How to Be Fearless

It is only a mindset

Have you ever been a victim of fear in your life?

Let me say, you are not alone in this; millions along with you are dealing with the psychological and physical fears in life.

What do we fear? It can be different for everyone, our thoughts lead to it. Most people around us are just living the life of compromises. They lack self-belief and try to avoid what fears them, rather than trying to overcome what troubles them.

Adults and children have one thing common, fear; a kid maybe fearing a dark room or monster under the bed, but an adult will be fearing about his job interview or any other practical decision of life.

In our lives, we used to face several frightful situations. Sometimes these are related to physical objects and at times it is about the psychological objects, but important is we fear them. No one has an exception to it, the intensity of the fear can be of a different extent to the people based on the respective environments of their life

The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. (Nelson Mandela)

Fear prevents you from following your dreams, you stop to chase your aims of life fearing failure or rejection. Persistent thinking shifts you to live in the mind only and not in real life. It is one reason that prevents you to see differently and act without fear.

People always fall to the fearing imagination and not to the real happenings of life. Few people even call this an insanity and maybe rightly so. You constantly worry about what is to happen in the future without realizing you can not control the pace of life.

In life, you will face fear in different scenarios still, it does not mean you fear excessively like most the people are doing. It is only poor mental management; it is just an impulsive act. It’s an unconscious response of the mind and you can’t do much about it but try to fix it.

The only way is to use your mind to come out of this condition.

Why You Fear

People who perceive life as a stepping stone for the larger opportunity do not recognize any failure nor sees any fear of failure.

But on the contrary, the one who regards events of life as success or failure will surely meet the fear sooner or later.

You look around yourself, you will find people around you that are having different phases of life, some may be rejoicing and others may be fearing the outcomes not favoring them.

Successful people act and think differently from others to be the winners. The growing business indicates everyone is the winner, But, in a downtrend, it takes certain different approaches to be on the winning side. The decisions made by the people result in a difference between the people to be on either side of the winning pole, it decides the winners and the losers.

The same is the case with the fear, you can be on either side of the finishing line but is only your imagination which will decide about it.

1- Fear the Loss

If you want to change your life, what will you fear?

You will be fearing a loss in the shape of changes to your comfort, way of life, relations, contacts to name the few. So, you would not like the change to avoid these fears.

You rarely witness people switch to start a business from office Jobs because they fear the loss attached to the risk. People concern about losing jobs, salaries, work, office. They continue what they are doing and restrain to follow their dreams because of these fears.

You need to view the loss as temporary, and believe in the outcome. It may be having more freedom for you than the loss. You need to focus on the gain than to the loss. What causes you fear is only what we think.

2. Fear the Process

You must accept change of any kind is difficult because it is always a challenge to work from scratch. People always think they lack experience, uncertainty, laborious work. The process of change is not a friendly one. So what will you do? You avoid change.

You keep on doing the same routine owing to fear of the process. People always do this whether it is diet, cooking, exercise, or even shopping for new products. They will fear the change and keeps the routine intact.

You must accept the challenge and it will allow you to engage and add diversity in your life.

3. Fear the Outcome

Before taking any steps you like to imagine the outcome. People like to cost-benefit analysis of what they want and what are outcomes attached to that action. If they don’t find it favorable they avoid taking the risk without putting their self-belief into it.

You always think what if you lose all and the result does not favor you. What if you didn’t earn more money or grow than the existing level? What if it is not better on the other end? It is fearing a result that keeps you away from taking initiative.

What if — What if — What if

Triggers

There are plenty of triggers of fear in ordinary life, however, no one can precisely single out what will scare them. Even if you can notice how out of proportion a fear is, the emotional part of your brain keeps sending danger signals to your body.

Fear depends on how you went through your life. On a routine day affair, you will be fearing by facing something familiar or unfamiliar. Some people feel a persistent feeling of fear daily, without any particular trigger.

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.

The mind is everything. What we think we become.”

— Buddha

You can’t drive a car with emergency brakes on, it will spoil your car. It is critical for transmission, for tires and it is wrong for everything. What do you do then? You just release the brakes once you realize it. What happens next? You surge ahead.

Most of the people move through their lives with emergency brakes on and almost all of them keep them throughout their lives. They never want to test themselves.

You need to accept making mistakes is just fine to become successful.

What Needs to be Done

1. Acknowledge the Fear

You are not doing any good to yourself by avoiding it, you must face it bravely and come out victorious.

People having these fear don’t need to be ashamed off, they need to accept it and seek the cure which is not challenging usually.

You don’t need to just shy away from the source of fear and continue to live your life, you need to overcome these fear in quest of success in your life.

“Act while you feel fear rather than waiting until you feel unafraid” — David Richo

2. Make Strategy to Come Out of It

You must remember that most of the time of a particular time of the day or of life you seldom fear.

You just need to stay like that particular time for the entire time or at least, try to simulate it considering you can’t stay in the fear the whole day or entire life.

3. Be Strong at Your Imagination

Fear begins with your imaginations; you need to be extra imaginative to reverse the situation and come out not to be in fear. The only key to fix it is your imagination, since, your imagination itself causes fear.

4. Take it as a Normal Day

You need to take the fear like we used to have in the horror movies. It is your thoughts that build fear during the movie and strikes out the fear in a moment at the end of the movie. You need to use those imaginary powers to challenge the nonexistent fears from your life.

5. Seek Help

You may need to have a kind of treatment in the shape of therapies or general medication.

Behavioral therapy is an excellent tool to overcome these fears. It will help you to come out of the fears and you will live a cheerful life to follow your dreams without any compromises.

Final Thoughts

You should accept that you are not the only one to fear, but part of millions who are suffering from it. You need to make a difference by fighting it to success.

You must believe in the results and work for the best outcome, you need to let off the fear of “what if” from your life and you must keep up the positive energies.

You must identify what comforts you and give it importance, time, happiness, family, and many more. You should strike out the fearful thoughts from your mind and become fearless to achieve the positives which are the outcomes of the change.

You must challenge yourself to achieve most of your goals of life. You need to be fearless to achieve these to become a champion. The more you become strong at your thoughts more you will reduce the suffering.