How To Break The Attitude Barrier

It is the calmest of people, who breach their oblivion.

Mean girls, popular guy, that hard as a rock(in terms of abs and attitude) physics professor — all have something in common, they have a sentiment of concrete attitude that separates them from the rest.

Why is that? & How can we break that barrier?

In my experience, most people who usually tend to showcase such an attitude are not mere dicks, as the public might state them. They do this because they can’t spare their time for people that don’t deserve it. In saying such things — it does showcase that they have a higher sense of self towards other people. But there is one plausible reason for their implicit behavior and i.e. they desire confidence in their life — it is a requirement for anyone who interacts with them daily.

It doesn’t mean they won’t showcase this attitude to their parents — they can as their parents might have been the part of the problem as well. Thinking in terms of their argument — it is not hard to understand that they basically filter those that they don’t want to interact with. Or sometimes some overconfident people usually tend to progress this ability to have a concrete attitude towards others. It might come off as hate speech, and sometimes even rudeness if not clarified — which they clearly don’t as they don’t have the need nor the time to put themselves in such affairs as they are below them.

You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. — Brain Tracy

Now there are many ways to break this indecent display of self-confidence but the best way is to break it with a bang. Most people tend to display this barrier, that seems to intimidate others or showing them the sign to take off! There are a few things that they leave open unknowingly because of such behaviors. One of such things is a backdoor — one like the little pup comes through from your garden.

Now most people when they display such a barrier, usually tend to be showing a facial anomaly or expression that is usually a sign of dismissal which lets the other person know that they aren’t interested. But what most of these people forget is that they create an opportunity for someone who can break their attitude when they tend to become oblivious towards another.

This usually happens, when one person totally forgets how they are acting in front of others. This creates a space where I can step in, and snap them out of their delusion. It’s simple but it relies on keen observation.

The setting needs to be aligned where there is a certain calm where you can speak up. It mostly happens when others might be engaged around them and they will be behaving in their specific manner of avoidance. This is perhaps a split-second decision if you choose to take it, does break them out of their delusion, and usually leaves with a surprised Pikachu face.

I remember the last time, I did this. We were at my old university campus — a friend of mine, who would usually tag me along during his social interaction with his friends(he was a popular guy). We came to the subway, that was in our cafe and we meet his acquaintances one of whom was perhaps this girl whom I met with my friend not so long ago. She was displaying the symptoms of the attitude barrier. I had deduced from my faint interaction, that she is being oblivious of us perhaps because of my guy friend standing next to us.

Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike. — Oscar Wilde

You won’t really miss the kinds of attitude traits most people exhibit when they are on off terms with one another. Thus I waited for a few seconds and observed while others were chitty chatting. When I realized that she is pretending to not notice let alone say hello to a friend. I snapped my two fingers, in front of her — which probably broke his transient charm. She was surprised taken, aback of how I was able to talk to her when she was just blending like a chameleon.

I don’t know why people do this — I do. But that shook her to the point, that she went in, smiled, and said, “hello” to everyone which seemed fair at the moment. Though, I have to deduce — it seemed rude that she pretended to brush everybody else from the squad but thankfully due to my intrusion I was able to bring her back into the light.

This is not the only way, but sometimes you have to improvise and do something impractical or in simple words — something they won’t see coming.

Now many of us who were standing there might have hesitated because of the intimidation vibes she was giving to everyone. All of us can sense when somebody doesn’t want to give us their attention span. But no matter, how much someone can show attitude — there is always a way you can break that barrier to garner excellent results.

The reactionary is always willing to take a progressive attitude on any issue that is dead. — Theodore Roosevelt

Observation is key when it comes to breaking the attitude barrier — it usually happens through collective intuition and chance. The chance is always there yet however small but it can break a moment that you can actually grasp.

Confidence, along with other traits such as observation, and quick tactic — you can break anyone’s attitude depending on the type of premise you are treading. In my scenario, it was the awkwardness between the group and the person of interest. Which was easily broken by a mere snap, and improvisation.

In another scenario, you have to carefully look for queues — yes the person you are targeting perhaps will drop them unconsciously and the environment you are in can also establish certain queues that you can follow to make magic happen.

I have played a lot of strategy games, as a kid — it’s all the same. Whether it’s taking to a bold person being tender or by being bold & tender to a rude person — you can change and control the setting of anybody’s attitude. As long as you know how to channel the currents, of your words to the waves of the person of interest — You will be making an impact for sure.

In short, they can be swept away as long as you know where to take them. Tailor your words courteously but focus on catching their attention first with something diabolically surprising. There is nothing more to it than that unless you are James Dean of course.

Thank you so much for reading & Stay Safe!