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n in a trash bin</li><li>My books were thrown in a trash bin</li><li>My shoes were hidden, and I had to walk barefoot</li><li>My body and appearance were shamed</li><li>I was kept in a restroom</li><li>I was told that I was stupid</li><li>I was told that I did not fit in here</li><li>I was laughed at because of my looks and the way I dressed</li></ul>These things hurt and traumatized me so much. I remember there was a time when I ran away and cried whenever I was bullied. I kept it secret and tried to search for acceptance from them.I had to act like a tomboy just because I wanted to be accepted. I let myself be like what they wanted me to be, but I never received any acceptance as a reward.How did I do to stop this?<figure id="c81f"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*N4XTNVcud_WyusSP"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@isaiahrustad?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Isaiah Rustad</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure>I just stood up for myself! That time, it was not because I was brave, but I was at the end of my rope. I remember that it was the first time that I pushed the bully hard enough for her to fall down, and she cried!I took that moment as an opportunity to tell her that I pushed her because I wanted her to feel my pain. I asked her “Now do you feel what I felt?”She told me that she didn’t understand because she felt she was just teasing me, so I told her, “No, it is not!”It works this way:1. Do not be scared to be alone and have no friends. I understand that it is easier said than done, but stop caring for them. They aren’t your friends. Once you show them that you are strong and you do not give them a penny, they will stop threatening you.2. You may be asked to do something stupid for getting acceptance, don’t do that! It’s a lie. You will never get true approval; you will be used instead. You will lose your self-esteem, and that is the problem that will stick around with you.3. Make an effort to be innovative by motivating yourself from the insult. I

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know, it is hard work to change your mindset, but this works. I’ve already proved it. The insult will push and press you down; your job is to jump high and higher.4. Report the situation to those who can truly help you, but don’t expect help from others much.5. Remember that you and a person who is bullying you will eventually grow up, and things will change dramatically. So, do not harm yourself because of them. If you do, it’s okay, I do understand, and I am virtually hugging you from here. Just remember, do not try to flee by killing yourself, you are worth much more than that; believe me, I have lived through this first-hand experience.6. When they make you embarrassed, do not go with their flow. Remember, no one can make fun of you if you do not make fun of yourself. Likewise, no one can embarrass you unless you do it to yourself.7. Be kind and be your own best friend as much as you can. You know what, not all of them want to bully you or want to neglect you, but because they are weak. You need to be strong and protect yourself. Do not give power to them. Once you stop crying and get stronger, they will become weaker and weaker.In conclusion:If you are being bullied in school, just know you are not alone. If you are reading this, I can tell you that I support you and understand what you are going through as I lived through it daily. I sympathize and empathize with you. Remember, you are strong, so strong and worthy.If your beloved one is being bullied, go and hug them. Show them that you are there for them, acknowledge them, and let them know that you will protect them as much as possible. Show that you care. Don’t give them insulting encouragement! Telling someone that is going through a difficult time that it “isn’t the end of the world” will oftentimes hurt a situation way more than help.A special note from the Author:Dear “all victims,”Remember my word, you will get through this eventually, and all shall pass. You will be kinder to the world. This world needs you so much.Hugs</article></body>

How should a victim defend herself from bullying in school?

“Bullying is not teasing.”

It really upsets me when I hear some people twist the truth about bullying. Bullying is not teasing.

According to the information mentioned in understood.org, teasing and bullying are different. Teasing is the way we make a bond, and when the person who is being teased feels upset, the teaser will stop. Oppositely, bullying is about intentionally hurting a person physically and emotionally, and it occurs repeatedly.

As far as I remember, I started experiencing being bullied at the age of 4, during kindergarten, where I was kept in a restroom by older students. I was kept in there crying and hearing the giggling of the bullies until the school bell started ringing, they released me. I cannot remember them now, but I remember the fear like it was yesterday.

How was I bullied?

During my teenage years, I moved to study in a different school, where I had no friends. It was the time I started being continuously and truly bullied about my intelligence, appearance, and social status

I moved to study in a private school where most students were from wealthy families, which I was not. Also, most of the students were brilliant and had a broad prerequisite education which I did not. In addition, the students there had luxury phones, fancy clothes and shoes, and game players, which I did not.

These were the initial reasons why I had been bullied in school, and then it continued for around 3 years. Why? Why did I let myself be bullied for 3 years? It was because I never seriously tried to protect myself.

Throughout my youth, I experienced many levels of bullying that affected me greatly. Some of them include the following:

I was pushed to fall
My backpack was hidden in a trash bin
My books were thrown in a trash bin
My shoes were hidden, and I had to walk barefoot
My body and appearance were shamed
I was kept in a restroom
I was told that I was stupid
I was told that I did not fit in here
I was laughed at because of my looks and the way I dressed

These things hurt and traumatized me so much. I remember there was a time when I ran away and cried whenever I was bullied. I kept it secret and tried to search for acceptance from them.

I had to act like a tomboy just because I wanted to be accepted. I let myself be like what they wanted me to be, but I never received any acceptance as a reward.

How did I do to stop this?

I just stood up for myself! That time, it was not because I was brave, but I was at the end of my rope. I remember that it was the first time that I pushed the bully hard enough for her to fall down, and she cried!

I took that moment as an opportunity to tell her that I pushed her because I wanted her to feel my pain. I asked her “Now do you feel what I felt?”

She told me that she didn’t understand because she felt she was just teasing me, so I told her, “No, it is not!”

It works this way:

1. Do not be scared to be alone and have no friends. I understand that it is easier said than done, but stop caring for them. They aren’t your friends. Once you show them that you are strong and you do not give them a penny, they will stop threatening you.

2. You may be asked to do something stupid for getting acceptance, don’t do that! It’s a lie. You will never get true approval; you will be used instead. You will lose your self-esteem, and that is the problem that will stick around with you.

3. Make an effort to be innovative by motivating yourself from the insult. I know, it is hard work to change your mindset, but this works. I’ve already proved it. The insult will push and press you down; your job is to jump high and higher.

4. Report the situation to those who can truly help you, but don’t expect help from others much.

5. Remember that you and a person who is bullying you will eventually grow up, and things will change dramatically. So, do not harm yourself because of them. If you do, it’s okay, I do understand, and I am virtually hugging you from here. Just remember, do not try to flee by killing yourself, you are worth much more than that; believe me, I have lived through this first-hand experience.

6. When they make you embarrassed, do not go with their flow. Remember, no one can make fun of you if you do not make fun of yourself. Likewise, no one can embarrass you unless you do it to yourself.

7. Be kind and be your own best friend as much as you can. You know what, not all of them want to bully you or want to neglect you, but because they are weak. You need to be strong and protect yourself. Do not give power to them. Once you stop crying and get stronger, they will become weaker and weaker.

In conclusion:

If you are being bullied in school, just know you are not alone. If you are reading this, I can tell you that I support you and understand what you are going through as I lived through it daily. I sympathize and empathize with you. Remember, you are strong, so strong and worthy.

If your beloved one is being bullied, go and hug them. Show them that you are there for them, acknowledge them, and let them know that you will protect them as much as possible. Show that you care. Don’t give them insulting encouragement! Telling someone that is going through a difficult time that it “isn’t the end of the world” will oftentimes hurt a situation way more than help.

A special note from the Author:

Dear “all victims,”

Remember my word, you will get through this eventually, and all shall pass. You will be kinder to the world. This world needs you so much.

Hugs