How Do You Know If Your Twin Flame Is Your Twin Flame? — Part 1

If they are your twin flame, you feel a strong attraction that a part of you is in them

For people who believe they have a twin flame, are you sure it really is? I hate to ask. This is purely a question the ego can ask. But I believe it is helpful to clarify some points in the twin flame journey in order to train our logical sides and make a healthier transition to the soft area of ​​our hearts. In some cases, lust and passion can obscure your eyes, causing you to not realize that you are in a toxic relationship. Not every powerful energy is a twin flame connection.

The twin flame connection is like a voice speaking from a very clear place in your soul. Often we hear the voice of the ego as the dominant voice. But sometimes, if we can turn inward for a moment, we reach the soft but silent whisper of our higher self. Twin flame approval always comes from within. Our soul clearly knows that that person is our twin flame. And this has nothing to do with any earthly love. Because our soul is one, we feel the unconditional love for our twin flame that we should feel for ourselves.

I’m not going to talk about the importance of unconditional love. I just want you to look at how much sacrifice you’ve made at the point where you say you love my twin flame so much. In order to love your twin flame “a lot”, you must first embrace it as a whole with yourself.

In this article, we’re going to talk about some of the traits that can set your twin flame apart from your previous partners.

You will recognize the expression in your twin flame’s eyes as soon as you see it.

An expression in my twin flame’s eyes took me directly to his soul, and I remember that sentence that came out of me before I even let it go.

‘’I know his soul.’’

They say the eyes are the mirror of the soul. When I first saw him, I felt a chill transferred from my soul to my body. And I actually decided that he wasn’t my type. I found his character or facial features distant from mine. It seemed too perfect. And I’m terrified of everything being perfect. I think someone is pretending to be perfect and too good to hide their flaws. I even thought my twin flame might break my heart with his baby face and soft demeanor. Of course, these were the results of my initial ego being hesitant about what he saw.

The repercussions of feeling these in my twin flame extended to me. I am someone who is obsessed with “innocence”. I always try to bring myself to the point where it is faultless and very innocent. Sometimes I hide my feelings from everyone and let everyone know me as the “silent girl”. I seem to fit in with someone, but inside I feel how impatient I am with everyone. These are my shadow sides that I’ve been running from. I think it was this reflection in me that I ran away from when I first saw my twin flame.

You feel intense belonging to your twin flame, not pure love.

I think the most important part of the twin flame is denial. If you have felt no doubt or denial in your mind even though your soul knew that person from the very beginning, this connection needs to be reviewed. You can be sure that your twin flame is that person, but the ego will always get in the way, creating doubt and denial. It is in the duality of our being human. Saying I’ve never had any denial about my twin flame is just as absurd as saying I don’t feel anything when I look at my twin flame.

When we look at our twin flame, what we see is not pure love but a combination of many emotions. There may be many emotions in this, such as hatred, hesitation, worthlessness, helplessness, and admiration. Because what we see when we look at our twin flame is our own soul. We are unaware that we project everything we feel into ourselves to our twin flame.

We don’t stop waiting for that right person in our head because our soul keeps us alive with this unreasonable hope until we meet our twin flame.

That’s why one of the factors that cause us to recognize our twin flame is the intense sense of belonging. This sense of belonging arises from within us without doing anything. We strangely see our twin flame as a part of ourselves. Undoubtedly, it is our spirit that does this. The soul sees the self-identical essence in our twin flame and transfers this feeling to us. We say that we feel very close to that person with our conscious brain.

When I first saw my twin flame, I said, “There’s something about him that belongs to me.” My twin flame seemed to have something to give me. It was like he had stolen a very important part of me and I was suffering so much without that part. Our body lives without a soul, unaware of everything. It just feels like there’s always a piece missing.

With our twin flame, the sense of belonging does not happen over time, a feeling develops within us with this feeling. We always have a sense of belonging. We just haven’t found the right person to give it to. If you’ve had a lack of attachment or belonging throughout your life, the problem may be that you’re waiting for your twin flame to come into your life (you unconsciously have the “right person” stereotype, but you don’t know who it is)

I’ve read a lot of opinions in the minds of twin flames that generally adhere to the “the one” stereotype. We all have something strangely in common. We are too realistic to have a Prince Charming romance, but we are too dreamy to create a “the one” fantasy. We don’t stop waiting for that right person in our head because our soul keeps us alive with this unreasonable hope until we meet our twin flame.

Ever since I met my twin flame, I stopped looking for the right person. I pushed my relationship dreams aside. Because I realized that I am happy to be with myself. I’m not after short relationships. I don’t like being in love anymore. Because now I get the energy that I produce from the outside “in love” from within myself. I don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy because I have found countless ways to make myself happy.

Knowing my twin flame has made me less dependent on the outside and more internally harmonious and self-confident. We don’t have to be together, I even thank him for mirroring my true identity.

Hi, I’m Bensu. I write about the mind, hard feelings, and self-love. If you enjoyed my articles about surpassing yourself and achieving your dreams, you can start your medium subscription from this link