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n trees. We were super focused to get the house refurbished in four months. We didn’t go out. We didn’t see our friends very often. We were working. We knew it’s a short term so we focused on it. We didn’t want the project to last long hence our focus and energy.</p><figure id="583a"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*Nl_EMh9h77u2yl3hhzmTlw.jpeg"><figcaption>Me with the builders at the end of the project</figcaption></figure><p id="db39">This gave us a boost! We didn’t get distracted with “<i>let’s go to a comedy show</i>” or “<i>let’s go to that party</i>” or “<i>let’s get away this weekend</i>” and so on. We just worked 24/7. People don’t get it as everyone says work hard and play even harder. I don’t like that statement at all. What this means is work for the man hard and then go and party afterwards or whatever it is that people do.</p><p id="f415">I know it’s important to relax and have fun. However, where are you now with your relaxation and fun? Are you anywhere closer to where you’d like to be? Just because we worked super hard for a short period of time doesn’t make us bad people we just have a vision and focus. We know where we are going and how long it will take. We have a plan. Do you?</p><figure id="d136"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*6ad9ZHsxYvxb3nU9tKwOJw.jpeg"><figcaption>My husband with the builders at the end of the project</figcaption></figure><h2 id="6823">Communication is always key</h2><p id="a5a6">Maybe it’s where I lacked my skills on. Maybe I wasn’t very clear with my friends about what we were doing. There was little to no support from friends. I felt my husband and I are alone in this and we are weirdos. Nobody gets it and nobody seems to care what we were doing. Some friends and family were super nice and supportive. But most people just ignored us.</p><p id="174f">Not in a way that they wouldn’t speak to us but in a way that what I was doing wouldn’t make sense to them. They had nothing to say. They simply didn’t understand what we were doing. That created a huge gap between us and some of our friends. It shows who your real friends are when you are happy not when you are sad.</p><h2 id="c9b1">Sacrifices had to be made</h2><p id="f722">We moved into the building site. There was only one room ready — the loft. We had no hot water for a month. We had no kitchen for two months. We had to eat out. We put on weight as a result. To get to our bedroom was like climbing a massive mountain. It was a mission. We lived wit

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h dust, builders and noise for two months.</p><p id="1d8f">Was it worth it? Totally! It’s much easier to manage the builders once we are on site. It’s easier to fix little design details too. We had to be in it to make it amazing.</p><p id="449b" type="7">Only through struggle we create value and beauty.</p><p id="9f3f">We called it — a beautiful struggle! Did I love it? No. Did I have passion. No. We were grateful we could do such a thing. Some people dream to do the house up their whole life. We had our vision and focus and that’s what kept us going. The time was moving fast and we had to move even faster.</p><figure id="53f5"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*yrj0RGAN1cEodshvK_PxrA.jpeg"><figcaption>Completed bathroom in the loft</figcaption></figure><h2 id="ad9f">The outcome</h2><p id="6c24">We completed the house refurbishment within four months. Most people I spoke to said it will take us at least a year! We had a great team of builders. We had each other and supported each other through the process. I would have had lost it so many times but because my husband seem to have an understanding and patience of a saint — everything went smooth.</p><p id="1770">The house is stunning and is ready for <a href="https://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-72619606.html">sale</a>. We have created something out of this world. I never thought we can manage to create something so beautiful in a short period of time. This just shows how focus creates your reality. Yes, you have to work hard but if you work hard without results — then it’s not really working hard. Work hard for a purpose, reason or vision. Have an end goal.</p><figure id="34af"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*htAX2mLZfS37LDHoT8dZeg.jpeg"><figcaption>One bedroom in the house</figcaption></figure><p id="b5e6">We didn’t have much dramas with the build. We had it all organised. We planned it. We did it. Where are we now? Much closer to our dream than before. We are back home in Spain.</p><p id="466c" type="7">I constantly have to remind myself it’s not a holiday it’s our life.</p><p id="55b1">Our plan is to be completely autonomous in the next couple of months so we can create a better world for us all. The clear focus gives you everything you dream of. What’s your dream and what are you focusing on?</p><figure id="8548"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*gih6TNVBRzYeB9IuGoG8zw.jpeg"><figcaption>The loft room</figcaption></figure></article></body>

How Focus Creates your Reality

The Beautiful struggle through hard work

My husband and I made a choice to go back to London for one more project and then return to Spain. Our lives were on hold for the whole ten months. We did nothing but that project in London. We were focused. We needed to get it done so we can live our lives in the country we love and can do the things we want.

The Beginning

We bought a house that needed work. I was never involved in the house refurbishment before. It was all new to me. I didn’t know what to expect and what not to expect. We had to find builders. We had design the house. We had to put the budget together and execute it within a tight deadline. We had to make it absolutely beautiful. We did it all.

No-one understands what you do

I was baffled that some of my friends wouldn’t understand what we are doing. I was even hurt a little. However, it’s not their fault they are the “walking dead”. I wish they’d wake up one day and see the light of day. Or maybe it’s the other way around? Maybe I don’t get the whole London life anymore. I am not the same person I was when I lived in London. I woke up.

I felt like I have lived a lie and now I am wide awake to life.

I don’t work 9–5 so it’s confusing for people when I say I am flat out and working really hard. We had a massive house to make it into an amazing product for sale. People don’t understand how much time and effort this was. We were working every weekend on the house, design and getting all the parts for the builders.

We had no life just work

That’s a big city “life” work, work and work. After all we did come there to make money. Money don’t grow on trees. We were super focused to get the house refurbished in four months. We didn’t go out. We didn’t see our friends very often. We were working. We knew it’s a short term so we focused on it. We didn’t want the project to last long hence our focus and energy.

Me with the builders at the end of the project

This gave us a boost! We didn’t get distracted with “let’s go to a comedy show” or “let’s go to that party” or “let’s get away this weekend” and so on. We just worked 24/7. People don’t get it as everyone says work hard and play even harder. I don’t like that statement at all. What this means is work for the man hard and then go and party afterwards or whatever it is that people do.

I know it’s important to relax and have fun. However, where are you now with your relaxation and fun? Are you anywhere closer to where you’d like to be? Just because we worked super hard for a short period of time doesn’t make us bad people we just have a vision and focus. We know where we are going and how long it will take. We have a plan. Do you?

My husband with the builders at the end of the project

Communication is always key

Maybe it’s where I lacked my skills on. Maybe I wasn’t very clear with my friends about what we were doing. There was little to no support from friends. I felt my husband and I are alone in this and we are weirdos. Nobody gets it and nobody seems to care what we were doing. Some friends and family were super nice and supportive. But most people just ignored us.

Not in a way that they wouldn’t speak to us but in a way that what I was doing wouldn’t make sense to them. They had nothing to say. They simply didn’t understand what we were doing. That created a huge gap between us and some of our friends. It shows who your real friends are when you are happy not when you are sad.

Sacrifices had to be made

We moved into the building site. There was only one room ready — the loft. We had no hot water for a month. We had no kitchen for two months. We had to eat out. We put on weight as a result. To get to our bedroom was like climbing a massive mountain. It was a mission. We lived with dust, builders and noise for two months.

Was it worth it? Totally! It’s much easier to manage the builders once we are on site. It’s easier to fix little design details too. We had to be in it to make it amazing.

Only through struggle we create value and beauty.

We called it — a beautiful struggle! Did I love it? No. Did I have passion. No. We were grateful we could do such a thing. Some people dream to do the house up their whole life. We had our vision and focus and that’s what kept us going. The time was moving fast and we had to move even faster.

The outcome

We completed the house refurbishment within four months. Most people I spoke to said it will take us at least a year! We had a great team of builders. We had each other and supported each other through the process. I would have had lost it so many times but because my husband seem to have an understanding and patience of a saint — everything went smooth.

The house is stunning and is ready for sale. We have created something out of this world. I never thought we can manage to create something so beautiful in a short period of time. This just shows how focus creates your reality. Yes, you have to work hard but if you work hard without results — then it’s not really working hard. Work hard for a purpose, reason or vision. Have an end goal.

We didn’t have much dramas with the build. We had it all organised. We planned it. We did it. Where are we now? Much closer to our dream than before. We are back home in Spain.

I constantly have to remind myself it’s not a holiday it’s our life.

Our plan is to be completely autonomous in the next couple of months so we can create a better world for us all. The clear focus gives you everything you dream of. What’s your dream and what are you focusing on?