How Do You Find the Courage to Become Your Own Guide
Four simple steps to become the torchbearer for your journey
Ever since we start to understand the language and the instructions, we are always guided by the surrounding around us, knowingly or unknowingly.
The surroundings include our family, society, our school, college, friends, and whoever we come across in our lives.
Every one of them impacts the way we think, believe, talk, and do things.
This is the way most of us live until we realize there is something wrong with this approach.
How do we get to know that?
The body that we have is the first time traveler on this journey called life on this planet.
There is another thing which is part of our system and that is the soul.
The soul is the carrier for this body on this planet.
It is a regular visitor to this place and knows the ways and means to take you to the places you have come here for.
It knows what is right and wrong principally and guides you to follow that.
It knows for what you have come here and guides you in that direction.
It knows what you might regret at the end of the journey so it guides you in the direction where you will have minimum regrets.
All this is done through various signals our body gives through some tingly feeling in our heart or some uneasiness before a big decision or through that elusive thing called gut feeling which some of us have gotten hold of.
All of these signals come to us but the problem is that we are too burdened under the noise of this world that we keep on ignoring it until we fail again and again.
Some of us are fortunate enough to realize that we need to change our approach and start listening to what the heart, the soul says, and goes in that direction.
While most of us keep on following the same path as millions around us are doing the same thing so we believe that this is the way to live life.
Those, who decide to follow the path which they have decided for themselves and become their own guide face problems at every level.
But their biggest battle is with themself.
The same battle which you and I are facing all the time.
How do you convince yourself that what you are doing is the right way to do?
How do you find that voice within which goes against all the voices rising within you?
How do you find the courage to become your own guide?
By doing your SWOT Analysis
In the olden days, when the kings had to decide whether they have to go for war or offer friendship to a particular state, one of the considerations in the final decision was an honest view of their position against the enemy.
They would analyze the size of their army, their financial condition, the tactical position of their state, and overall political view of the surroundings to decide on the future course of action so that they know where do they stand.
When you want to take some decision about your life, and want to decide which dream you want to make your friend, which habit is your enemy, you need to take a third party view of yourself.
This would give you an idea about your strength, weaknesses, opportunities ahead of you based on your area of interest & talent, and threats in the direction of your dreams.
When you are clear about these things, it will give you the confidence to guide you in the direction you want to because then, you will know what is the best action forward for you given the result of that swot analysis.
By learning from the people who have guided themselves before you
You are not the first person in this world who is trying to become his own guide and you are not going to be the last one.
There are so many people in this world who have guided themselves in the direction they wanted and achieved what they stared for.
Learn from them, follow them, understand their mindset, their habits, their beliefs, their thought process for a decision and this will give you an idea of the decisions to be taken in your life.
This will give you confidence in your decisions because they are validated by the paths already followed by the successful people in this world.
By taking consistent action in the direction you want to go
Any big journey starts with a single step and multiple consistent steps after that.
A writer doesn’t write a novel in one day, an athlete doesn’t build that stamina in one day, & a director didn’t create that movie in one day.
All of them have taken the time to do that.
All of them were scared when they wanted to start, but the difference between them and others is that they started in spite of fear and they continued their work in spite of that fear and slowly that fear was taken over by the confidence when they continued the same work over and over again.
You can’t learn swimming by sitting at the shore, you need to get into the water, practice every day to have the courage to complete a lap in the swimming pool.
The same goes for life and your goals, take regular consistent action and before you know it, you will have the courage to guide you.
By believing in your abilities
Whatever you do, there will always be some people who will try to pull you down.
There will always be some doubters and haters, you can’t help them.
Your job is to keep believing in yourself no matter what you are, wherever you are.
It’s the people with that undying faith in their abilities who make wonders in this world otherwise this world is full of people with talents but lack of self-belief.
Having that self-belief in your abilities will somehow guide you in the directions which will make your work easier.
Final Thoughts
No one is born confident here. No one starts with that self-belief here.
All of us are either given that by someone or we built that on our own.
If it’s given to you by your family, you are blessed.
If it’s not, you are super blessed cause now you have the chance to create a life you want for yourself and the kind of courage and confidence you will get when you create yourself from scratch, it helps you to win any frontier of life.
So start with whatever you have in your hand, gather whatever you can, and start by first believing in yourself that you can be your own guide and rest everything will fall in place.