How to End Your Mental Suffering and Take Your Freedom Back

Life is truly hard for many of us

Enough With The Stories

Mental illness and suffering can be very silent. You never know what a person is going through internally behind the scenes. You can walk past a person and have no idea the death thoughts bouncing back and forth in their minds.

Suffering is very real no matter what form it takes.

If you’re hurting, it is very important to acknowledge your pain and not try to minimize it. It's important that you feel what you feel, but be careful not to maximize your suffering or you may become it.

Suffering is nothing but amplified pain. Often when you're suffering, what you're actually doing is thinking, worrying, and ruminating on the pain.

For instance, when a person you thought the universe sent to you rejects you, leaving you confused, hurt, and frustrated. This can be very painful. But what causes intense suffering is the story you tell yourself about why they didn’t choose you.

You may start telling yourself that this person is so much cooler and much better than you, and that's why they didn't choose you. Another may tell themselves that their sins are just too great to deserve any good thing. Another person may tell themselves they aren't good enough or worthy of love and that's when suffering begins.

The pain is there, but when you keep amplifying and maximizing it; it turns into suffering. Amplified pain.

When you keep repeating those stories over and over again, it generates emotion and if you're always thinking negative thoughts to go with the story; you generate more negative thoughts and emotions and then your suffering begins. The stories and the thoughts become stored in your emotional and mental body and then you become it.

You become your thoughts and emotions. You become that emotional state.

Then you're naturally drawn to that state and return to it no matter what other good things you got going on. When it happens often, you drill it into your mind and in your emotional body.

You become addicted to the pain and suffering is the outcome.

The pain is there, but when you keep amplifying and maximizing it; it turns into suffering.

Thoughts Are Liars

The way to end suffering is to try your best to separate yourself from the many thoughts. Thoughts are just thoughts. They aren't real things until they manifest and they will if you keep thinking them.

Just because you think a thought doesn't mean it's true.

You can think a thought without becoming attached to it. You can think your thoughts and see them as nothing but thoughts. Thoughts are always passing lie clouds in the sky. They don’t remain.

You can think a thought and not judge it as good or bad. That way, you can step outside of them and observe them as clouds passing by.

If you judge a thought as good or bad; if you think a thought and judge it as bad, you go down a spiral of suffering. Then you get stuck in a negative loop.

So if you think about the person that rejected you and you think to yourself something might be wrong with you, you've attached yourself to a passing thought and so it'll stay.

Wherever there's an attachment, there's suffering.

To end your suffering, understand that thoughts can be liars. They're illusions. Everything is an illusion, and nothing is as it seems.

Just because you think a thought doesn’t mean it’s true.

See Beyond The Suffering

When the universe wants to bless someone, it sends someone. When the enemy is trying to mess with you, it sends someone. Your job is to figure out who sent who. It’d be a shame to waste your time suffering over someone the universe didn't even send.

Maybe this person that rejected you wasn't sent by the universe at all and them rejecting you is the universe protecting you from a person who would be a huge distraction from your soul’s purpose.

So instead of concluding whether their rejection is good or bad, don’t. You don’t know whether the rejection is good or bad.

Maybe their rejection is a redirection to an amazing sacred partnership that you'll truly enjoy or, better still, it could be leading you to the most important person — yourself.

Sometimes you have to trust.

Instead of trying to figure out what’s wrong with you for them to reject you, accept it as it is and detach yourself from the situation. Leave the matter alone and keep healing the parts of you that really believe something is wrong with you because of the actions of another.

Heal those parts of you that tell yourself those negative stories. Go back to the root cause of your suffering. Maybe it's a belief from your childhood, your teenage years or from a week or a year ago.

If you can go back to its origin and try to look at that original thought from a place of neutrality and acceptance, you can truly heal and move on.

You can choose to stop reacting to everything and start responding consciously to them. A reaction is out of a strong emotional feeling. A response is out of conscious decision.

Choose not to judge what has happened and just accept it. Then you can figure out your next move.

Is this how you want to feel every day? Be honest with yourself. Aren’t you tired of feeling that way? Or would you like to break out of that cycle?

This is something you have to choose.

It's not easy, but it can truly set you free.

If you can drop or change the story you tell yourself, you can also drop the emotional pain that's associated with that story. Then you can take your freedom back and live the life you came here to live.

PSA: Life is hard and you never know what a person is going through. You never know if they feel like death or darkness. This is why we all have to try to be nice to the people we cross paths with. Sometimes it only takes a genuine smile to make a person feel seen and kill death thoughts :)

Note: This article is only meant to provide spiritual guidance and lighthearted content.

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