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The article outlines six straightforward and powerful sentences that can significantly improve interpersonal communication by promoting honesty, clarity, and respect.

Abstract

The author of the article, who humorously admits to a history of communication mishaps, shares six key phrases learned over six years that have helped enhance his communication skills. These phrases include expressing lack of understanding, disagreement, refusal, requests for help, expressions of fondness, and apologies. The article emphasizes the importance of using these phrases to foster better communication and suggests that active listening is a crucial component of effective dialogue. The author encourages readers to apply these communication "hacks" and to share the article if they find it helpful.

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  • The author believes that honesty in communication is crucial, as evidenced by the advice to admit when you don't understand something or when you disagree.
  • There is an opinion that it is important to set personal boundaries by politely declining offers or requests.
  • The author values self-advocacy and encourages asking for help when needed, indicating a belief in the benefits of seeking assistance.
  • Expressing genuine liking or appreciation for someone is seen as a way to foster positive relationships.
  • Apologizing sincerely for one's mistakes is presented as a key to maintaining good relationships and earning forgiveness.
  • The author places a strong emphasis on the importance of listening, quoting Epictetus to underscore that listening is a vital part of effective communication.

How To “Hack” Human Communication 101

6 Powerful Sentences I’ve Learned Over The Past 6 Years

The only conversation that never fails: talking to my Mum. ❤️

I’ve been failing at human communication for 26 years now, so I think I’m more than qualified to talk about this.

Over the years, I have pulled countless communication doozies. I have wiggled my way around questions, nodded my head when I should have shaken it, said “yes” when I mean to say “no,” refused to ask for help, failed to give compliments, and I hated saying “sorry.”

I started getting a little better each year since 2011, so I’m improving. Here are six communication “hacks” from those past six years:

1. When you don’t understand something, say:

“I don’t understand.”

People will explain again.

2. When you don’t agree with something, say:

“I don’t agree.”

People will respect your opinion.

3. When you don’t want to do something, say:

“No, thank you, I don’t want to do this.”

People will find a way without you.

4. When you want something, say:

“Excuse me, can you help me with this?”

People will be happy to give you a hand.

5. When you like someone, say:

“I like you.”

People will like you too.

6. When you know you did something wrong, say:

“I’m sorry. That was my fault.”

People will forgive you.

I think those are all the communication hacks you need to know. And whenever you apply one of them, do this next:

Listen.

After all…

We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. ~Epictetus

After trying one of these, can you help me share this message by clicking the heart ❤ ? It would mean a lot.

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