house smells of peppers, eyes burning…again

but my husband refuses to open the windows or turn on the vent. I had to leave the house with our son again. and then when I got home and he was in bed, I opened the sliding door, and downstairs windows, and opened all the windows in the guest rooms. he never cooks when me and our son is out, he seats on his ass watching tv or playing video games while I take our son out for enrichment activities. He gets up closes all the windows, sliding door and turns off the vent. So I decide to sleep in one of the guest rooms, lock the door, open the windows and have our soon sleep close to the window. It’s shit like this that makes me fuming mad because he can’t even be considerate of a child who can’t regulate where he is to avoid the strong smells of all the peppers he uses. And then he refuses to keep windows open because he sweats easily (an issue we’ve been dealing with for years that he refuses to see a doctor about to fix). I had to stand on the bed, close the vent in the room were sleeping in, turn on a small floor fan and get a cool rag to occasionally dab on my son’s eyelids in case they irritated him. I have no family here. If I could have flown home or had somewhere safe and judgement free to go, I would. I don’t even have the urge to scream in fights anymore. I just walk away because it’s pointless talking to someone so inconsiderate of everyone around them. Everybody has to suffer because you want peppers fumes in the house and suffocate because you require the house be freezing cold for you to sleep comfortable at night but don’t give a fuck about no one else comfort. Such a piece of selfish and controlling narcissistic piece of shit. I’ve been making the most strides possible to get back to being happier and healthier. I have a plan, it’s slow but I’m working through it and will do whatever I have to do to make sure my son doesn’t have to suffer through this again.