You can also use chilled fruit or drinks and even frozen vegetables. Let your imagination guide you!

Unlike the ice play, where I recommended to blindfold your lover, here I suggest the opposite. Sight is a powerful aphrodisiac; your lover will be delighted watching you eating your treats from their body.

Have Shower Sex

Shower sex is amazing at any time of the year, but having a refreshing summer shower while fucking your lover is something you should embrace, frequently.

Have sex in your car

If you’re feeling adventurous and you’re craving for a refreshing place — assuming your car has AC -, why not have sex in your car?

A change of scenario, mixed with the thrill of doing something “forbidden” will definitely spice up your sex encounter. Needless to say, you should do it in a private place.

Summertime does wonders for our sex drive: we use fewer clothes, our exposed skin is an appeal to our lover and ourselves. However, the hot temperature of the rooms and our bodies often can impede to a fulfilled sexual experience.

Having cooling sexual alternatives is a way to satisfy your sexual desires fully; to continue to have fun, erotic and pleasurable sex.

Heatwaves don’t have to slow down your sex life, much the opposite: it means you can use your creativity and spice up things!

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