How to come to terms with the fact that a narcissist took advantage of you

Many people have a big problem with this, they cannot come to terms with the fact that such a personality could manipulate them. It’s hard to come to terms with the fact that you’ve been tricked, fooled and deceived - it’s one of the hardest things you have to come to terms with. When you have to look back and ask yourself why you didn’t notice it earlier and why you went along with it and tolerated this behavior, you behaved this way because you didn’t know who you were dealing with, you didn’t know that you were living with a monster that wants to destroy you.

You were fully committed to the relationship, you were in love and addicted, and you trusted your partner who turned out to be a narcissist. You did everything you could to make it work. The problem was that, on the other hand, you were dealing with a dark force that did everything to prevent it. The narcissist was not as committed to the relationship as you were. You have sacrificed much and lost much, and the narcissist does not sacrifice himself, the narcissist wants to sacrifice you, he wants you to be his scapegoat, who once used, destroyed and sacrificed will be replaced by another source of supply. The narcissist doesn’t want to work on anything and doesn’t want to compromise. A narcissist wants everything that comes easily and quickly, chooses shortcuts, and follows the path of least resistance. When any problems arise, the narcissist disappears, and the relationship requires work.

Accept the fact that you didn’t know, you didn’t know about narcissistic disorder, now you know, and you won’t let something similar happen to you in the future.