How To Deal With a Narcissist (If You Can’t Escape)
It takes 1 method to make them stay away.
When I first heard the “The Gray Rock” method in a narcissistic topic discussion, I didn’t know what it was. When I first read the description, I realized it’s something I’ve done before.
Removing a toxic person out of your life can be hard if you’re married to a narcissist and have children with that person. You may live with your narcissistic parents and moving out can be hard if you aren’t financially stable enough to provide for yourself. It’s a hard situation to be in. Especially if you have no support system.
The narcissist needs you to stay alive and strong so they can consume your good energy. They will never change and has an undiagnosed mental illness. They are sociopaths/psychopaths and never got any real help. They are too proud and egotistical to receive medical treatment. They don’t realize they are mentally ill, but they make other (healthy) people mentally ill if these people don’t escape from the narcissist soon as possible before it’s too late.
Here is what you can do to deal with a narcissist who you can’t escape from at the temporary moment. It takes 1 method.
#1 The Gray Rock Method
A gray rock: It is dull and boring. The gray rock doesn’t shine. It’s just bold and cold.
That’s what you have to do when you’re dealing with a narcissist.
Be boring. Be absolutely boring. Be cold. Be a mess. An absolute mess. Be messy and give the narcissist short replies. Have no personality towards the manipulative narcissist. Have zero empathy towards the narcissist who doesn’t deserve your love. Just be plain uninteresting to the person. Neglect them and they become weak. Do not react to what they are telling you. They want a reaction out of you. The narcissist is like children who want constant attention from the mother. They want you to be the mother while they can be adult children who throw tantrums at you till you’re mentally exhausted and drained while they become full of energy from using you.
Don’t kill them with kindness.
Kill them with silence.
They don’t understand kindness because they have no feelings or empathy but they understand silence and they will be butthurt if you ignore them. If you don’t give them your milk (energy) they will cry and feel helpless.
It’s time to stop feeding them your milk (energy) take their candy and they become weak.
Kill them with boredom.
Just be plain nasty and gross. Wake up with messy hair and no make-up. Fart whenever you feel like it. Burb here and there. Eat gross when you have dinner with them. Don’t feel bad about it. You take back your power when you gray rock them.
They will be grossed out and you become unattractive to them. Which is exactly what you want: You want them to stay the hell away from you. You want them to stop bothering you anymore.
Don’t talk to them like an adult. They can’t behave like an idiot. You never talk to an adult, you only talk to a demon with no feelings.
You only use the gray rock method towards the narcissistic person you live with if you have no option to escape.
Narcissist are energy vampires. They want to suck the energy out of the sun. And that’s you. You’re the sun. They need energy from you to feel powerful enough to use it against you and break you down. The narcissist can’t suck the good energy out of you if you are boring and uninteresting. When you don’t give them the energy, they become weak. Weak because you don’t feed them with energy.
Don’t ever, ever feed the monsters.
Pennywise from the movie “IT” feeds off people’s fear. It feels good to him when he sees people scared and helpless. It’s the same with narcissistic people.
Narcissist feeds off people’s energy.
“Don’t feed the troll.”
Social distance yourself from the virus. The narcissistic person is a virus too. Go for more walks. Being away at home means you take the narcissistic person’s power away and they become weak. They will be at home all alone and no one to harass. They have no one to harass the whole day because you’re outside taking a break from the toxic person. You need to breathe fresh air while working hard to move out and achieve your freedom.
The hardest part of using this method:
You are setting NEW rules that you’re not yet comfortable with. It makes you fearful, but remember narcissist feeds off people’s fear. You don’t want to disappoint that person. You want to be nice to the person but you had enough and now you’re setting new strict rules to protect yourself. It’s the first time you will say no to the person by neglecting the narcissist.
The other hard part is when the narcissist snap out one day if you continue to neglect their existence. They can become angry, hysterical, insane and will start to threaten you if you don’t stay strong by being in a survival mode. So be prepared if they snap but be fearless.
It’s not for everyone. It’s a method used for those who live with a narcissist, not for those who can easily remove a narcissist out of their life. And it’s not for the faint of heart if you aren’t mentally robust.
Once you don’t serve them, you’ll gain your power and strength back. Only reply/talk to them when it’s really necessary but don’t fall back into the trap. Remind yourself of their sneaky manipulation and mind control. Just know that it’s never your fault. Protect your sanity and mental health like it’s your baby.
And get the hell out when you can.
Chase your freedom.
Long for that freedom.
Because you deserve it.
