How do we get disappointed?

Summary

Disappointment arises from our high expectations clashing with the uncontrollable factors of reality.

Abstract

The article discusses the complex nature of human aspirations and the tendency to set high expectations for ourselves and others. Despite our ability to dream big and our efforts to control our destinies, many external factors, including luck, are beyond our influence. The article illustrates this through the example of a job interview where despite preparation, unforeseen circumstances like the interviewer's mood can lead to disappointment. It suggests that understanding the limits of our control and adapting to situations can mitigate feelings of disappointment.

Opinions

Human beings often have high expectations that are not always met due to a multitude of uncontrollable factors.
We tend to overestimate our ability to control outcomes, including our reactions and destinies.
Luck plays a significant role in our achievements, and many circumstances are outside our influence.
Setting high expectations can lead to disappointment when reality does not align with those expectations.
Adaptability is important in dealing with life's unpredictability and reducing the impact of disappointment.

How do we get disappointed?

We are complex human beings, we have dreams, desires, most of them are not unachievable but still, we have hopes and we want big things, we dream big. But most of the time we have high expectations about ourselves and about others.

And we think that even if we can not control others to act or do things the way we want them to be done we still think that we can control our reactions, our destiny. But here is not only what we can do, what can we achieve, but there are also so many factors that we need to take into consideration, the fact that luck plays an important role in everything that we do and most of them we are not in control of things. No matter how hard we work and wish for things to happen they just don’t happen.

Let’s think to the following scenario: we apply for a job, is a dream job, we wanted badly to have an opportunity to make a stand for it. And we go to the interview but due to all those emotions we are not ourselves to the interview and we do poorly or the person who interviews us is not in a good mood, he or she did not sleep well. So it was a matter of luck even if we are very well prepared for the job but due to this minor detail: lack of sleep everything went wrong.

And this why when we set high expectations we get disappointed but the disappointment happens because we did set some expectations which did not meet in reality because of n factors that can or can’t be because of us. So we should definitely be more aware that is not everything in our power to make things the way we want them to be, just adapt to everything that comes.