How to Accept Uncertainty

And even enjoy it

If given a choice, would you really want to know what your future holds? You might think it would bring you some peace but would it? It might be nice to know the positives- though it would take that element of surprise out of life…

…Who and when you would marry, how many kids, their gender and when. Your career path and each job you would hold along with how much you would make. And when you would move on or retire. The friendships, the grandkids and in-laws, the vacations and such.

We live with such uncertainty now — it had me wondering what if we lived with only certainty. Might we see the silver lining to these uncertain times?

All the events that make your life joyful and fun might feel manufactured and boring. That everything is predestined and that there’s no free will.

And of course, if we had knowledge of all we consider to be positive in our life, along with that would come all we consider to be negative. The heartaches, hardships, endings, deaths all intertwined throughout our years — knowing just when it would hit or end.

Many of us already stressed and overwhelmed in these times could have more added to our plates. Fearing that something perceived as negative is just around the corner. And you now know it is indeed coming and when.

We would live our days in the future or the past — like many of us are doing now but with more reason to. We would be waiting for the next ‘good’ thing and dreading and stressing over the next ‘bad’ thing.

I believe it’s important to take the judgement out of what is happening in our lives. To look at it from a perspective of all that happens allows us to grow — if we choose. And part of that growth is the unfolding of our lives, as it comes step by step.

Would you really enjoy what you consider good times when you know that shoe is going to drop at some point? Since we are a society that focuses on the negative, I feel many of us would not enjoy our lives to the fullest.

We would focus on what we don’t want instead of enjoying what we do have.

Could that be you right now? Focusing on what you consider ‘wrong’ in your life and our world instead of seeing what you would consider to be ‘right’?

As I have shared in the past, Tony Robbins says that certainty is one of the 6 Human Needs — and so is uncertainty. We need that variety and element of surprise just like we need that sense of calm, security and peace.

Last time I shared with you how to take a NEW view with 6 ways to learn to embrace the unknown. How’d it go? Did you find some help as we navigate through these times?

Or do you need more help changing your view? Using the remainder of the article from Happiness com, here’s some ways to stretch your comfort zone to accept and even enjoy uncertainty:

1. Stop overthinking and over planning: Stick with immediate choices and facts — and trust your ability to land on your feet no matter what.

2. Learn to live in the present moment: We cannot change the past or predict the future — focus on what’s happening now. Challenged with what’s now? How is this time a growth opportunity for you?

3. Indulge in spur-of-the-moment experiences: Nothing risky but bring in some impulsiveness. Like taking a getaway with a friend or loved one. Changing up your route to work or your morning routine. Get used to things not always being ‘as is’.

4. Do not compare your past experiences with what is happening now: You put yourself into reaction mode instead of creating NEW responses. And then the same outcome could happen instead of growing yourself into a NEW outcome.

5. Switch fear for curiosity: By being curious about what’s going to happen next instead of fearful it helps you to evolve freely and embrace the unknown.

6. Exercise gratitude: You will learn to notice how every situation brings something to be thankful for. That every cloud has a silver lining.

Uncertainty will always be a part of life. If you just see the unknown as an enemy, how can you enjoy a life full of variety? Since our lives are filled with both negatives and positives, we end up missing out on half our lives.

When you learn to embrace uncertainty, also referred to as the unknown, you walk down a path that opens you to life’s wonders and brings in more joy.

This is the journey of self-awareness…

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Always celebrating, Dr Mehmet Yildiz, Founder & Leader of ILLUMINATION

Until next time ~

Sending you light, love — and self-awareness.

Be Well,