How Are You Wired?
Changing this one thing can change your life
What thoughts regularly circulate in your mind?
Are they positive or are they negative?
Are they empowering or disheartening?
When you are on the path of self-improvement these are important questions to ask yourself.
Sometimes it is so easy to get trapped in a vicious cycle of negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are so easy to feed and negative thoughts feed negative thoughts. In the same way, positive thoughts feed positive thoughts. So which one would you prefer?
Why are negative thoughts so much easier to think?
Have you ever been in a situation where it may have been fairly neutral, yet you seemed to only fixate on the negative? For example, getting feedback on your work. There may have been 12 out of 15 positive things said and maybe 3 negative points. Yet what is your mind most drawn to remembering? If it’s mainly the negative, you are not alone. This is what is called the negativity bias.
So what is negativity bias?
According to Verywell Mind it is:
The negative bias is our tendency not only to register negative stimuli more readily but also to dwell on these events. Also known as positive-negative asymmetry, this negativity bias means that we feel the sting of a rebuke more powerfully than we feel the joy of praise.
When we fall victim to negativity bias the lens in which we view the world becomes warped to fit this mindset.
The problem with this is, that continuously fixating on the negative will only make us feel like life is anything but good. We will overlook all the good that is happening in our lives, in favor of the bad.
Life is too short to think this way. We should be able to enjoy ourselves and not get hung up on the things that cause us to spiral.
Falling victim to this mindset only allows us to become more pessimistic and less likely to attract the positives in life. On the contrary, we will be a magnet for all things negative which will feed this continuous cycle.
Negativity bias is actually a very normal thing for our brains to experience, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we have to surrender to this way of thinking. We just have to learn to control it.
This is where I personally find journaling a great practice to help with that. Once you have written all the things down that bother you and you read them back, some may seem so minuscule that it becomes easier to move past them and bring our attention to the positives.
Talking your issues out with someone you trust also helps you to get things off your chest. The aim is to reduce fixation on the negatives and turn our attention to the positives. When we bring our attention to something we take its power away instead of letting it fester in the backs of our minds.
It also helps to make a note (mental or physical) of the positives too, so that you can refer back to when it feels like you are being overwhelmed by all the bad that is happening around you.
Controlling our minds gives us all the power to shape our experiences and how we view our lives.
There are people in the world that have everything anyone could ask for and they still don’t feel that their life is good. Then there are those who don’t have much but are so content with their lives that you can feel the happiness radiating off them. It is all about perspective.
Our minds are so powerful and once we learn to control the way we think and use the negativity bias to our advantage we can see our current circumstances in a whole new light.
