“There is something about her.”
How To Be A Beautiful Woman Without A Hint Of Desperation
Five things a woman can do to be extraordinarily attractive.
This is a special list of tried and true behaviors that make women highly attractive.
The most important magic however, is when she looks in the mirror and sees a glowing woman looking back.
The list is simple but the actions take some practice. You can do it!
1. Become admirable — as you interpret it.
Imagine you are not alone, and that you have spectators. If you were being watched by an attractive man or woman, what would you like to be seen doing? Do that! Then, you are embodying your own ideal. That is so sexy!
For example — If you think it would be great if an admirer would catch you while painting a pretty sunset… get yourself an easel and some paints and get to it!
Or, maybe you think it would be awesome to be admired as a beautiful belly dancer, but have no idea why or how. Open your search engine and find a belly dancing class. Give yourself the opportunity to be that dancer. Doesn’t matter what size you are, anyone can dance.
Maybe you would rather be appreciated for your intelligence. Great! Get to a library — or another resource of knowledge (such as Medium) and read, participate and add to the community of people who talk about the very subjects you enjoy.
By being the things you think would make you most attractive you begin to understand the meaning of fulfillment.
When you imagined being your most attractive, whatever you thought you would like to be seen doing — that is a calling. We all have many callings.
By listening to one of your callings, you are loving yourself. That is when you will be undeniably beautiful.
2. Show off a little — but create limits to keep what you reveal special.
It is okay to display a sexy photo of yourself, as long as it is shared in a well appointed place.
Don’t make your main profile photo a bikini shot. But there is nothing wrong with designating an album in your social media accounts for some flattering selfies or alluring beach photos. Don’t include too many though. Just pick a handful. Anymore than 10–20 photos of you looking mega-beautiful makes the photos lose their special, rare value. So carefully pick a few.
Hint: To prevents trolls from trying to shame you for being proud and seductive here is a little trick. For each sexy pic make sure to include a cute caption like this: “So I wont forget that I was smoking hot when I look back, 50 years from now.” This is a clever way to disarm negative commentary BEFORE it happens.
Also I want to point out that showing off doesn’t always mean photos of yourself. Sometimes, showing off is simply showcasing something beautiful about yourself. Something like your poetry, your music or your spiritual journals. Anything you put on display because you like it — that is what will make you shine.
3. Compliment the women in your life.
Using warmth to emphasize the beauty of another person has many positive effects. It is a vital part of being truly sexy. By sharing the spotlight you will find genuine friends in women who you otherwise may never have bonded with.
Here is the kicker. By highlighting someone else’s beauty you will ironically accentuate your own sexiest traits. You increase your own attractive qualities by uplifting other women and making them feel sexy. Men notice this. Men like this.
In a study labeled Attraction and rejection. Advanced social psychology by Finkel, E.J. & Baumeister, evidence strongly suggested the following:
When a woman is the type to compliment her girlfriends freely, without jealousy or envy, a group of men will almost always unanimously agree that she is attractive. They don’t know why she is pretty — they just agree that she is.
Highlighting the beauty of other women makes you more attractive and lifts the mood in any social setting.
4. Say no
Telling a man no will not signal him to give up but quite the opposite. Counter-intuitive as it may be, saying no increases the instinct of pursuit in a man’s mind. This is not just about dating, it works in friendly settings too.
Next time he asks you to borrow a pen — say “No. Sorry, but I need this one.”
When he asks you for last minute lunch, turn the offer down. You can let him know that you can do lunch another day.
The idea here is simple. Do not be too accommodating. He will need to arrange his time to catch you.
Because you are a catch, my dear.
Saying no actually makes a woman seem less needy and in turn — very appealing.
5. Be quiet
This is a challenge for women of all types. Even so, do not doubt the power of silence. In practice, you will notice that people rush to fill in silent moments with unneeded words. You will be tempted to break the silence. Wait it out.
A lady who is comfortable with silence is a rare type of sexy. This is the type of quiet-appeal that helps in negotiations too.
When you wait a few extra seconds before speaking, people will wonder what you are up to. People will want to ask you more questions. You will be more attractive without effort.
When you pause before speaking, the words you utter will be heard more clearly.
To recap — here is your checklist.
- Be admirable (as you interpret it).
- Show off your beauty — whether it is with photos or talents — showcase yourself in subtle, hand selected ways.
- Compliment the other women in your life, often.
- Say no sometimes — even for little things like lending out a pen.
- Be quiet a little longer than usual.
These 5 behaviors/behavior modifications will help a woman find how to love herself best, and in turn will make her more beautiful to all who see her.
Get to it, ladies.
Cheers.