How is Your Relationship With Yourself?

The question you should ask in the first place. If you won’t, it would affect your life in these 6 ways.

“Success is not how well people know you, success is how well you know yourself!”

- Muniba Mazari

We are well aware of what we are doing to people, and what they are doing to us. But little attention is paid to what we do with ourselves.

Just like the liabilities of others, you owe something to yourself.

We may be getting better, experienced, and mature each day. But we are having no luck with improving our relationship with ourselves.

People who have better self-relation, form a smaller group. Most of the time we are thinking for/about others.

No religion, no country encourages you to keep yourself always in the first place. But, no religion asks you to ignore yourselves altogether.

In my teenage years, I had a terrible relationship with myself. I cared for others' words. I cried for what others had said. What others are thinking of me? used to be the first thing on my mind.

I was not sure what I wanted. Just before entertaining an idea, I wondered what others will think of me.

We all stand in the same boat.

Doing for people, living for people deprives you of a sincere friend. But sadly, we have a little time to bother it.

When I healed myself, a different life was waiting for me. Renewing myself gave me the best friend I ever had.

The story inside is more dramatic. Unleash it.

How the weaker relationship is bad?

I found 6 ways, in which a poorer self-relation, ruins your life.

1. You see what others want you to see.

Thoughts are inclined to people. Your all stuff is about people. Your ideas aren’t set by you. Society does it for you. In the background of happening, nothing which you do is your own. What others are thinking, your mind follows.

2. What matters to you is the last thing on your mind.

As Your true self is lost in clouded and crowded thoughts, your likes and dislikes are tangled. Your priorities have last number for you.

3. You are less compassionate.

We, humans, have brighter and greyer sides. We know them if we look for them. If the purpose of your life, is to make others happy, you’ll have to feign betterment sometimes.

Looking at your inner self and battling with your troubles, you would be better for others.

“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.”

Carl Jung

4. Your true self remains a mystery.

Looking for ways to fit in-crowd, you are forfeiting your inner story. A story whose all sides you know. A story which is written by you and can be edited by you. A weak self-relationship hides those details.

5. You miss the real joy.

Joy comes from inside. A vacant heart can give you nothing. Real joy is in things you love to do. When you even don’t know what you love, how you can have real joy.

6. It keeps you from gratitude.

People and stuff which really matters, are an origin for gratitude. Meeting the demands of other people makes you less aware of those things. Striving and longing for other things, gratitude goes behind the scenes.

Heal your relationship with yourself. You are your strength as nobody can understand you as you are. Your inner self knows how to heal yourself. No self-help book, no article needed. Seek some help from the inside!

“It is so important to take time for yourself and find clarity. The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.”

Diane Von Furstenberg