How Overprotective Parents Cause Trauma in Their Children

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be I am not shouting loud enough. No, this just made the situation worse; I am an unruly achild. They explain that they know better than me. Alright, so then I must be wrong. If I want to choose otherwise, it means that I am making a mistake. Ah, I really wanted to go on a trip. Maybe one day, when I grow up, I will travel. Is it really true that I am not allowed to go? Why is my wish ignored? My parents are prison-keepers. I am like a dog chained on a leash. How can they be so mean? Wait, what? You called the people who love you infinitely mean? How dare you? How can you be so ungrateful? They are doing everything for you! You fool, be ashamed of yourself! And back to your duties, why is your homework still undone?</p><p id="ca1b">While the example I described above of the inner thoughts of a child growing up in an overprotective family is somewhat extreme, milder versions of it are relatively common. So… no big deal. However, being common does not make a situation normal or harmless. Heart disease is very common, but few would agree that living with dangerously high blood pressure is just fine. Yet, living with trauma — and even using the word trauma itself — is considered wrong. There is no problem. This is just an overreaction. This is all our heads.</p><p id="f3df"><b>This is the second post of the 60-day writing challenge by <a href="https://readmedium.com/a47585f1af1f?source=post_page-----1202719c74ca--------------------------------">Alain Polo</a>! You are invited to join us!</b></p><figure id="735d"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*xcNtXkz6THlzejcJ.png"><figcaption></figcaption></figure><p id="8777">This article is reposted on my

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Meaning good is not necessarily healthy

We all have experienced some form of trauma as children. Sometimes it came through an accident that nobody could have prevented. Or, it could be school bullying. In some cases, the trauma happened at home. It could be abuse, maltreatment or… overprotection. Even the best-willing parents can make mistakes that resonate in their children’s minds forever. Yes, many parents love their children and are willing to do anything to ensure their children’s well-being. Yet, at times, the parents make decisions from their own point of view without considering what effects that actually has on the child.

For example, forbidding a child to go on a school trip. Yes, this ensures that the parents have control over the child’s life (supposedly). Probably the child will not fall down a cliff and end up with life-threatening injuries. Therefore, the parents made the right choice and did what was in the child’s best interest. Or is it? A young, growing individual forming their views towards the world is restricted from acting according to their wishes. They have no control over their lives. Their opinion does not matter. Their voice is just an echo in a vast forest.

If nobody hears my voice, then maybe I am not shouting loud enough. No, this just made the situation worse; I am an unruly achild. They explain that they know better than me. Alright, so then I must be wrong. If I want to choose otherwise, it means that I am making a mistake. Ah, I really wanted to go on a trip. Maybe one day, when I grow up, I will travel. Is it really true that I am not allowed to go? Why is my wish ignored? My parents are prison-keepers. I am like a dog chained on a leash. How can they be so mean? Wait, what? You called the people who love you infinitely mean? How dare you? How can you be so ungrateful? They are doing everything for you! You fool, be ashamed of yourself! And back to your duties, why is your homework still undone?

While the example I described above of the inner thoughts of a child growing up in an overprotective family is somewhat extreme, milder versions of it are relatively common. So… no big deal. However, being common does not make a situation normal or harmless. Heart disease is very common, but few would agree that living with dangerously high blood pressure is just fine. Yet, living with trauma — and even using the word trauma itself — is considered wrong. There is no problem. This is just an overreaction. This is all our heads.

This is the second post of the 60-day writing challenge by Alain Polo! You are invited to join us!

This article is reposted on my other blogging and social profiles.

You can find me on

Check out more of my artworks in my community on Ko-Fi.