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desired directions, not force them or ourselves to achieve their goals instantly.</p><h1 id="2ec9">Your client might just need a good shake first</h1><p id="3ff2">If your client comes to you as a massive clump of cereal stuck in a box, there is no way you can pour it out. You will need to give the box a few good shakes first to loosen the clump before you can pour out the cereal.</p><p id="5245">Your session may be that perfect shake that was needed to loosen your client’s complex issue. It might not be completely resolved yet, but when the time is right, the loosened cereal flakes will be poured out so much more easily.</p><p id="33b6">When you work with a client with the highest intention, they will always leave with a different reference point. They may not have emptied all the cereal, but they have definitely benefited from a good shake!</p><h1 id="b193">What if your client only wants to reach a specific goal?</h1><p id="c768">Yes, there are many clients who only focus on achieving the goal and care less about the shifts along the way. They only want their cereal boxes to be fully emptied.</p><p id="b717">What we can do as coaches is to first gain their trust by helping them set the right expectations. For example, it is reasonable to expect that people who are completely new to swimming need more than 1 lesson to swim independently. Picking up a new skill requires time and practice. The student can start to gain water confidence in the first lesson so she will want to return for future swimming lessons.</p><p id="40bd

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">Similarly, it’s unrealistic to expect your clients to resolve all their issues within one coaching session. But they can expect to gain some new insights and feel more at ease to keep working on their unresolved issues.</p><p id="d775">If your clients trust you as their guide, they will definitely keep working with you to receive your guidance and support.</p><h1 id="f737">Learn to notice and celebrate your clients’ positive shifts</h1><p id="7845">As you continue to gain more experience in coaching, it gets easier for you to observe the subtle positive shifts in your clients’ progress from the way they speak differently or have different reactions to their challenges.</p><p id="371b">The purpose of having that ‘cereal box shake’ is so that your clients can start building new ‘muscles’ to work on their challenges bit by bit. Your role as the coach is to keep encouraging your clients to trust their own progress even when they can’t sense the subtle shifts in themselves.</p><p id="26de">Over time, your clients start to gain new perspectives in their everyday lives so they become much more well-equipped to co-create more positive realities for themselves.</p><p id="db8f">As an Emotional Mastery Coach, and a Master Trainer to train and certify heart-centered coaches, one of my deepest passions is in helping my fellow coaches gain more confidence and fulfillment in their coaching practices. I hope this is helpful to you and I wish you all the best in building a sustainable and satisfying coaching practice.</p></article></body>

How Coaching Is Like Giving Your Breakfast Cereal Box a Good Shake

Help your clients appreciate their journey

One of the common fears of heart-centered coaches is not being able to help their clients resolve their issues by the end of a single session. Is this one of your main fears as a heart-centered coach too? This puts so much unnecessary pressure on both you as the coach, and your clients!

I’m sure you’ll agree that life is never about this single instant when everything is fully resolved. Life is a continuous journey and every single point in that journey matters.

Right?

So where does this obsession with achieving our expected results come from?

Perhaps you’ve considered yourself a complete failure in the past, whenever you fail to:

Achieve full marks for all your exam papers.
Meet your team’s sales targets every quarter.
Have a 100% turn-up rate for every event you organize.

We can’t have this same all-or-nothing mindset for our coaching clients. We are here to empower our clients to help them progress in their desired directions, not force them or ourselves to achieve their goals instantly.

Your client might just need a good shake first

If your client comes to you as a massive clump of cereal stuck in a box, there is no way you can pour it out. You will need to give the box a few good shakes first to loosen the clump before you can pour out the cereal.

Your session may be that perfect shake that was needed to loosen your client’s complex issue. It might not be completely resolved yet, but when the time is right, the loosened cereal flakes will be poured out so much more easily.

When you work with a client with the highest intention, they will always leave with a different reference point. They may not have emptied all the cereal, but they have definitely benefited from a good shake!

What if your client only wants to reach a specific goal?

Yes, there are many clients who only focus on achieving the goal and care less about the shifts along the way. They only want their cereal boxes to be fully emptied.

What we can do as coaches is to first gain their trust by helping them set the right expectations. For example, it is reasonable to expect that people who are completely new to swimming need more than 1 lesson to swim independently. Picking up a new skill requires time and practice. The student can start to gain water confidence in the first lesson so she will want to return for future swimming lessons.

Similarly, it’s unrealistic to expect your clients to resolve all their issues within one coaching session. But they can expect to gain some new insights and feel more at ease to keep working on their unresolved issues.

If your clients trust you as their guide, they will definitely keep working with you to receive your guidance and support.

Learn to notice and celebrate your clients’ positive shifts

As you continue to gain more experience in coaching, it gets easier for you to observe the subtle positive shifts in your clients’ progress from the way they speak differently or have different reactions to their challenges.

The purpose of having that ‘cereal box shake’ is so that your clients can start building new ‘muscles’ to work on their challenges bit by bit. Your role as the coach is to keep encouraging your clients to trust their own progress even when they can’t sense the subtle shifts in themselves.

Over time, your clients start to gain new perspectives in their everyday lives so they become much more well-equipped to co-create more positive realities for themselves.

As an Emotional Mastery Coach, and a Master Trainer to train and certify heart-centered coaches, one of my deepest passions is in helping my fellow coaches gain more confidence and fulfillment in their coaching practices. I hope this is helpful to you and I wish you all the best in building a sustainable and satisfying coaching practice.