Summary

The website content outlines three key distinctions that a Purpose and Clarity coach, Dipanshu Rawal, uses to help clients gain clarity in life: the difference between "Freedom From" and "Freedom To," distinguishing personal "Issues" from "Characteristics," and the contrast between being a "Human Being" versus a "Human Doing."

Abstract

The article, "How These 3 Distinctions Will Make Your Life Clear," drawn from Dipanshu Rawal's coaching modules, emphasizes the transformative power of understanding specific distinctions to achieve clarity in life. The first distinction, "Freedom From" versus "Freedom To," encourages individuals to consider not just what they want to escape, but what they aspire to achieve. The second distinction, "Issues" versus "Characteristics," challenges the reader to reevaluate personal traits that may be mistakenly perceived as problems. The third distinction, "Human Being" versus "Human Doing," addresses the modern compulsion to overwork and suggests a return to a more balanced state of simply 'being.' The article, which is based on coaching experiences with 150–200 clients over six months, credits Rich Litvin for inspiring the concept of a 'distinctionary' to facilitate life-changing realizations through targeted questioning.

Opinions

The author, Dipanshu Rawal, believes that the right questions can lead to significant mindset shifts and that a coach's 'distinctionary' is a valuable tool for this purpose.
Rawal suggests that people often confuse their inherent characteristics with issues that need fixing, and he advocates for embracing these traits as qualities rather than flaws.
He expresses concern that the modern hustle culture, which encourages excessive work, may lead to high-performance anxiety and distract individuals from their core being.
The article implies that society's focus on constant doing undermines the importance of simply being, which is essential for a balanced life.
Rawal's coaching philosophy is influenced by Rich Litvin, indicating a lineage of thought and practice in the field of life coaching.

How These 3 Distinctions Will Make Your Life Clear

Directly from my coaching modules

As a Purpose and Clarity coach, one of the main models I use in my coaching sessions is offering distinctions to my clients.

Working with 150–200 clients in the past 6 months, I have realized how empowering distinctions can be to bring clarity in your life decisions.

Credits for this concept goes to Rich Litvin, who even inspired me to pursue this path of becoming a life coach.

He talks about having a distinctionary (distinction + dictionary) for your clients.

Asking the right questions can offer life-changing moments for someone. And that’s where the distinctionary helps us, as a coach.

Here are the 3 distinctions that will help you get clarity in life.

Freedom From v/s Freedom To

When I ask them about their core values and dreams, a lot of my clients tell me they want “Freedom”.

“Hmmm, okay. Care to elaborate?”

“I want freedom from my boss. I want freedom from my full-time job. I want freedom from parental pressure.”

“I see. So you’re telling me you want freedom from XYZ and ABC. Fill this sentence for me. You want the freedom to ____?”

And then they go silent for a minute.

Over and over again, this question has ignited mindset shifts.

Ask yourself… “I want freedom from ___ and I want the freedom to ____”

Issues v/s Characteristics

For a long time, I have considered my “detachment” as an issue.

Every time I enter a serious relationship, I would declare that I have detachment issues and I am working on it.

This went on for a while, up until my mentor asked me, “Dipanshu, for how long will you keep treating your characteristic as your issue?”

And that changed everything for me.

That’s when I realized detachment is actually a quality. Just like my overthinking.

Ask yourself… Are you treating your characteristics as your issues?

Human Being v/s Human Doing

This feels like a total anti-Gary vee type statement.

We are now being conditioned to hustle 15 hours a day, and that’s driving us away from being a human.

I won’t be surprised if all of this ends up giving this generation high-performance anxiety, the same defense mechanism where you hustle and overwork yourself to distract yourself from your insecurities.

I know this because I have been there.

People with high-functioning anxiety are often able to accomplish tasks and appear to function well in social situations. But internally they are feeling all the same symptoms of anxiety disorder, including intense feelings of impending doom, fear, anxiety, rapid heart rate, and gastrointestinal distress.

Two major symptoms of high-performance anxiety are:

Workaholism, or a need to keep moving or doing even when at home.
Perfectionism and feelings of constant dissatisfaction with the performance.

You are a human ‘be’ing. You are here to be.

Ask yourself… Am I too involved in doing that I am forgetting to be?

Summary

Ask yourself these 3 questions to get immediate life clarity:

I want freedom from ___ and I want the freedom to ____?
Are you treating your characteristics as your issues?
Am I too involved in doing that I am forgetting to be?

Human ‘Be’ing v/s human ‘Do’ing

3 Mantras to do less and be more

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