How To Have a Sex Dream or Wet Dream — 2 Methods + 7 Exercises

Answering one of the most googled questions about sex

What if you could have sex with anybody — while you were sleeping? These dreams can make you feel absurdly happy when you wake up in the morning. I would love that. But isn’t it just a pipe dream to custom design your dreams?

One professional says you can do it in two ways:

“Obsess about it and whom you’d like to do it with all day! We tend to dream about what is on our mind the most so if you occupy your mind all day, you are more likely to have a sex dream that night,” says Lauri Loewenberg, a professional dream analyst, about the first method. She has written a book about controlling your dreams: Dream On It: Unlock Your Dreams, Change Your Life.

A sex dream or wet dream is a nighttime discharge. It is also called a nightfall or sleep orgasm and is an automatic orgasm during sleep. It involves ejaculation for a boy, or vaginal wetness, or an orgasm for a girl.

The second method to have a sex dream — it is for girls only — is to ovulate. Lauri Loewenberg says, “during ovulation, we tend to be a bit more randy and this is precisely when you are more likely to have a sex dream. Start keeping track of your cycle. Ovulation usually happens about two weeks from the first day your period starts.”

My inner skeptic says I may never be able to control the contents of my dreams. But I may be wrong.

W. Christopher Winter, MD, a certified sleep researcher, neurologist, and author of The Sleep Solution, thinks that you may be able to train yourself to have more sex dreams

Like Lauri Loewenberg, Dr. Winter thinks that dreams reflect what’s going on in your mind — consciously or subconsciously. Sex dreams can be achieved by thinking about sex during the day — and if you follow the exercises recommended by Korin Miller in Women’s Health Mag :

1. Allow sexy thoughts

What you think during the day replays in your dreams. Thinking about sex sows the seeds of a wet dream. “If you can constantly remind yourself of the topic, you’ll be better off,” Dr. Winter suggests.

2. Visualize your sex dream

Spend time visualizing your sex dream. It’ll take some practice. You can write to help your imagination or read something. “The more you can make it seem real, the more likely you are to have that dream at night,” says Dr. Winter.

Watching porn can also help you visualize if you have never seen the ‘real’ private parts of the opposite sex.

3. Play out your fantasy during the day.

“It doesn’t hurt to try to play out your fantasy — as best as you can — while you’re awake,” says Dr. Winter.

If you can safely do things that turn you on, do them. For example, using your vibrator, practicing sexy moves in front of a mirror, or not wearing pants or a panty in your home.

4. Buy sexy lingerie

If you buy something you find sexy, you can wear it when you sleep. “It’s important that when you go to bed, you have some kind of a routine for setting yourself up for the dream,” says Dr. Winter.

5. When you go to sleep, start a sexy story.

Erotic stories really help. “Play out the dream, step by step, as you’re lying in bed,” says Dr. Winter. Imagine that you are alone in a hotel in Hawaii. Picture yourself flirting with someone. Let your dream characters touch you and kiss you. This may lead you to have more sexy dreams during the night.

6. Rehearse sexy scenarios every night.

“You’ll want to rehearse the same thing every night,” says Dr. Winter. Play the role of what makes you feel sexy. It can take many days before you start seeing your very own sex dreams.

7. Track your sex dream progress.

“If they keep a dream journal, even people who say they don’t dream will write something down from the night before,” says Dr. Winter.

When you wake up in the morning, write what you saw in your dreams. Write a few sentences that explain what you saw. For example, I can’t forget a dream when I was walking in the street, and all the boys touched me when I passed by them.

We don’t know

“We don’t know,” says Dr. Steven J. Hanley, a psychologist. For Dr. Steven pushing themselves to think about sex might be difficult for some people.

“Dreams are extremely difficult to study scientifically,” says Dr. Steven. “We know a fair bit about the brain activity and dreams during the sleep cycle. We know much less — almost nothing — about the actual content of dreams. One theory views dreams as a set of symbolic and disguised images representing psychological conflicts and wishes. What one dream means to one person can mean something different to another. There is no evidence that one dream image, like sexual intercourse, has the same meaning for all of us.”

Final Thoughts

I have been repeating these techniques for many years now. They work. If you are not stressed or worried about something, you’d see some sex dreams. You’ll enjoy them — every second.

Sometimes, the sex dreams last only for a few seconds. But they are really satisfying while they happen. The dreams leading to sex dreams are also sweet. For me, sweet dreams mean sex dreams now. When I was a child, my sweet dreams were literally about candies and chocolate.

Other than the exercises, if you have a sex partner, try role-playing. Share and live your sexual fantasies with your partner. Don’t be shy. Don’t let the fear of what someone may say about your private thoughts deter you from pursuing your reveries.

When you live those fantasies, your mind adds things to your real-life experiences. Think of it like starting the game at level 10. When you don’t have a partner, the fantasy that somebody is touching you turns you on. But when someone actually tingles you all the time, you think of more intimate scenes when you fantasize.

If you decide to follow these exercises, go slow. First, try to understand why you should do it — and then do it. If you have your own unique methods and practices to conjure sex dreams, share them in the comments.