How to Communicate with the One You Love

What is communication in the context of love

Communication is the key to genuine relationships. Between couples, though, it moves into another dimension.

It is the secret to a healthy relationship and, at the same time, the most significant signal of how the relationship is at any moment.

Some will argue that love is the most crucial thing in relationships, but that’s not true.

How many stories do you know of couples that loved each other but couldn’t get along?

I see love as an essence that is trapped inside a body, fighting furiously to connect with another essence alike, so together they may achieve their splendorous potential. Communication is the bridge that allows that encounter.

The kind of connection established between these two essences is what is going to tell if the relationship is to last or condemned to fail.

Through how a couple communicates, you can tell how strong it is their love.

I love my girlfriend, and she loves me; neither of us has the slightest doubt about that. And yet we scream, and we argue, and we get mad and sad, but our communication is strong.

“Do you still love me?” pops up frequently over our heads, but these words are nothing more than a request for comfort food for the heart, disguised as a question mark.

Our true communication happens in silence.

How to communicate in love

Communicating with the one you love is a lot more than an exchange of words. I would even stretch this by claiming that words are the less important aspect of the communication between a couple.

Communicating with the one you love involves your body, your mind, and your soul.

When you communicate with the one you love, you look her in the eyes, and they say it all. Words become just an echo of what is being told.

When you communicate with the one you love, your feet point to her direction. They show her that she is the one that matters and that you‘re not going anywhere soon.

When you communicate with the one you love, your lips form a smile, only dismantled by the act of verbalization. Words here are not used to proceed with a conversation, but to extend that moment in time because when you communicate with the one you love, everything is said at the first eye contact, the rest is just a game of delays played by two hearts trying to freeze a moment in time.

When you communicate with the one you love, your hands seem to come to life, and they do everything they can to reach her. They will emancipate and cross the space between you and her and will touch her face, her hair, her arms, her waist. They will then find their way to her hands, and you two become one.

What it takes to communicate

When communicating with the one you love, remember that words are empty shells that can make a bang but will never hit any mark. What there is to be said must be told by your body, your mind, and your soul.

There will be times when your eyes will want to look in another direction, your body will adopt a defensive posture, and your lips will force themselves to be closed. When this happens it will be time for a different kind of communication, one with yourself.

This is when you need to listen to your heart and understand what he has to say. Let him do the talk, he will speak the truth and you must trust him, so follow his advice.

Communication in love is not easy, but it is simple. Just let your heart lead the conversation.

P.S. I Love You