How to Be an Adult, and How to Avoid This.

We have all read BLOGS telling us how we should be, and what we should do, and yes, I am guilty of writing SOME of them.

There is a lot of talk about EFFICIENCY, not wasting our time, and being the BEST that we can BE.

But if we want to be truly fair and balanced in this debate, we need to remember that there are two sides to every coin; we need to look at both sides of this discussion and consider the advantages of not growing up, of being INEFFICIENT, doing less than our BEST (why isn’t near enough, good enough?), and wasting as much time as possible.

What is it that we want all that TIME for?

The only thing that we need TIME for is to LIVE, and we are already LIVING all the TIME now.

Everyone seems to want to tell us how we should be DECISIVE, and take CONTROL, and often forget the advantages that come from PROCRASTINATION.

A DECISION not made today, can also, not be made tomorrow. That is the beauty of it.

Why make a DECISION right now, when with a little mature INCONSIDERATION, we might be able to choose, not to make a DECISION at all?

One of the fascinating facts of life is that sometimes doing nothing works out best, or at least causes us less INCONVIENCE.

We live in an action-packed world, where the slow often get left behind, but hey folks, what is wrong with that? Why do we have to keep up with all those lemmings who are madly racing to jump off some cliff?

SUCCESS is held as the ultimate aim for all of us, but what is SUCCESS?

Being a SUCCESS, but at what?

What is it we should be, must be, if we want to SUCCEED.

FAILURE is an option. What’s wrong with that?

FAILURE at what?

What is FAILURE anyway?

Why do we have to JUDGE everything, everyone?

Why do we have to JUDGE ourselves so harshly?

Why do we have to THINK so much about everything, for what purpose?

What does THINKING change?

THINKING leads to GUILT, GUILT of our imagined shortcomings, of everything we do wrong. If we don’t do anything, how can we do anything wrong?

RULES and REGULATIONS.

We are always being told what we can and can’t do. Why?

I don’t mean LAWS, rules by rich people to protect their property and rights, so they can keep what they have, and stop you from getting it.

I mean the RULES that shape what we think and do in life.

I went to park in a handicapped parking spot today, but my wife said no. Surprised, I asked why, I am handicapped — I have a sister-in-law.

Some people fuss over DETAILS.

Instead of asking ourselves WHY ME, why not think, WHY NOT SOMEONE else?

Why do we have we have to be in the race at all, and take everything on our own shoulders?

RESPONSIBLE for what, for whom?

What is it that we are RESPONSIBLE for?

Life is difficult enough being us, why CARRY the BURDENS of everyone else, even those we don’t even know?

Why do we feel RESPONSIBLE for everything, for everyone?

I remember a story about a man who had a problem with his roof. There was a hole in it, where the water came through. LOGIC is the simplest answer for such problems. When it rains, there is nothing that you can do. If it is not raining, there is no need to repair the hole. LIFE is SIMPLE.

ANSWERS are SIMPLE.

Why do we make things appear so COMPLEX?

BILLS to pay. Why is that a problem? If we don’t pay these BILLS, there will always be more BILLS we can avoid not paying tomorrow.

And yes, we all have to have FOOD to eat.

But if you are SMART, and have a large family, you can take TURNS eating first with parents, then siblings and their families. If we are careful and have large families, there is no reason why we can’t spread our meals over the week, and then start the cycle again next week.

If we only have a small family, no problem, we simply have them cook twice as much, and enjoy takeaways later.

Remember cooking is wasteful as it takes up so much of your time.

We can all be FASHION STATEMENTS, cheaply.

Why is it so bad if our SOCKS don’t match?

Surely, Shakespeare is wrong, it is not the CLOTHES that make the MAN or WOMAN, it is the MAN or WOMAN who makes the CLOTHES. We are FASHION STATEMENTS.

Anyone can look neat and tidy, but it takes real talent to look like a SLOB.

WASHING. I once saw a TV program where a man had several baths in his house. He would fill these up with all his dirty clothes and cookery, and then hose everything each month, or so. SIMPLE SOLUTIONS to life.

RELATIONSHIPS and our PARTNERS, WIVES are so special to all of us.

We would almost do anything for them, but if we do less now, we can do so much more later. Lateness is its own reward.

Conclusion

When we think logically about all of this, it is clear that there is so much that we worry about, that we needn’t worry about at all.

There is so much that we do to chase some foolish dream or imagined need when all we have to do is live right now, and accept what life has given us. Often, it is enough. This is not true for everyone, and it is truly silly to believe that because most of us do fairly well, that is true for everyone.

Everyone faces their own DESTINIES and has their own CHALLENGES, and that I guess is how it should be.

Every day you step outside the door of your home you are already in trouble, so why go to so much trouble to look for more?

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