Here’s Why Having Enemies Can Be Healthy
Your enemy can be a blessing in disguise
“I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for their good intellects.”― Oscar Wilde
When you think about your enemies, what’s the first thought that comes to your mind? Of course, you feel raged and all you can think about are the miserable moments you have had with them.
Maybe the differences in opinions or characters created a line of friction between you two, and now, you both don’t even bother to smile at each other. Sounds dramatic yet familiar?
Nobody wants enemies, but what if I told you it’s not that bad to have a couple of enemies? Let’s take a look at a few points that portray how having enemies can be healthy.
You Become A Better Version of Yourself
When you compete against your enemies either in personal or professional lives, you will feel a sense of accomplishment outdoing them. No matter how small or big the achievement is, but you end up feeling a bit relaxed and more confident about yourself.
“To be successful you need friends and to be very successful you need enemies.” ― Sidney Sheldon, The Other Side of Midnight
Trying to push your limits and working beyond your potential can help you in being a better version of yourself. Sometimes, your enemy can be the only reason to keep you motivated until you finish your race.
They Bring Your Empathic Side Up
BTW, do you really have to be enemies? Sometimes, it can be due to confusion or just the wrong timing. Have you ever thought of reversing things and being allies again?
The whole point here is to try making an effort, communicate transparently, and bring things back to normal. Sometimes, a small effort can create a valuable relationship even with your enemy. Especially during these tough times, you should be more about love and positivity, right?
“Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
Either you will end up having one more friend in your life, or you’ll still be proud and relaxed since you kept your ego aside and tried taking the first step.
They Help You Emphasize on Positive Things
There are times when we forget to be grateful for positive things in life. We focus more on negativity than positivity. But is that healthy at all?
Having enemies in life gives us an opportunity to be thankful to the ones who really care for us. Sometimes, we focus so much on negative energies that we tend to forget about the positive ones. And, our enemies are just a reminder to that. Don’t they deserve our love for this at least?
“Behind every successful person lies a pack of Haters! I love my haters!” — Gloria Tesch
They Inspire You for Doing Self-Assessment
Enemies are rude, and they can stoop down to any level when it is about saying bad words about others. It’s their common trait to pull you down and talk bad behind your back. If they were to say really nice things about you, then they won’t have been your enemies today.
But do you really think they are just cooking things and whatever they say is totally wrong? The best thing to do is to take a pause for a while and analyze their statements. Try joining the dots and see where you are lagging behind.
“Learn to use the criticism as fuel and you will never run out of energy.”– Orrin Woodward
This will help you with self-reflection and offer you improvement opportunities to be a better person.
Enemies are the best people to have when it is about controlling your anger. Losing your mind over what your haters are saying is not worth it at all. So, why waste your precious time and energy on them? Why not solely focus on keeping yourself calm and train your mind to be normal when they are around?