How to Have a Positive Attitude After Two Divorces

Yes, you can. I did.

Do thoughts of negativity constantly bombard you? Do feelings of insecurity plague you?

These questions plagued me after my second divorce.

I had been a pretty positive person all my life until I got divorced for the second time.

When I got divorced for the second time, and I hadn’t turned 40 yet, I was embarrassed. “How does someone have not one, but two failed marriages and be so young” is what I would repeat to myself.

I had to start my life completely over, so to say I had a negative attitude was an understatement.

To the outside world, I was super positive and always smiling, but I was hurting like hell on the inside, and I wanted him to hurt the way I did; after feeling this way, I decided to see a therapist.

My therapist helped me realize that I am what I mentally and spiritually eat; this realization hit me in the face.

I refused to allow my emotions to become and consume my life. I had to change the way I was thinking.

If a person drinks alcohol, daily odds are their body will be affected in some way. They may have liver issues, develop cancer, or incur some other type of health problem directly related to the amount of alcohol they have consumed. In the same way, I was drinking the alcohol of negativity, and it was silently eating me alive.

Your body and mind react to what you put in it.

It was time for me to start thinking positively; after all, God knows I left the marriages for the right reasons.

The best part about self-discovery is you can change.

I change, by changing my thinking first.

It is as simple as choosing to do so. I decided to change for myself.

I started to physically feel the adverse effects my thoughts were having on me. I decided to think differently about my divorces and what were the positive results.

The decision is often the hardest part, but I did it, I replaced thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity.

I know, I know, it sounds simple, but trust me, if I can do it, you can too.

Decide what words you will replace negative words with positive words.

For example, instead of thinking thoughts of embarrassment about being divorced twice, I owned it. Hell, it is true, it is a part of who I am, so be it.

I replaced those thoughts with thoughts of freedom and liberation because that is what I felt. I started to say I am grateful to be free, and my happiness took over my negativity. With daily practice of this, I could genuinely smile again.

Once you have replaced negative thoughts with positive ones, you will start to notice a positive change taking place in your life.

Your family, friends, and coworkers will see it as well. They may not know what is different about you, but they will know that you are not the same person you were before; they will know something has changed, they will know your healing journey has begun.

To pave a new path, you must take a route you have not traveled before.

I didn’t get married to get divorced; no one does. Life happens.

Did I mention I was divorced twice? See, I said it with no judgment of myself, because I am free. Free to be me.

You can do it.

You can and will have a positive attitude if you replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

You do not have to live with your thoughts of what you felt in the past.

You can create a new and better future.

The choice is yours.

Today is the present, now is the time, save yourself from negative thoughts.