How to Get Your Ex Back
Being dumped doesn’t have to mean the end
We’ve all been there, we’ve met that one person who puts a spell on us inebriating us with feelings of love, and then they break up with us. But does it really need to end if the core of your relationship was solid? You love each other, you share the same values, he makes you laugh, he respects you, and oh…that chemistry; it’s on fire and goes unmatched from anyone else you’ve dated! So why let the trivial reasons he gives you be a cause for throwing your relationship away?
I want to share a few pointers that worked for me.
Respect His Wishes
Your first reaction may be to try to fight the breakup and try to convince him to not leave you, but begging is actually counterproductive and a turn-off to him. The more you try to persuade his decision, the more resistant he will be to it.
Respect his decision. Don’t call him, don’t text him, don’t tag him, and don’t stalk him.
Give him his space. Let him miss you. The more you respect his space, the more likely he will rethink the breakup.
Be Introspective
Take this time to analyze your relationship and look for weak areas. What did he complain about the most? Be honest with yourself. Are there areas you feel can use some improvement? Were you too clingy with him? Jealous? Controlling?
Take this time to work on yourself. Read books that will help you improve in these areas. Seek therapy or take a confidence course if you have self-esteem concerns.
Shift Your Focus
Use this time to catch up with your friends and family. Nourish those relationships and shift your focus from your life to their lives.
Spend time pursuing projects you’re passionate about. Are there any hobbies or charity work you’ve always wanted to get into?
The point is, become more interesting.
Have a life of your own that is not dependent on his. This is going to be good for you. It will give you more confidence, and it will be very attractive to him.
Get Physical
It’s not only about being healthy internally but also physically. Find fun physical activities that you enjoy, whether it’s swimming, kickboxing, or dancing. When you participate in activities you love, it is so much easier to stay motivated and committed to your exercise routine. You will feel more confident as you see the progression of your gains, and he’ll think you’re hotter as a bonus. Studies show that exercise will not only benefit your physical health, but your mental health also. It helps alleviate anxiety and depression.
Start Dating Other People
He doesn’t need to know, but if he happens to find out, at least it proves you’re fine moving on with your life.
Dating casually will allow you to distract yourself from obsessing over getting him back. It will keep you entertained, and it will further cultivate your confidence when you see other guys trying to win you over.
Men can sense desperation. So, the next time he sees you, he will see the new you in a different light; he will sense the new air of confidence you have developed since he last saw you.
Be Ready for the Text/Call-Back
Be willing to walk away. When he texts or calls you, remember that you are a new person who doesn’t need him. If he asks you to meet with him, do so in a daytime casual setting, like for lunch or coffee, or even go on a hike. You don’t want to go out for drinks just to end up hooking up with him again. That doesn’t show him your change.
You’ll want to use this meet-up to bait him into wanting to see more of the new you. Keep the following hang-out’s casual but productive, where the time lends itself to having intimate conversations where you get to display your change in attitude for the better. Don’t bring up your past issues, just focus on creating new positive, blissful memories. Be flirty and playful, but not sexual to make him fall in love with you all over again.
I hope you’ll try my tips to get him back! Best of luck!
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