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you often feel physically and emotionally drained. Even if you choose to ignore it first, eventually, you will see the negative impact. If you’re questioning the friendship, there most definitely is a problem.</p><p id="e53b">Do a thorough evaluation of the relationship, and the solution becomes obvious: you need to cut it out.</p><h1 id="0fd8">Define Issues. Don’t Sugarcoat</h1><p id="965b">At some point, you may try to convince yourself that everything is fine. That there is no issue, they are not making you feel bad, no one is putting you down, and everything is perfect. Clearly, that’s a lie. If you are at a point of evaluating the friendship and listing the ways someone is a bad friend to you, it didn’t come from anywhere.</p><p id="2782">Don’t lie to yourself. Don’t sugarcoat. Make decisions, which will benefit you. All the issues should be addressed, and you have to make a difficult decision.</p><p id="8ee6" type="7">Do a thorough evaluation of the relationship, and the solution becomes obvious: you need to cut it out.</p><h1 id="d008">Make a Firm Decision to End the Friendship</h1><p id="ef82">Now, it’s time to decide. You defined the problem, and now that problem has to be resolved. It’s not going to be easy, but you need to believe in yourself and stay your ground.</p><p id="7392">Make a firm choice to cut the individual out of your life, and not to let them back in. Be honest with yourself, and admit how badly they treated you. Don’t overthink — simply list the instances of how they are not a good fit for you. Remind yourself that you deserve decent people in your life, and you are a good enough person to attract someone who would value your friendship.</p><p id="b4e4">Sign a mental agreement with

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yourself, and promise not to break it.</p><p id="8ab7" type="7">All the issues should be addressed, and you have to make a difficult decision.</p><h1 id="b5e5">Slowly Disconnect</h1><p id="ccd2">Action time! Disappearing may not be the best solution, which is why you should slowly disconnect. Stop replying to the “bad” friend right away, don’t schedule plans with them, and gradually minimize interaction. If possible, don’t put yourself in the same environment as them, to minimize physical and social contact.</p><p id="360b">If confronted, decide if you wish to be honest or not. It might be a good idea to tell them how you feel, but you may want to come up with an explanation. Some of us choose to be 100% honest; others prefer a more subtle approach. The decision is yours.</p><p id="0f3a">Once the contact is very minimal, you will be able to carry on with your life without them. You will start seeing the changes right away because when you remove someone who influences you in a bad way, life gets more colorful.</p><p id="2fcd" type="7">When you remove someone who influences you in a bad way, life gets more colorful.</p><h1 id="d457">Find Happiness and Search for New Friends</h1><p id="ffb9">You can be happy on your own, but you can most definitely be satisfied without a bad friendship. Validate your strength and praise yourself for making the hard decision. You eliminated someone who did not deserve you.</p><p id="62eb">It’s time to make meaningful friendships. Replace the lousy friend with a good one, or better with a few of them. When you have positive people in your life, it impacts you in a great way. You deserve to be happy, and sometimes it involves filtering through your friendships.</p></article></body>

How to Eliminate Bad Friends from Your Life

Because they should not have been there in the first place

Everyone has had a bad friend at least once in their life. Once you say “bad friend” out loud, you don’t even have to elaborate: we all know what the definition is. It’s someone who doesn’t value you, invests no effort into spending quality time with you, doesn’t pay enough attention, yet expects you to cater to their every need.

Having such an individual in your life is never a good idea. While you may think they are not affecting you in any way, at some point, you start noticing the negative influence. Why would anyone keep such a “friend” around? If they do nothing, but perpetually being indifferent, there is no reason to stay in touch. Let’s draw a map of how you can remove them from your life.

Pause for a Moment and Evaluate

It may not become apparent right away, which is why you need to hit “pause “- figuratively speaking. Freeze the world around you and take a long deep look at your friend from a distance. Think of the most recent acts and words that came from them and evaluate their behavior.

Out of 10 most recent interactions, how many left you with a bitter taste in your mouth? How often did they make you feel uncomfortable or upset? How did they impact you emotionally? While interacting with a “bad” person, you often feel physically and emotionally drained. Even if you choose to ignore it first, eventually, you will see the negative impact. If you’re questioning the friendship, there most definitely is a problem.

Do a thorough evaluation of the relationship, and the solution becomes obvious: you need to cut it out.

Define Issues. Don’t Sugarcoat

At some point, you may try to convince yourself that everything is fine. That there is no issue, they are not making you feel bad, no one is putting you down, and everything is perfect. Clearly, that’s a lie. If you are at a point of evaluating the friendship and listing the ways someone is a bad friend to you, it didn’t come from anywhere.

Don’t lie to yourself. Don’t sugarcoat. Make decisions, which will benefit you. All the issues should be addressed, and you have to make a difficult decision.

Do a thorough evaluation of the relationship, and the solution becomes obvious: you need to cut it out.

Make a Firm Decision to End the Friendship

Now, it’s time to decide. You defined the problem, and now that problem has to be resolved. It’s not going to be easy, but you need to believe in yourself and stay your ground.

Make a firm choice to cut the individual out of your life, and not to let them back in. Be honest with yourself, and admit how badly they treated you. Don’t overthink — simply list the instances of how they are not a good fit for you. Remind yourself that you deserve decent people in your life, and you are a good enough person to attract someone who would value your friendship.

Sign a mental agreement with yourself, and promise not to break it.

All the issues should be addressed, and you have to make a difficult decision.

Slowly Disconnect

Action time! Disappearing may not be the best solution, which is why you should slowly disconnect. Stop replying to the “bad” friend right away, don’t schedule plans with them, and gradually minimize interaction. If possible, don’t put yourself in the same environment as them, to minimize physical and social contact.

If confronted, decide if you wish to be honest or not. It might be a good idea to tell them how you feel, but you may want to come up with an explanation. Some of us choose to be 100% honest; others prefer a more subtle approach. The decision is yours.

Once the contact is very minimal, you will be able to carry on with your life without them. You will start seeing the changes right away because when you remove someone who influences you in a bad way, life gets more colorful.

When you remove someone who influences you in a bad way, life gets more colorful.

Find Happiness and Search for New Friends

You can be happy on your own, but you can most definitely be satisfied without a bad friendship. Validate your strength and praise yourself for making the hard decision. You eliminated someone who did not deserve you.

It’s time to make meaningful friendships. Replace the lousy friend with a good one, or better with a few of them. When you have positive people in your life, it impacts you in a great way. You deserve to be happy, and sometimes it involves filtering through your friendships.