Here’s Why You Need To Look For Your Why

I recently started reading the book “Millionaire Success Habits” by Dean Graziosi and it mentioned an action to do that I had seen already but not dived in yet.

The Importance of the “7 Levels Deep Exercise”.

The task itself seems rather simple. It consists of asking “why” 7 times in a row on a certain goal. By doing this, it supposedly allows little by little to change your answers from your brain to your heart.

Through doing this, you can gain a better understanding of what brought you to start on a certain goal.

I read this about a week ago and hadn’t the opportunity to find someone to do it with until last night. While discussing with my girlfriend what next job she wanted to do, we started to analyze more and more what was important to her.

And without even thinking of it at the beginning, I started to dig deeper for her “why”. This being the very first time we worked on someone’s “why” seriously, we, unfortunately, could not find the final strong reason behind her goals.

Yet, we reached a different interesting point: the importance of other people’s eyes for her. No matter where we started from, how we got there, we just kept on going back to this point.

The exchange itself brought to light that this was important to her. While the reason is still not fully understood, this is a first step that will allow her to reflect more and understand herself even more.

On my side, it also provided me with great insights on the differences and similarities in mindset and thus pushes me to consider the reasons for those.

Obviously, as a French-Japanese couple, I believe a big part of the differences come from our upbringings in opposite cultures. But this clearly isn’t just it.

Why?

Why are we so similar yet different? Why are her goals what they are? Why are others’ opinions so important? Why was this exchange so moving and interesting for me too? Why did I wake up this morning thinking “I want to learn even more about her”?

So many why questions. So many things to discover. So much thirst for evolving even more.

I trust this process of learning is what makes us live.

So even if you try the 7 Levels Deep exercise and don’t “succeed” in finding the final “Why”, don’t obsess about it. Think about the process itself and see what you can take away from it.

Children in the “why” period, who keep on asking it make us tired. But the reason behind this is that they want to learn. They are searching for reasons, systems, an understanding of the world.

We, unfortunately, stop asking this question as we grow. The fear of looking stupid stops us from doing so and we start to stagnate in that regard.

All experiences help you grow. So go back to being a child and repeat again and again “Why”.