How I Learnt To Always be The Hero of My Story

As long as you have you, it is going to be okay

Growing up, I saw heroes everywhere. In story books, on screens, in magazines. Heroes of sports, heroes of innovation, heroes of bravery. They all looked a certain way. They all behaved a certain way. And no-one I knew in real life (including myself), had any semblance to those ways. It often made me wonder what it takes to be an actual hero. To be in control. To be successful. To be the saviour.

Overtime, after continuous conscious efforts of changing internalized perspectives, I learnt that I am my own hero. And I have never felt more content.

You see, we as humans tend to gravitate towards what is easy. And feeling out of control, like a victim, helpless and on the bad side of luck, is easy. It is easy to look at someone else and think they have everything going well for them. It is easy to look at your own life and believe what you have isn’t good enough. It is easy to blame circumstances, people, situations. It is easy to list down everything that is not possible for you. And to come up with a reason for each of those impossibilities.

It is, however, not easy to empower yourself with absolute faith in your own self. To find satisfaction in what you do have and designing your life around the possibilities of what you can do.

Just like building up your physical strength takes time and effort, your mental strength needs to be trained as well. You need to nurture faith and belief in yourself before anything and anyone else. Before you begin looking around at others, comparing yourself to them, you must put blinders on and queitly look within. Your capabilities, your circumstances, your resources are enough. You can certainly enhance them, you can make them more favourable for yourself, but you must know this is what is YOURS and that is all you need.

This training of the mind, it needs to be done everyday. You build yourself up regularly. Consistently. You take support from the outside when needed. You get external comfort and help. But the real power, the strength to think through your emotions and transform your actions, must be generated and honed from the inside. You need to know that you can lean back on yourself. That you have learnt how to feel your feelings but then move on. That you have learnt how to refocus on what you have and what you can do with it to get to where you want to be.

And this cultivation of inner strength and self-reliance, it must come from a place of humility. It is essential to know that having faith and trusting yourself should never be incumbent on the end result. The process must not be conditioned to exist and thrive only when it is rewarded with the fulfillment of your desires. Not everything you wish for will happen. You must be grounded enough to have faith and trust in yourself, to put in your maximum efforts, but invariably know that the possibility of things not happening your way will always exist. And that is okay. When the time is right, you will do things, and you will get things. As long as you have you, it is going to be okay.

You fully empower your internal self while completely surrendering the external outcomes.

And as you find yourself creating your own possibilities, drawing all the tenacity and conviction from within, you will see the clutter of “others” disappear from your vision. They won’t look like heroes anymore. You might draw inspiration from them. You may admire them. You could even learn from them. But you will know that you can only live your own life. And save your own life. Because while the environment changes and fluctuates, you are in control of what comes from you. You are the hero of your own story.