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require little added maintenance, the butt can be a different story.</p><p id="e600">I’m clearly not oblivious to the physiological functions of the rectum; anyone who is, or pretends to be, has no business going <i>there</i> in the first place. Feeling comfortable with your partner is also very important in the instance that accidents <i>do</i> happen…which they might.</p><p id="9bf8">Still, I prefer to keep it as squeaky clean as possible. First then, can I really sink in and relax, worry-free. Call me a prude, but my second hard limit, next to <i>no anal on the first date</i> is <i>no scat-play. </i>When I have visitors, I like it neat and will make sure all surfaces are tidy before anyone steps over my doorstep. For the sake of clarity, I’m talking about <i>both</i> my apartment <i>and</i> my butt right now.</p><p id="1666">How does this make anal sex more intimate? Well, to <i>want</i> to put in the extra time, effort, and dedication required, I need to really be into it, and the person I’m inviting along. That in itself makes it extra meaningful.</p><p id="1702"><i>For all the dirty details on how to get sparkly clean, I wrote this <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-secret-to-enjoying-anal-sex-865d573cc116">in-depth article on anal-prep</a>.</i></p><h2 id="39b4">An asshole is just kinda moody</h2><p id="ef78">Some days butt stuff feels fantastic and other days they don’t—at all! This might be true for all sex, to some degree, but it’s especially true for anal. The sphincter is not only sensitive, but temperamental and therefore any kind of tension, stress, and exhaustion can affect its <i>behavior.</i></p><p id="eea4">It’s exceedingly important for me to trust that my lover is both sensitive and understanding of this, and won’t simply soldier on without paying attention. I prefer someone who knows me well enough to tune into my resonance without me having to spell out every damn word.</p><h2 id="0a33">It’s oh-so-intense, which makes me feel oh-so-vulnerable</h2><p id="464b">This is the most defining point for me: When anal sex is <i>really</i> good, I will momentarily transcend my body to hover somewhere above it for an undefinable amount of time. In these spaced-out moments, I have very little control over the movements and sounds I make. With vaginal sex, on the other hand, I still feel (mostly) in charge.</p><p id="5e13">A slight control freak by nature, letting go completely to allow someone a close up of myself in a state of unhinged pleasure is not always easy for me. Is it for most people? This is as raw as it gets, and therefore an unusually tender space for me to allow anyone access to.</p><p id="9085">In <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-ass-master-who-stole-my-heart-a2bd4959642e">a story about the partner who first taught me to really appreciate anal sex</a> I write, “they say that the way to someone’s heart is through the stomach (…) but I’ve recently come wonder if there may also be a way to our hearts through our…rear ends.”</p><p id="b185">I still believe anal sex to be both more emotio

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nally and physically intimate and close than most other things. This is when I feel the most naked, the most open, and as a result the most exposed. It’s also one of the sex acts that have the highest potential for something to go wrong; for it to cause pain, or simply just get embarrassing.</p><p id="8eb9">For the number of posts I see praising anal sex on this site, I see at least as many swearing never to go near it (again), often after having experienced severe physical and mental trauma related to it. So, while I’m excited to see this wonderful act becoming increasingly destigmatized, and more and more people adding it to their sexual repertoire, I can’t help but wish to apply a few words of caution.</p><p id="0677">While opening and sharing our hearts is a beautiful and empowering endeavor—one we should embark on as often and as much as we feel inclined to—we want to take the precautions we can to ensure that we only allow in those who aren’t planning to break it.</p><p id="95f3">If we apply the same logic to anal sex too, we might start to see less of the traumatic horror stories and even more praising the treasured <i>mystery-zone!</i></p><figure id="96b5"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*xKxnwqn_EUaHXW-qvkscVQ.png"><figcaption></figcaption></figure><div id="1dbd" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/sex-with-ena-1aecd927677c"> <div> <div> <h2>Sex With Ena</h2> <div><h3>All of my sexy pieces in one place</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*P6qZqcmqK8vjBMgBXCECcQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="08db" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-secret-to-enjoying-anal-sex-865d573cc116"> <div> <div> <h2>The Secret to Enjoying Anal Sex</h2> <div><h3>It’s all about preparation</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*XlGiQe9GU0DY7vB_viPzDA.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="875d" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/the-ass-master-who-stole-my-heart-a2bd4959642e"> <div> <div> <h2>An Ass-Master Stole My Heart</h2> <div><h3>A story about anal sex, and my (attempted) polyamorous slave-Master relationship</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*R_bshJEq85c7o4g9-51DjQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div></article></body>

How Following and Follow-Backs Make Medium Better

The Simple Art of Following and Follow Back on Medium

Created by the author in Canva (inspired by Luciano)

If you’re a Medium writer, you know that building a following is essential. But have you ever thought about the importance of following other authors and following back those who support your writing? If you never analyzed its importance, don’t worry.

I’ll try to provide here some insights about why following and following back is crucial for improving your Medium experience, growing your presence, and provide tips on how to decide who to follow and follow back.

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Why follow other authors and follow back on Medium?

Following other authors on Medium is an excellent way to discover new content and connect with other writers, which can help you grow both personally and professionally. Medium is a vast platform, with thousands of writers publishing on an immense number of topics, each with their own unique style and perspective.

By following other writers, you open yourself up to new ideas, viewpoints, and writing techniques that can enrich your own work. Moreover, following authors who write in your niche or areas of interest can help you stay up to date on the latest trends, news, and developments in your field. You can learn from their experiences and insights, as well as connect with them to build relationships and network with other professionals in your industry.

It’s not just about following other authors on Medium, but also about following back those who support your writing. By doing that you can build a community around your work, show appreciation for your readers' support, and increase engagement on your articles.

Followers who engage with your work are more likely to read your articles in full, giving you more reading time, and provide feedback that can help you learn and grow as a writer (and even improve your articles on the spot). Building a loyal audience will help you increase your visibility and improve your stats, such as reads and claps.

Following and engaging with other writers on Medium has been a game-changer for me in terms of reads and engagement. By creating a supportive community and connecting with others, I have been able to grow my audience.

As you can see in the above image. In the month of February, since I started to really engage with other authors and readers, I managed to more than double my Medium followers, get 8 more people to subscribe to my articles and even got a referred member through the links I attach to my article.

How to decide who to follow and follow back?

When deciding whom to follow and follow back, it’s important to consider the value they bring to your Medium experience. Following authors who produce high-quality content that is relevant to your interests can help you discover new insights, learn new skills, and stay up-to-date on the latest trends in your field.

Personally, I like to look for writers who offer unique perspectives, insightful stories, and helpful tips.

For example, HungryMinded’s articles on AI and AI tools have provided me with valuable knowledge and practical tips for implementing new technologies. Additionally, I appreciate the unique perspective he brings to the conversation about AI and how his Midjourney art and guides always leave a good impression on me.

Another thing you might want to consider is the level of engagement that the author has with their readers. When considering an author’s engagement, it’s useful to look at how often they respond to comments and questions, as well as the tone and quality of their interactions.

Following authors who I really like has helped me improve my reading time and makes my commute more productive as I listen to articles. Building a community of like-minded individuals and expanding my knowledge and skills is also a priority for me when following and following back on Medium.

The impact of following people that bring you value

Following authors who bring you value can have a significant impact on your own writing journey. By connecting with other writers and discovering new content, you can expand your knowledge and understanding of the writing world. It’s also an opportunity to build relationships with other writers, learn from their experiences and ask for guidance and support when you need it.

For example, I’ve been inspired by Luciano’s graphic designs, and the cover image for this article is based on one of his templates. His designs made me analyze my own and think about how I can make it more attractive to readers. I am particularly impressed with the consistency of his profile. In fact, I think it is one of the best I’ve seen on Medium and I highly recommend you check it out!

Another author who has had an impact on my writing journey and whom I don’t know how to thank enough is Meta. I always take into account his previous feedback when writing a new article and learn from his critiques and make my writing more effective and engaging. His comments also help me to improve and update the articles that are already published

Oscar is another author who has had a positive impact on my writing journey. His articles on Medium have motivated me to write more and better. The way he engages with his community is great and by reading his work and connecting with him, I have been able to learn from his experiences, gain valuable insights and improve my writing workflow. He is also building a nice community so make sure to check him out too.

I hope that the examples provided help you understand the impact that following and following back writers and members has had on me and will make you think about it more.

Following back those who support your writing can lead to more engagement on your articles and the creation of a sense of community on Medium. By following back your readers, you are showing your appreciation!

Final Thoughts

I strongly believe that following other authors and following back those who support your writing is an essential part of growing your presence on Medium and that by connecting with other writers and discovering new content, you can expand your knowledge and understanding of the writing world.

So please make sure to follow authors who bring value to your Medium experience and follow back those who support your writing.

If you found value in this article and would like to connect, I want to let you know that I’m always looking to make my community larger, and I’ll love you to join. So don’t hesitate to follow me or comment.

TIDBIT: Another thing about me is that I love to make lists, and I love to mix them with articles of my own and of writers that I like. Here is one of them.

Antonio Radu 🔹 on Medium curated some lists

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Let me know if you think one of your articles would fit well in any of my lists.

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